How do you FEEL about your dress?

[sumbride]

I never expected to be especially attached to my dress. I didn''t even WANT to go dress shopping. I liked it when I bought it, loved it when I had it altered, and adored it at the wedding, but I never expected to want to keep it. I even sort of chuckled at the idea of having it preserved. Why bother? But now? I''m not quite sure. And I know one thing for sure... I don''t want anybody else to ever wear it. I made sure to state that to my mom because I know that she loaned her dress out when she was young and she might get asked about mine. I said "No way, no how, no chance is any daughter of anybody you know going to wear this dress..." or something like that.

but why? I feel completely irrational. I don''t have any room for the dress at my place. I don''t really want it here. I won''t put it on again. My mom''s dress is still in her mother''s house, so she says it can stay, but I still feel kind of guilty. I know a lot of people sell their dresses. Did you have any qualms about it? Anybody else feel like me?

 

[zoebartlett]

Well, as pretty as I think my dress is, I''m not that attached to it. I''d love to sell mine after our wedding but it''s such an odd size (plus size and petite don''t usually go hand in hand...). I may try to sell it anyway and see what happens. If I have to keep it, so be it. I don''t think it''s strange to be attached to your dress though. You''ve spent money on a beautiful dress for a very special day. I can see why some people would feel attached.

 

[dani13]

I love my dress and I am very attached to it. It saddens me that I will never wear it again....Its still hanging up in my bedroom at my parents house...I will be getting it preserved soon, and I will absolutely keep it forever. I could never sell it.

 

[Steel]

Ha ha!

This is funny for me. I was very ''just so'' about my dress after the wedding. I wanted to keep it forever.

At this time Henry''s brother (Henry is a cat) was living with us, but he ''moved out'' at about 6 months. But before he left, he gave me a ''leaving present''. He did a potty (#1 AND #2) on my wedding dress. It stank to high heaven.

DH dealt with the mess. We moved home since, and I couldn''t tell you where the dress is now.

Meaow!

 

[MustangGal]

I wasn''t attached at all, but my husband was. I held onto it for 6 years and finally talked him into letting me sell it.

Zoe, I know severl plus sized petite girls, and one is looking at getting married in the next year or two, let me know if you decide to sell...

 

[Hudson_Hawk]

How do I feel about my dress? NAKED!

Cause I don''t have a dress yet...

 

[Selkie]

Date: 1/23/2008 4:33:31 PM
Author: Hudson_Hawk
How do I feel about my dress? NAKED!

Cause I don''t have a dress yet...

Hee!

I''m planning to keep it, pretty much for sentimental value. It''s hanging in a closet at my parents'' house along with all 4 high school formal dresses, that really just need to be chucked. Or re-used as 80''s Halloween costumes. Actually, my grandmother''s wedding dress is in there too. NO room in our apartment here for it, and it''s not worth the hassle to try and sell it, so it will stay there probably until we buy a house.

Oh, and you guys are going to love this. I asked my mom to take it to the local cleaners to get cleaned because the hem got a bit muddy. I love her, but she makes odd choices to "save money" sometimes. Sooooo....she washed it!!! On the delicates cycle, in the washing machine!!! Granted, it''s a relatively inexpensive dress made of poly satin and organza, but there''s a lot of beading and embroidery. It seems fine, luckily, but I was PISSED when she first told me. Now, I just have to laugh.

 

[CrownJewel]

Sum, I too, didn''t think I would care so much for my wedding dress. I started out saying to FI, "eh, I''ll just get something that looks nice. I can''t possibly care about a dress that I''m only going to wear for one day." I assumed I''d just buy something secondhand and then sell it right back.

And now? I bought a new dress that is hopefully being made to my measurements for way more money than I wanted to spend. I joke that after the wedding, I''m going to wear it while straightening up the apartment, while reading on a rainy weekend, and even just to dance around at home. I''m definitely NOT going to sell it (or so I say now). I''ve fallen so in love with it (sounds crazy!) that I want it around forever and I want to wear it a LOT. I also suggested to my girl friends that after our weddings, we can host a "wedding gown party" where we all show up in our gowns while sipping WHITE wine (this is assuming we all stay the same size). Kind of like a "Prom Party" where people show up in their old hideous prom dresses and reminisce about prom.

 

[AmberWaves]

Honestly? I hate it. I am a heavier girl, and I hated shopping for my dress, and I ended up just buying the first thing I could see myself in. I didn''t love it at first sight, I didn''t even grow to like it. If anything, I''ve grown to despise it. It''s really the only thing I regret about the wedding.

I don''t think I would have been a 2 dress bride even if we could afford it, because I just hated shopping for it- trying to cram myself into a size eight- in a body obviously NOT size eight, being forced to picture myself how it would look.

Eh, everyone else said it was beautiful, but it was just another item of clothes, and I didn''t FEEL beautiful.

This is why I say to all those 2,3, even 4 dress brides: good for you- find something you LOVE!

 

[Haven]

I''m not married yet, so perhaps my feelings will change after the wedding.

Right now, though, I am over.the.moon about my dress. I feel very excited about it. I even went and took some great pictures of it hanging in the little bridal shop window. (Note to self: post those pictures when I get home.)

When I first bought dress #1 I thought "Meh. It''s a dress. It''s big, it''s fun, but I''m definitely putting that sucker on eBay (Harleigh--interested?

) once the deed is done.

Then I found dress #2. And it was love. And now I''m feeling irrationally attached to a heap of silk taffeta. I don''t think I''ll want to sell it for a long time, if ever. I lurve it so.

 

[sumbride]

I''m starting to feel a little bit more reasonable now! Though I will ask my mom to keep all cats and washing machines away from it! Seriously, Selkie, she put it in the WASHER? That''s insane! I''m glad it''s ok!

Amber- I''m so sorry you never learned to like your dress or got one you loved. I didn''t expect to find one that made me feel pretty but I was lucky to find one perfect for me. I wish you had had that experience.

Zoe - I think you''d be surprised at the market for your dress if you choose to sell. The vast majority of this country is NOT a size 2.

 

[Harleigh]

Date: 1/23/2008 6:46:26 PM
Author: Haven
I''m not married yet, so perhaps my feelings will change after the wedding.

Right now, though, I am over.the.moon about my dress. I feel very excited about it. I even went and took some great pictures of it hanging in the little bridal shop window. (Note to self: post those pictures when I get home.)

When I first bought dress #1 I thought ''Meh. It''s a dress. It''s big, it''s fun, but I''m definitely putting that sucker on eBay (Harleigh--interested?

) once the deed is done.

Then I found dress #2. And it was love. And now I''m feeling irrationally attached to a heap of silk taffeta. I don''t think I''ll want to sell it for a long time, if ever. I lurve it so.

LOL...this was just too funny...thanks for the chuckle, Haven!

Maybe we could open up that bridal shop I mentioned together...we might have enough dresses with yours now!

 

[E B]

There's absolutely nothing wrong with how you feel!

I love love LOVED my dress, but I plan to sell it. I married a man that is 6'7' so the chances of my future daughter wearing it are slim to none, and I'd rather pass it along to another bride than keep it.

 

[monarch64]

I honestly loved my dress so much that I can''t even bring myself (4.5 years post-wedding) to get it cleaned and preserved. It''s in its bag in our entryway closet, basically forgotten but I can''t bear to part with it. I''m not planning on saving it for a daughter or anything, I just don''t ever want it away from me even to have it cleaned at this point. I''m not a packrat either...I donate huge bags of clothing, etc. all the time...I just really loved my dress! I still have my prom dresses and many other special occasion outfits/dresses from high school and college in storage...I guess I am sort of a packrat in that respect.

 

[blushingbride]

I absolutely ADORE my dress and was cleaned and preserverd a month after the wedding (along with my veil). It''s funny because I orginially said that if I ended up spending A LOT of money on my dress, then I would sell it after the wedding. Well, I did end up spending A LOT of money on it, but now can''t imagine parting with it. I would be honored if my daughter one day came to me and asked if she could wear it.

 

[Aloros]

I might sell it. I got such a good deal for it on ebay, that I could probably recoup most of those costs.

BUT, it''s so purty! My feeling now is to break it out once in a while after the wedding, when FI and I are alone. He''s the only one who wouldn''t judge me for it

. I think it would be fun to flounce around the house in my wedding dress once in a while ("Remember the day we got maaaaarried??"), but I''m a little weird.

I''d have to put the cat away. He''s already shown that he thinks the dress train is a fun toy that MUST be pounced on.

 

[UCLABelle]

I love my dress (haven't worn it yet though!) and feel pretty good in it (except my arms, which are being shaved down)...

However, if I were taller I would probably sell it after wearing (a gown altered for someone 5'1 is not likely to appeal to many buyers)...so I must not be very attached

I would love to recoup some of that $3500+

 

[tenfour]

i feel annoyed because it isn''t in stores yet. can''t try it on, don''t know the price, don''t know if it will be mine.
the picture is nice though and i found great shoes to go with it. hahaha.

 

[UCLABelle]

Tenfour-What dress are you looking at?!

 

[tenfour]

oh i''m not having a huge wedding and i don''t want a gown. i''m waiting for a bcbg spring 2008 runway collection dress to hit the stores. it''s not in yet. soon...soon...i hope. haha. if you look at old posts of mine i have a pic of it somewhere.