How Do I ???????????

[GarysBride]

Tell my close friend Jodi shes my maid of honor without hurting my other BMs?
None of them have any idea who the MOH is and I feel bad becuase I think my cousin thinks its her.
I''ve been really close with Jodi since 5th grade and I dont want anyones feelings hurt.
My cousin and I are really close to but she isnt always available due to school and im worried she may not even make it to the wedding.
I know my other BMs will be ok with this considering my little sister is also really close with Jodi and the other is my fiaces sister who is just happy shes a BM and nothing else (she lives in TX)
with that being said Jodi sent me this picture of her and my sister i just love it!

my sis on the left and Jodi on the right

 

[GarysBride]

Please help you guys any input would be good I have too tell her/THEM tomorrow!

 

[VRBeauty]

Just tell the truth -- Jodi has been your friend since 5th grade, and (very likely) you''ve always envisioned her as your MOH, and she''s like a member of your family to you.

My only real suggestion is that you let your cousin know privately if you think she might be expecting to be picked as your MOH, so that you have a chance to explain to her if necessary and so she isn''t caught off guard in public.

 

[AmberWaves]

Garysbride, I had the same thing, I wanted my MOH to be my fiance''s sister, but all of a sudden my cousin came out of nowhere and offered to help with anything. Now, she''s not very reliable, and is often complaining about things. And I really wanted HER sister, my other cousin, but couldn''t choose just one of them. So instead of choosing all three- two to be bridesmaids, and one to be MOH, I decided that it''s OUR wedding, and my MOH is going to be FI''s sister. She''s so mature, and easy to deal with, and is absolutely able to handle the job. In fact, I sent her a card last Monday asking her to be my MOH, so even if I could, I couldn''t take it back! I know I''m going to have a lot of ''splainin to do when everyone else finds out, but oh well. In the end, it''s YOUR choice, and just pull your cousin aside and give her your reasons, she''ll understand.

 

[Fancy605]

I can''t imagine ever getting angry with anyone just for not asking me to be a maid of honor... You are already honoring all of them by asking them to stand with you. I don''t think it means you love anyone any less, right? Hopefully they will all be able to refrain from taking it personally. I do respect you for trying to make sure know one''s feelings are hurt--I am just hoping that everyone respects your decision and that no one gets fussy about it. Afterall, these girls love you, right? They will probably be happy as long as you''re happy.

 

[GarysBride]

thank you every one for your help! I called my cousin and shes fine with it. Now I just have to call Jodi at 2 and ask her!