How do I keep from going crazy?!?!

[sadie123]

Last week I went by myself at my boyfriends request to pick out a diamond and a setting. I know a great jeweler who go me a terrific price. So I went in there and picked everything out and tried it on to see what it would look like and I''m in love. It was painful leaving that store empty handed let me tell you. Well, my boyfriend went to put a deposit on the ring (he doesn''t want to put it on a credit card, he wants to make payment until it''s paid off) and I''ve been obsessing about it ever since! I keep looking at my hand imagining it there and lurking on these forums and bascially going nuts. I also have a feeling he won''t be able to finish paying if off for at least a couple of months. How do I chill and not think about the ring so much! I feel like going to the store to "visit" it once a week! I feel like a littlel kid waiting for Christmas the day after Halloween!

 

[snuga]

Join the LIW club sadie!! I have no great advice on how to be patient because I am nearing the end of my patience rope, but just try to enjoy this time as much as you can.. it will only happen once and you don''t want to spend it stressing out!! Meanwhile, maybe you can tell us about your ring and vent here when you need a place to talk. either way, if you only have a few months to wait, that is great!! your ring will be on your finger before you know it!!

 

[Fancy605]

Yay for a new LIW.

Don''t stress too much because you have VERY good news and that is that your b/f has put a deposite on a ring that he wants to use to propose to you with! Try to think of it less as waiting and more as looking forward to something fabulous. You will only get to have the excitement of looking forward to your engagment to this guy once. I know it is not easy to wait, but i am SURE that it will be well worth the wait. If you''re this excited now, just THINK how extatic you''ll be once the day finally arrives. And in the mean time, you can come post zillions of pre-enagement related messages to this forum where dozens of us are in the same boat with you.

 

[Fancy605]

I wanted to add that I think it is very sensible of your b/f to pay off the ring in full rather than charging it. My b/f is planning to do the same thing--excpet he is saving up so he can pay upfront (He''ll be too impaitient once he''s chosen the ring to wait to have it in his possession).

 

[sadie123]

Thanks. I know, I''ve very excited, that''s why I''m going so crazy. I actually offered to pay this months rent so he would have a little extra money!

I''m such a dork.
Ok, the ring is very simple, but so pretty (to me anyway)
GIA
1.31c RB center stone
F
SI2-eye clean
Ideal cut
No FL

the setting is in white gold and has 3 little diamonds forming the shape of a triangle on each side. (like the trillion shape)
I love it!

 

[firebirdgold]

Ok, this is a really naughty suggestion....

Pre-plan the wedding!
It''ll keep you from obsessing too much, although the big challenge is keeping it from him.

My fi was pleasantly surprised at how I had ideas and location suggestions for all of our possibilities. He starts thinking about getting married locally, and lo and behold! I already have a list of the best places locally to get married including decoration ideas!

Of course, he was surprised and impressed. Right up until he started opening drawers thinking about where to put his stuff and discovered a stash of bridal **** dating from December! opps.

Thank God he never discovered the Groom''s handbook I bought for him last May!!

 

[Fancy605]

Date: 7/24/2006 4:50:45 PM
Author: sadie123
Thanks. I know, I''ve very excited, that''s why I''m going so crazy. I actually offered to pay this months rent so he would have a little extra money!

I''m such a dork.

Wow! That sounds gorgeous! One of my friends has a ring set with the 3 diamonds on each side forming a triangle, and hers is one of the most lovely I have seen. It is a very chic look, I think.

And don''t feel silly! I am in your same boat as I have actually been offering to pay for a lot of dates with my b/f recently since I know he''s saving $ for a ring! (wow, typing that out makes me toooo giddy)

 

[staceybelle]

"I feel like going to the store to ''visit'' it once a week!"

I''ve done this. We picked out a ring at a local B&M that just happens to have a store down the street from my office. I went in one day at lunch, told them I wanted to make sure it was "still the one," and they indulged me for a good half hour while I tried on "the one" and others (including a $21,000 Daniel K. Asscher with a tiny, tiny shank and three-sided pave, OMG). I can categorically say it was the best lunch break I''ve ever taken.

I think that''s a confession only other LIWs would understand.

 

[robbie3982]

Sadie, we''re in the exact same boat! My honey has my ring on layaway so we can''t get it until it''s all paid off. I have visited it once (almost again today, but I stopped myself) and am on here constantly looking at other people''s rings and reading other people''s stories. I''m always staring at my hand imagining what it will look like on my finger when it''s there permanently. I even found a PSer who has a ring that looks very much like mine and look at her pictures of it (a lot

).

I''d help you out with the patience part, but unfortunately I have none. I''ve asked my honey about 30 times today if he''s sure that he doesn''t really have the ring hidden somewhere in the apartment and that he doesn''t want to give it to me now.

 

[sadie123]

this is soooo funny. i really was starting to worry about myself! i feel much better now that i know so many others are in the same boat as me!

we are planning a september 2007 wedding, (we seem to be doing things backwards) and the idea about starting to plan everything sounds like a good idea! maybe i''ll start researching the receptions halls...

 

[Fancy605]

yeah preplanning is a great idea. You could also start making your guest list so you know how big of a reception site to look for.

 

[sk8rjen]

A couple of weeks ago -- to aleve some of the pressure of the stress of WAITING, I pulled out a alendar and suggested we pick our date -- we''d already decided on a month b/c I had already researched the best times to visit Hawaii (which is where we decided to get married) -- we did things backwards too! And it helped to have that to take my mind off of the wait. Plus, last week I went dress shopping (he even knew about it)! Best of luck-- we''re all here for you (I''m going over to BIW too!)

jen

 

[sadie123]

well, i took the advice to start planning the wedding a little. i''m torn between some dates though.
sept. 22, 29 or oct. 7, 13. i would love a mid-october wedding but i''m afraid about it being "bad luck" to get married on the 13th of the month. any thoughts on this matter?

 

[sk8rjen]

I like my numbers to mean something to (and I''m not alone -- TONS of couples are getting married on 7-7-07!) I''m getting married on the 11th of April b/c I like the number 11. I like 13 also, but that''s just me...if you don''t like it, or if you are worried b/c of any superstitions at all, I''d say don''t so it then. But if it''s not THAT big of a deal, I think you''ll find you won''t be thinking about the number that much when you have everything else tothink about!

jen

 

[firebirdgold]

If you''re going to worry even a little about getting married on the 13th then don''t go there. People are funny about numbers. My fi got all enthused about getting married on dates that had some special mathmatical signifigance.

 

[Fancy605]

Date: 7/25/2006 4:59:13 PM
Author: sk8rjen
I like my numbers to mean something to (and I''m not alone -- TONS of couples are getting married on 7-7-07!)

My bf thinks that would be a pretty cool date. But--we''ll see.

 

[anchor31]

Ooooh... Welcome!!

I know how you felt, believe me! My new fiancé and I went to pick out the ring together on May 27th, it was ready on June 22nd and he got the last of the money to pick it up on July 14th... I swear I was driving myself insane, imagining the ring on my finger too, everything! I was very lucky that he proposed right after picking it up on the 14th!

What helped me was that I had tons of school stuff to do, a new summer job and finding an apartment. All that was pretty stressful in itself and kept my mind off the ring for some time. So, my advice is to get busy!

Good luck!

 

[orangegeek]

Date: 7/24/2006 4:25:18 PM
Author:sadie123
I keep looking at my hand imagining it there and lurking on these forums and bascially going nuts.

I keep doing the same thing!!! I have to be careful because I caught myself doing that at my mom''s house, but luckily she was in the other room.

Your ring sounds really beautiful. Congrats.

 

[BlackDiamond21]

Date: 7/24/2006 5:08:19 PM
Author: IndieJones
Ok, this is a really naughty suggestion....

Pre-plan the wedding!
It''ll keep you from obsessing too much, although the big challenge is keeping it from him.

My fi was pleasantly surprised at how I had ideas and location suggestions for all of our possibilities. He starts thinking about getting married locally, and lo and behold! I already have a list of the best places locally to get married including decoration ideas!

Of course, he was surprised and impressed. Right up until he started opening drawers thinking about where to put his stuff and discovered a stash of bridal **** dating from December! opps.

Thank God he never discovered the Groom''s handbook I bought for him last May!!

You are HILLARIOUS!!! I SO SECOND THAT SUGGESTION... I mean what harm can it do?

You''ll just be very "pre-pared". lol

 

[sadie123]

ok, now i''m officially out of control. not only have i been researching reception halls, but i''ve bought a dress. i wasn''t planning on it, but a couple of days ago i was looking at maggie sottero (love her)dresses on ebay and i came across my dream dress for a fraction of the price. it was a used once dress and the girl even sent me a bunch of pictures of her wedding and she happens to be my body double. i couldn''t pass it up right?!?
well, now i feel a little weird about it because my boyfriend only has 1/2 the ring paid off. i''m afraid he''s going to be upset when he finds out i already bought a dress. i just couldn''t pass that deal up!

 

[aquarius_ser]

wow, that is a big step! Are you going to tell him you bought a dress?

 

[sadie123]

I had to tell him, it was delivered to my apartment today! He''s fine with, thank goodness. He kind of laughed at me actually, not in a mean way though. I love the dress too, better than I imagined!