how can there be any romace when we have been married 5 years?

[Jaz]

Hello Rockers,

My husband wants to present me my new wedding ring ( it will be ready in about 3-4 weeks) in a romantic way. So far all we have come up with is we drive to the jewlery store, the sales lady retrieves it and shows it to me, and I put it on.

Very romantic, eh?

*Any* and all ideas as to how to put some romance into the experience would be *greatly* appreciated!

cheers,

Jaz

 

[websailor]

At very least, go on a vacation (even a weekend mini-vacation) somewhere! Go to a B&B. Look up on the web something like "The most romantic Inns in [fill in your area]".

Book a cruise and have him present it then. (Take a look at our Who's Who thread - probably about page 8 or 9 for the Tahiti pics - see if that locale doesn't spur some romantic ideas.)

Go to your local bookstore and get a book about romance in marriage...

 

[Jaz]

Those sound like great ideas. Unfortunately my husband has used up all his vacation days taking care of me after I had surgery, and we have used up any extra money on the ring--so cruises and the like are out.

The other thing that makes it hard on a romantic "delivery" is that we pick up the pave band at one jewlers and have to take it to another jewlers to see if the stone we have chosen looks good with the setting. So I''ll have to see it in stages.

I was hoping for a romantic delivery (when he gives it to me)--but I will already have tried it on and everything

Is there no hope for romance for us? We had to sell our origional wedding set due to finances--this is our big "do-over" chance.

Help please anyone!

cheers,
Jaz

 

[aljdewey]

Romance does not have to cost a lot of money.

Where do you live in the country? If it''s warm, how about pack a picnic lunch and go to the park.....spend an afternoon on a blanket under a tree.

Do you live near the ocean? How about sitting on the beach at sunset, watching the waves come in?

What about a nice candlelight dinner at home with nice music on the stereo and dancing close in the middle of your living room? (If kids, see if the grandparents can pick up duty for the night).

If you can''t get a sitter, how about sitting on the back porch after the kids go to bed, holding hands and picking out stars?

Keep it simple....the basics are usually the best.

 

[MichelleCarmen]

Maybe after your ring is completed, your husband can hold onto it for a few days and then the two of you can have a romantic picnic somewhere like the beach (if you live in a coastal state) or by a lake and he can then present you your new ring.

If you don''t think this would work, still have him hold onto the ring and ask him to surprise you with it when you least expect him to!

 

[treysar]

Wow - a man that gave up his vacation days to take care of you while you were sick, and spent the little he had left on jewlery for you - now that is what I call ROMANTIC!!

You are one lucky girl!!

TEll him you want him to plans something romantic, and I bet he will do just fine on his own!! It looks liek he''s doing pretty good already!

 

[moremoremore]

Jaz- I think my husband almost hated me just a lil''bit by the time my upgrade was complete. I sure as heck wasn''t going to ask for romance...him not killing me with his bare hands was romance enough...oh yeah and paying for it was pretty romantic if you ask me Hehehe

 

[codex57]

Any backyard? Your husband could do a picnic in your backyard. Doesn''t even have to cook. Could just order out and then place it on plates and stuff and eat it in the backyard. Get some candles. Etc.

 

[birdgirl]

hi Jaz,
I''ve been married 5+ years too!
Some of the most romantic things for me have been surprises.
For example, I loved when my husband picked me up from work--usually he gets off of work hours after I do. Or he snuck my favorite candy bar into my car at night for me to find it in the morning.

Your husband could make a scavenger hunt for you--with clues from your past dates or romantic moments. My clues were located in a library, a candy store, a scenic point on a mountain and finally led to an airport locker where my present was safely waiting...

 

[mrssalvo]

Jaz,
my hubby and I are going on 5 years and I am in the process of getting an e-ring upgrade. I have wondered this too. Because I will know all about it, even pick it out, and probably place the order, how will it be a surpise??? We decided to go out to dinner the night it''s done (b/c i couldn''t leave it up to him to surpise me...the wait would surely do me in), that way we have nice dinner, he presents the finished product of the ring, which will be a surpise since i have yet to see it. we both win, he gets a good steak and i get my precious baubles

 

[fire&ice]

My hubby proposed again - saying the same thing down on one knee. It was really sweet. Maybe you can give him the ring and ask him to make a surprise proposal. It doesn''t have to be expensive or elaborate.

 

[Carey]

Romantic dinner... nice bottle of wine.... a long walk holding hands at dusk, or an evening at home with candles, roses and Nat King Cole.... Come on - YOU can think of inexpensive romantic settings! You guys really haven''t been married that long! Maybe you can drive someplace with a view and tell each other why you''re glad you''re married to each other! Enjoy!!

 

[lost on 5th]

no matter how many times you have seen it.... or tried it on. there is still something special when it is given to you......put on your finger.... to keep. i agree with everything mentioned above.

when it comes down to it. i think it is the moment.. the unexpected gesture.... the little thing you didnt expect.... that makes something romantic. trips and fancy dinners are nice, but i perfer the little things. coming home to the soft light of candels everywhere..... favorite soft jazz cd playing.....maybe a bottle of wine and 2 glasses on the table..... sitting next to a vase of flowers. to me something like that has more meaning.

i am sure you will find something that is right

 

[fire&ice]

I''m the same way. It really is just the little things that makes you know you are loved. Hubby wrapped up a framed picture he took of me on the day he first proposed 20 years ago. I''d forgotten about it; but, it was such a romantic gesture.

 

[websailor]

Aaahhh, ok, plan B is is, just as many people have suggested.

If you want some inspiration, check out how chellebelle got her ring/proposal....the image of her popping ballons with her crutch is great!

As everyone else said, try to find a way to blank out the facts that you will have seen and tried on your ring - just like when adults go to Disneyland, the inwardly revert back to being kids. Let you husband make it a suprise for you....