How do I get through to my cousin?!?

[robbie3982]

So, I was just talking to my cousin (3rd cousin?) who is a junior in college. I noticed on his facebook profile that his relationship status says "it''s complicated" so I asked him about it. He said it''s complicated because she''s catholic and he''s jewish. FI is catholic and it''s not a problem at all for us because neither of us is religious. My cousin is very religious, so I asked about his gf. He said she went to catholic school, but hated it and isn''t religious. I told him that I didn''t see the problem then and he said that he really wants to marry a woman with a strong jewish background. Religion isn''t important to me, but I guess I can see his side since he is very religious and in the jewish religion (other than reform), children born to non-jews even if their father is jewish aren''t considered jewish.

So, he goes on to tell me that they''ve been together for 3 years, but he can''t possibly marry her, but doesn''t want to break up with her because he loves her. I asked if she knew that he doesn''t want to get married and he said no! I told him that he needs to be honest with her very soon, but I don''t think I got through to him.

How do I help him see that it''s so unfair to her to not let her know??? This poor girl could be someone on this board sitting around waiting for him to propose in the near future!

 

[firebirdgold]

I''ve had several friends who''ve happily converted to Judaism for their husbands. If they are very serious and she knows how important it is to him, I have a feeling she''s already thought about it. Perhaps that''s an area he can sound her out on first?