hopes up, hopes down...a neverending cycle

[zilaras]

Let me know if this sounds familiar to anyone....

He starts looking at rings without any real prompting from me...this was about 2 months ago. He told me the ones he was looking at and then we looked at some together. However, he really hasn''t talked about rings since then...i have been the one who brought it up. I have no doubt in my mind that he will propose to me...but lately i have been feeling slightly sad/upset about it...as if it no longer has become a priority to him...

 

[MissErin]

::raises hand::

Yes I do understand and feel the same way at times. And to cope... I get busy!! Really busy!! hehe

 

[zilaras]

Thank you! Maybe I will find myself a nice long book to engross myself in

 

[MissErin]

Date: 1/12/2008 10:07:34 PM
Author: zilaras
Thank you! Maybe I will find myself a nice long book to engross myself in

hehe I know it dosen''t help much but its a good start - I think. hehe Either way, you can always come here and talk to the rest of us LsIW. We understand and can help in ways we use ourselves. The reality is that our boys have a plan and will evenually unfold it for our delight but until then we have to...

 

[orangemonster]

Date: 1/12/2008 9:07:04 PM
Author:zilaras
Let me know if this sounds familiar to anyone....


He starts looking at rings without any real prompting from me...this was about 2 months ago. He told me the ones he was looking at and then we looked at some together. However, he really hasn''t talked about rings since then...i have been the one who brought it up. I have no doubt in my mind that he will propose to me...but lately i have been feeling slightly sad/upset about it...as if it no longer has become a priority to him...

Hmmm... he ''could'' be doing more background work than you are aware of!

 

[designchica]

Yes, girl, i can relate!!!!! It''s diriving me crazy. Two weeks ago I was certain he was going to propose on our upcoming trip to Hawaii. Now, with the trip just four days away, I''m certain he is not going to propose. its a roller coaster!!!!

 

[zilaras]

Date: 1/13/2008 4:39:35 PM
Author: designchica
Yes, girl, i can relate!!!!! It''s diriving me crazy. Two weeks ago I was certain he was going to propose on our upcoming trip to Hawaii. Now, with the trip just four days away, I''m certain he is not going to propose. its a roller coaster!!!!

I try not to get my hopes up about a certain timeline or date. However, sometimes he says things that make me think it is going to happen soon. Like you I have a trip coming up as well...in about 2 months. I don''t want to believe it is going to happen then...because if it doesn''t i don''t want the vacation to be spoiled by my expectations....But it is sooo hard...

 

[This_Is_Amore]

I know EXACTLY what you mean! Ever since I accidentally found out he bought the ring, it''s been romantic gesture after romantic gesture, followed by no proposal. My birthday is in a few days, and he mentioned on his own that I''d better not be getting my hopes up...

A part of me thinks he might be like that other case referenced in a different thread- bought the ring because he found the right one, but no intentions of proposing for the next two years. It''s been really tough lately since SEVEN of my friends got engaged over the holidays! And one of our really good friends just asked BF to be his best man at their wedding in France in August, so we''ve been completely immersed in wedding plans lately. Just not ours

.

Hopefully both of our BFs are secretly scheming up very pleasant surprises to come soon!

 

[FrekeChild]

Ugh. We went ring shopping February of ''07 at his suggestion...And while there has been a little talk of it since then, not other real movement in that direction. I know how you feel about the priority thing, earlier this year he started talking about visiting a friend in Hawaii over the summer and that made me feel like total crap. How can he think about spending $700 on a flight instead of adding a few hundred of it to my "Bling Fund"? But I got over it. He''ll propose when he''s good and ready.

In other news he told me today that he wants to hurry up and get a job so we can have a puppy! Not that that means he''ll be able to graduate any faster but...still. He''s still thinking about the future with me in it and that''s what counts.

He''s been using my laptop since his PC broke a couple months ago, so every time he asks to use it, I put up a pic of a different ring that''s similar to what I want in an e-ring. That''s several times a day.

Occasionally I''ll put up w-rings for him and myself too because there are not many rings that are similar to what I want.

Once I surprised him by putting a PS3 up instead. The expression on his face was priceless.

 

[bee*]

I''d say that he''s working behind the scenes and trying to get the ring himself and plan the proposal. It takes time for them to do this so I wouldn''t bring it up with him yet. If he hasnt done it by May/June, then I''d probably mention it to him but at this stage I wouldn''t. Just try and keep busy until he pops the question.

 

[designchica]

Date: 1/13/2008 7:16:42 PM
Author: This_Is_Amore
I know EXACTLY what you mean! Ever since I accidentally found out he bought the ring, it''s been romantic gesture after romantic gesture, followed by no proposal. My birthday is in a few days, and he mentioned on his own that I''d better not be getting my hopes up...

A part of me thinks he might be like that other case referenced in a different thread- bought the ring because he found the right one, but no intentions of proposing for the next two years. It''s been really tough lately since SEVEN of my friends got engaged over the holidays! And one of our really good friends just asked BF to be his best man at their wedding in France in August, so we''ve been completely immersed in wedding plans lately. Just not ours

.

Hopefully both of our BFs are secretly scheming up very pleasant surprises to come soon!

Before my boss and her exhusband got engaged, he convinced her to sell her business whlie he did the same so that they could purchase a yacht and sail around South America for a year. She agreed to do so but under the conditions that he give her a bigger committment (because selling your business and leaving the country for a year is not something to take lightly). He agreed but they spent six months at sea before he proposed to her. Apparently he had the ring the entire time but was waiting for the right time to propose. I''m not sure why it took six months of beautiful sunsets at sea before he found the right moment but who knows what goes through these guys'' minds sometimes!!

 

[Keepingthefaith21]

I hear ya on this one! There was a point where my SO seemed really into looking for a ring. Not only did we sit and go through EVERY SINGLE RING on the Knoxx website one night (narrowing our likes and dislikes down to a few rings) but he was also willing to look at rings in show windows and even in a few stores. I really started to think that my proposal wasn''t far behind...

Then it seemed like his interest in the ring shopping died down and I was so upset. I thought it meant nothing was going on and allowed myself to become fearful that he had changed his mind about me. Now I realized he was using those opportunities to get ideas of what I like and want in a ring and that it seems he''s finally got an idea of what I would like. Since he insists on the entire ring purchase being his and only his responsibility, it makes sense that the browsing period is over and done with.

Besides, if he really has any doubts, I made sure to plaster a copy of my dream ring on the main menu of the Wii so he has a friendly little reminder

!

 

[tberube]

Date: 1/14/2008 3:52:57 PM
Author: Keepingthefaith21
I hear ya on this one! There was a point where my SO seemed really into looking for a ring. Not only did we sit and go through EVERY SINGLE RING on the Knoxx website one night (narrowing our likes and dislikes down to a few rings) but he was also willing to look at rings in show windows and even in a few stores. I really started to think that my proposal wasn''t far behind...


Then it seemed like his interest in the ring shopping died down and I was so upset. I thought it meant nothing was going on and allowed myself to become fearful that he had changed his mind about me. Now I realized he was using those opportunities to get ideas of what I like and want in a ring and that it seems he''s finally got an idea of what I would like. Since he insists on the entire ring purchase being his and only his responsibility, it makes sense that the browsing period is over and done with.


Besides, if he really has any doubts, I made sure to plaster a copy of my dream ring on the main menu of the Wii so he has a friendly little reminder

!

Hilarious. Was it the sapphire?

 

[zilaras]

Putting it on the wii...now that would be an excellent idea.

I want to hit myself in the head...
On Saturday he asked me to e-mail him the rings I had been looking at. Anyway I emailed them...and he mentioned that he had talked to his mom about the ring. So I reported back to him that I had sent him a sample of rings I liked..along with the ring I LOVED ( he is aware of what ring it is). I sometimes get nervous when talking about the engagment stuff ( or excited...especially when he is in the mood to talk about it), so there I am yammering away saying how I sent the ring link...and he starts to say " good, because i think i am going to..." however i am still blabbering on nervously and completely cut him off...never knowing what the ending to that sentence was...

sigh