how do you address this couple?

[glaucomflecken]

hey everyone!

i have a quick question! when addressing an envelope to a married couple where the wife is a doctor but the husband is not, how do you write that?

Mr. and Dr. Joe and Jane Smith?
Mr. Joe Smith and Dr. Jane Smith?
Dr. and Mr. Smith?

heeeelp!

 

[Kaleigh]

#2?

 

[Jennifer5973]

The one time I saw this it was:

Dr. and Mr. John Smith

ETA: It was Mr. and Dr. John Smith... I messed it up. The man usually comes first!

 

[sjz]

I think that it''s customary to put the man first when you address an envelope to a married couple. I think it depends on how formal you want to be, or how well you know the couple. My husband is a doctor, and we get things addressed to us in a variety of different ways. Most people who know us well just address the envelope as "Andy & Suzi Z." We also get a lot addressed to plain old "Mr. & Mrs. Z". Or "Dr. and Mrs. Z". I don''t think you could go wrong if you addressed them as "Mr. and Dr. Smith".

 

[WTNLVR]

My uncle was a doc. The proper address is Dr. John Doe and Mrs. Elizabeth Doe. If she is the doc : Mr. John Doe and Doctor Elizabeth Doe. At least this used to be the correct etiquette.

 

[MrsFrk]

According to my Emily Post, Mr. and Dr. John Doe, unless she uses her maiden name still, and then it can be either Mr. John Doe and Dr. Jane Smith, OR Dr. Jane Smith and Mr. John Doe.

 

[FireGoddess]

The wedding invitation I recently received said:

Mr. John Doe and Dr. Jane Firegoddess-Doe.

I believe this is the correct way to address a couple where one person has a different title. (I hypenate, hence my last name was hyphenated on the invite.)

 

[Tali]

As a female physician, I would, despite what EPost says, definitely prefer Mr. John and Dr. Jane Doe, assuming the last name is shared. In my instance, I didn''t take my DH''s name, so I''d expect it to be addressed Mr. John Doe and Dr. Jane Smith. To write Mr. and Dr. John Doe, IMHO, gives her husband credit for HER achievement, which I''d take offense to. I got thru medical school, not he. I think Emily *quite* the sexist pig on this one.

 

[elepri]

The woman is not Dr. John Doe! Also, I read on the theknot that Dr. always goes first. So it would be Dr. and Mr. Doe or Dr. Jane Doe and Mr. John Doe.

 

[elepri]

Here it is, copied and pasted from:

http://www.theknot.com/ch_qaarticle.html?Object=AI980914200753&keywordID=152&keywordType=2&parentID=527

Q. How do you address an invitation to a doctor?

A. If a wife and husband are both doctors, the outer and inner envelopes should be addressed to: "The Doctors Rosenthal." It''s that simple! If they''re married but have different last names, list both names in alphabetical order on separate lines: "Dr. Rosenthal" followed by "Dr. Schwartz".

If only one spouse is a doctor, list the person with the professional name first: "Dr. Kate Randolph Mr. Brian Randolph" or "Dr. Kate Randolph and Mr. Brian Randolph" (if it fits on one line).

 

[Sparkster]

Date: 5/8/2005 11

3:14 PM
Author: elepri
The woman is not Dr. John Doe! Also, I read on the theknot that Dr. always goes first. So it would be Dr. and Mr. Doe or Dr. Jane Doe and Mr. John Doe.

I really hate that. My fiance sent out Christmas cards to Mr and Mrs John Doe. (he addressed all married couples envelopes this way) He would never dare call her ''John'' in real life so I don''t understand why he felt it necessary to address her as ''John'' on the envelope.