How did you meet?

[Scooba]

I thought this might be fun to do, I look around to see if this has been done before and I know the question has been asked but I didn''t see any polls, I thought it would be fun to see in a poll where most of us met our SOs (don''t yell at me if you guys have already done this I''m still new here). I am also amazed by how many people met online, I don''t know anyone who has done that so I just wanted to see in comparison how many of us met our SOs different places!

 

[Mara]

we met at a bar and through friends...my friend had a bf who belonged to a rowing club and she said some of the guys were CUTE and after they all rowed they went out to this bar/pub for dinner and drinks, so i tagged along the next time she went, and whala, there he was. we flirted down the table and the rest was history.

 

[Blenheim]

We met through friends while at college. Since we go to different colleges and probably wouldn''t have met each other if it weren''t for that friend, I voted for meeting through friends.

 

[indecisive]

We met at a college party but I could only vote one. Not the most romantic but it turned out ok

 

[ephemery1]

I voted for "through friends", since he was a friend of a friend of a friend... but technically we met at a bar. It was a random Thursday night and my friend called and said "come on, we''re right down the street, just come out for a little"... and I distinctly remember thinking "well why not, maybe there''ll be an interesting guy there..."

And there was!

(Although part 2 of the story is that we talked the whole night, but then I got freaked out and thought maybe he liked me more than I liked him, so when he asked for my number I hedged and said "welllll, I''m sure I''ll see you around...." Next time I saw him was at the same bar on Valentine''s Day a week later... and after watching a whole flock of drunk annoying girls hitting on him for the first half of the night, I rightfully claimed what I''d decided was meant to be mine... and the rest is history!

)

 

[sunkist]

We met at college in the dorms. He lived a few doors down from me.

 

[Scooba]

We met at a college party too, but I counted it as college. It was a frat party the night I got my bid from my sorority, and mine was not romantic either, mine was embarrassing, but funny now, I knew who he was and had seen his picture (he''s a football player), and his friend wanted me to meet him so I agreed and I asked for his autograph and he asked for my phone number. I like that we both remember the very first time we saw each other, he said my eyes got huge

!

 

[marvel]

His ex-wife backed into my car in a parking lot. He paid for the damage cuz he didn't want her filing an insurance claim. They were going through a divorce at the time. It was about a year or so before we started dating, but that's how we initially met

 

[Kaleigh]

We met in college. One of my best friend''s told me about a party that was off campus and that there was a great guy who wanted to meet me. I didn''t want to go, had just broken up with my boyfriend, but she begged me to go. The rest is history, we met and have been together ever since. We celebrate our 20th wedding anniversary this September.

 

[nicolejrx]

Eharmony! Worked for us!
Nicole

 

[KristyDarling]

Introduced by mutual friends. At a bar.

 

[Dandi]

Well I voted through friends, but it was sort of a combination of that and online. My best friend met my FH in an online chatroom and since he lived in the same city as us they decided to meet for coffee... they were both nervous so he brought a mate of his and she brought me along for company!!

My friend and FH were and still are good friends but never fancied each other romantically... but he and I hit it off from the word go. Kind of like fate! We sometimes still have coffee at the waterfront cafe where we met

 

[Mara]

the funny thing is that i always hear that the best way to meet a 'great guy' is through mutual friends. whether it's at a bar or a setup or a party or whatever, supposedly that is the 'best' way...according to who, who knows. i guess the idea is that your friends know you and if they know this other person etc then they can 'weed' out the losers so that you can hopefully hit it off more easily with people?

 

[monarch64]

These responses are always so fun to read! I would like to add that I met my now husband on an out of town date with another guy! This date and I had been going out for less than a month when he asked me to go to Chicago (we both lived in Indy) to see a White Sox game and spend the weekend there, two weeks after I met him. I agreed, and we continued to see each other but by the time the actual date rolled around I had made up my mind that I didnt'' want to see him anymore-he was not the right person for me. Reservations had been made, tickets paid for, etc., so I halfheartedly went anyway. On the way there, he was driving my car and got lost (which upset me to no end--I hate that!)

and by the time we got to our hotel and checked in I was seriously in need of a beer. The gal at the desk asked us if we wanted a king or two queens, to which I replied "two queens," and that was pretty much that.

We went to the room, and I suggested we go out for a drink. Neither of us had a clue as to where to go besides the hotel lounge, but we changed clothes and went walking down the street looking for someone who could tell us where the hot spots were. The guy I was with did absolutely nothing to take initiative (which made me lose any inkling of respect for him altogether) so I found a horse-drawn carriage and asked the owner her recommendations. A block east later, we stood on the corner of Michigan Ave. and I pointed to a bar across the street and said "we''re going there!"

We went in, ordered a drink, and stood there for a few minutes in silence, when lo and behold, in walked two men...one of whom was so tall I met eyes with him across the crowd, and I''ve been smitten ever since.

The friend he was with started talking to my date, giving me and my DH an out to spend a little time getting to know each other. We then decided that all 4 of us should go to a bar that stayed open until 4 a.m. While we were at that bar, my DH''s friend met my date in the men''s room and told him "obviously these two have something going and you don''t, so maybe it''s best you cut your losses." I know, it sounds horrible. It was horrible for a minute, but he did make the decision to leave and went back to Indy the very same night.

I watched the sun rise with my newfound love on North Avenue Beach, the very same place we later became engaged, and spent the rest of the weekend with him...it was definitely the beginning of a beautiful friendship!

Btw: the date who left married my MOH''s best friend shortly after and is now very happily married, so fate worked out well for all involved.

 

[indecisive]

Ok, we met at a party, in college, and through a mutual friend. His fraternity brother was trying to go out with me but I just wanted to be friends so we went to a party with a couple other people and my guy was there. I beat him in beer pong and the rest is history

I really like all these stories!

 

[fire&ice]

Blind date set up by lifelong friends.

Also, my best friend was getting married and as a matter of convenience I invited him to some of the functions. We had the same interests & loved to laugh - the rest is history.

 

[dani13]

Brian and I met at a bar. The funny thing is that he was supposed to meet the girl he was dating there, and last minute she backed out because she had a lot of schoolwork to do. So he just ended up going with his guy-friends.

And I was so tired from working all day, if there was ever a night I did not feel like going out, this was it. My girlfriend dragged me out-literally.

He saw me first, started talking to me, and I was like, "who is this guy?" Well, I did end up giving him my number, and he called me a few days later. Believe it or not we ended up dating for 6 months, then broke it off for a bit. Then a few months later we ended up hooking up again for good, and we have been together ever since.

It is crazy how fate really steps in...and our story is a classic example of how timing is really everything. He was always so good for me, but the first time we dated it was like the timing was off. Neither of us were ready for a serious relationship. But the second time we dated, we were in for it for the long haul.

So interesting and fun to read all of the "how we met" stories. I love them!

 

[AsscherGirl]

I met my now-fi through my brother - when I was 3! They were in the same kindegarten class & our moms became friends. That meant that me & his brother were dragged along on all their play dates. We did a lot of stuff together that year - went to the Six Flags Drive-Thru Safair, Wild West City, many many trips to Burger King, went trick-or-treating together (I was a ballerina, he was a GI Joe), etc. They redistricted our town & fi & my brother ended up at different elementary schools and eventually drifted appart.

Fast forward to my freshman year of high school (his junior year)....we were both in band & had to attend band camp (hold your jokes!)....I knew who he was, but wasn''t sure if he realized who I was, so I went up to him and said, "hey, do you remember who I am?" And he says, "Of course, you are P''s little sister". I said, "Hey, I have a name!" (I hated being referred to as someone''s little sister!). We became good friends after that. I dated one of fi''s friends that year, and when we broke up, Fi picked up the pieces. He started taking me to lunch & we hung out all the time & then we finally became a couple. We went to the same college, both moved home after graduation & 6.5 years later, we bought a townhouse & got engaged

Marvel - I can''t believe your story - that is true twist of fate!

 

[jesterjigger]

We met at work, we''re in the same squadron and hung out after work a few times in a group setting and then emailed each other constantly throughout the day. But I was seeing someone (complete jerk) and he had a crush on someone and I was worried that he wouldn''t like me as much as the crush he had before we started hanging out. So he dated her for a few months and my bf and I broke up, then his gf went away for med school and they broke up, then one night we went to the bar together with some friends, had dinner, I got wasted, he got wasted, we got more wine to drink back at his place while watching Shrek 2 (he''d just bought it) and then while we were watching I made my move. Fortunately he felt the same way, though it was weird repeating the date sober, lol. Much more awkward, which was hilarious in it''s own way.

Of course, the funniest thing about our relationship is letting it out that we''re together. We kept it completely under wraps for a few months, and didn''t really come out until after we''d been dating for a year (he''d been deployed for 8 months of that time) and everyone reacted with complete shock and disbelief...I think because I''m a little more of a girly girl and he''s a lot more of a guy''s guy (without the sports and computer games). Most people thought we were joking when we told people we were dating.

 

[anchor31]

There was another thread like this started not long ago... Have fun!

https://www.pricescope.com/community/threads/how-did-you-meet-your-so.43046/

 

[Scooba]

Anchor- I saw that, it''s not a poll though, I want to make a poll for comparison.

Monarch- your story is crazy, very cool

Danielle- how CUTE!

 

[SoonIHope]

ETA: SO SO LONG! Sorry!!!!

When I went away to college, I knew absolutely no one and went on a pre-orientation camping trip where I befriended a girl who would later become my best friend. A few weeks after classes started, she confessed that a guy she knew from high school (who went to another college) had a crush on her and wanted to come visit her. She said she didn't think she was really interested because she thought of him as more of a friend, but was a bit undecided so she had me talk to him a bit on IM and on grabbing the phone from her a little when she was talking to him, etc. We hit it off pretty quickly, but I was entirely thinking of him as a potential suitor for HER so it never occurred to me for me to think about him that way. I actively encouraged her to date him because he seemed so great.

So a few weeks later he came down to the city to visit her (& his family) and we met! We got along really well and the three of us had a great time chatting about everything (and the two of us planned a trip around the world together to take some day) and he SWEARS that that very first day, even though he was still interested in my friend, he thought, "wouldn't it be weird if I ended up marrying her?" [meaning me].

So yeah, I kept telling her how awesome he was and how she should date him, but her heart just wasn't in it so they remained good friends, and he and I also started talking on IM a lot more without her as mediator etc. We eventually started dating a few months later (and my friend could not have been happier for us) but he seemed to like me SO MUCH that it just kind of freaked me out, so after 4 months long distance (he visited a bunch though) I called it off. He was heartbroken and would tell my friend how miserable he was and how much he missed me how mad it made him to hear that I was talking to some other guy, etc, and I got a little freaked out so we stopped talking altogether a month or two after we broke up. But we still got regular little updates on each other from my friend, and I repeatedly told her to make sure he was dating other people and not thinking about me!!!!

Two years pass in which we both date other people, he stops being jealous about me and my friend keeps telling me what's going on with him and I'm thinking hmmm he was a pretty nice guy.... [This story is getting a lot longer than I intended, sorry!] I ended up really falling for this random other guy and it seemed like everything was going perfectly and then he broke up with me with NO warning at all and it really screwed me up. I was depressed about it for a while and one thing I kept coming back to is how could he knowingly inflict this upon me if he had ever cared about me at all? At which point I guiltily remembered my freshman year experience...and started feeling really bad about breaking up with him with essentially no warning. Now I understood that he really wasn't being psycho to be upset after I broke up with him!

Hehe. And I started thinking about how he really was the nicest guy and so cool and great and wonderful and he would never have done something like that to me because he really cared about me blah blah blah and just thinking I was the worst person ever for the way I treated him. So I ended up IMing him one night, and apologizing for all that, and then we just had THE MOST natural fun easy conversation ever, after not having spoken for over two years!! I was so relieved and we ended up becoming good friends again overnight. BUT I was still a little wary...so I said to him (& to my friend to make sure he got the message) that I was NOT interested in dating him again, I just wanted to be friends. This worked great for a while and I dated someone else (who treated me horribly) and he sort of dated someone too while we were friends. Then after things with that guy ended in a huge huge mess, I was again thinking...hmmmmmmm he is just so nice and wonderful and cool and great and would never treat me like that....and this time it started really sticking in my brain. But we were already really good friends again by this point and my WORST FEAR EVER was that I would initiate dating again and he would have a really hard time learning to trust me again and then I would break his heart AGAIN. So I resisted for a really long time, but then, almost a year after we started talking again, confessed! BUT then I started having crazy second thoughts that what if I did end up wanting to break up with him, I couldn't do that to him again...and almost cut it off right at the beginning so that we wouldn't REALLY break up later, but my friends just yelled at me a lot that I was being an idiot, and he was SOOOOOOOO GREAT about the whole thing, explaining that he thought it was worth the risk and if he was willing to, then why should I be worried, so we started officially dating in October 2002! The second I let myself be happy in that relationship, everything was instantly 100% perfect in every way and I just KNEW that we would be together forever by like the 3rd day we were together. Less than 6 months later we moved in together (after graduation) and we've been together ever since! Got engaged Christmas 2005, and we're getting married June 23, 2007 and I have never been happier!

I'm just sooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo grateful that he was able to trust me again even though I didn't think I could trust myself.

Oh, and that original friend is our maid of honor of course!

 

[Mandarine]

How funny...the poll responses almost look like a normal distribution!!!!....I know that sounds VERY nerdy...hahaha...but it''s just ind of what I do for living and just happenned to notice that!....

A "Normal Distribution" looks like a bell curve (so if you look at it tilting your head, you''ll see it)....and most of the responses are in the middle...and then start getting spread out.
Kind of funny how that worked out....I swear I''m not a nerd though!

 

[Selkie]

I was noticing the same thing, Mandarine, but then I''m in science...and kind of a nerd too.

 

[Selkie]

I guess since I''m chiming in about the poll results, I''ll tell my story too. I moved to LA in January 2000 from the east coast, and soon started volunteering for a group that takes inner city kids sailing on tall ships. A friend I met through the group took me along with her to a "surprise" birthday party that was actually a surprise wedding, for two people I had JUST met that day! She also gave J, my FI, a ride to the party, and we discovered we were both biologists who love sailing, which was cool. However, at the time he was dating this absolute psycho (he was besotted, though, and didn''t realize it). Oddly, I remember that even though at that point I had no romantic interest, I thought "That is going to end badly." Which it did, several months later. I only ran into him a couple times while volunteering during that period, with nothing happening on either end.

Fast forward to summer that year, when we met again on one of the boats, and I heard the sad story. Even though I thought he was a great guy, and very cute, I had all sorts of warning signals going off. But as we started sailing together more, and hanging out in a group, I began to feel more and more interested. Still being cautious, I didn''t make a move until we were hanging out a New Year''s Eve costume party (again, on a tall ship), when I strategically positioned myself near him at midnight. We kissed, and the rest is history. Appropriately enough, we are getting married on a ship.

 

[anchor31]

Date: 4/28/2006 2:22:07 PM
Author: Diamonds are Hot!
Anchor- I saw that, it''s not a poll though, I want to make a poll for comparison.

Oh ok... In that case, long story short: I met him through my brother, who met him through his ex, who met him through her cousin, who met him in the army.

My brother invited my boyfriend to his New Year''s party in January 2003. My boyfriend saw a picture of me in my brother''s apartment and asked him "who the pretty girl in the picture was".

So my brother introduced us.

 

[Rhapsody]

We met in high school.

Our freshman year he was dating this girl I REALLY didn''t like and figured he must be a retard to be dating this chick for so long

We didn''t have a class together until our sophmore year (unusual for IB) but we hit it off, over a shared love of crappy RPGs on the calculator. We were friends all through junior year and started "officially" dating a few weeks before the end of the year.

I NEVER really thought a high school relationship could work long term, but somehow it has. And I''m sure glad for it!

 

[FireGoddess]

Date: 4/28/2006 12:52:54 AM
Author: KristyDarling
Introduced by mutual friends. At a bar.

Ditto. Although the mutual friend had only become a friend of mine earlier in the day.

 

[Scooba]

Date: 4/28/2006 6:57:27 PM
Author: Rhapsody
We met in high school.


Our freshman year he was dating this girl I REALLY didn''t like and figured he must be a retard to be dating this chick for so long

We didn''t have a class together until our sophmore year (unusual for IB) but we hit it off, over a shared love of crappy RPGs on the calculator. We were friends all through junior year and started ''officially'' dating a few weeks before the end of the year.


I NEVER really thought a high school relationship could work long term, but somehow it has. And I''m sure glad for it!

What''s IB and what are RPGs on the calculator?

 

[Rhapsody]

Date: 4/28/2006 7:37:03 PM
Author: Diamonds are Hot!

Date: 4/28/2006 6:57:27 PM

Author: Rhapsody

We met in high school.



Our freshman year he was dating this girl I REALLY didn't like and figured he must be a retard to be dating this chick for so long

We didn't have a class together until our sophmore year (unusual for IB) but we hit it off, over a shared love of crappy RPGs on the calculator. We were friends all through junior year and started 'officially' dating a few weeks before the end of the year.



I NEVER really thought a high school relationship could work long term, but somehow it has. And I'm sure glad for it!

What's IB and what are RPGs on the calculator?

Opps, sorry, I suck! Most of my close friends are from high school so I forget not everyone I know has the lingo down

IB is a structured advanced program, Advanced Placement level classes so that you can earn college credit. All the students take almost the exact same classes (we got to choose our foreign language and whether you wanted to take physics, biology or chemistry) and there was only 100 people so you had at least one class with pretty much everyone in the program each year.

RPGs are role playing games (e.g. final fantasy, legend of zelda)

and to make it even dorkier we played them on our over priced graphing calculators. We had to have something to do while we pretended to learn calculus