How do you set an RSVP date?

[Tacori E-ring]

My wedding is 8/12, when should I set the RSVP date?

 

[laurel_aurelia]

our wedding is september 10 and our RSVP date is august 1. long enough for us to make adjustments and stuff. (we''re also sending out invitations 3 months ina dvance -- not 2 -- because everyone is traveling.)

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[flopkins]

my caterer needed a number 3 days before the event. so I gave myself about 2 weeks to track down laggers, and then buffered another week just in case, so I set it about 3 weeks ahead.

Depending on if a lot of ppl are OOT or what not, I''ve seen RSVPs even earlier than that.

 

[FireGoddess]

I had my RSVP date at about 5 weeks before the wedding.

 

[Tacori E-ring]

So I should make it July 1st-July 12th? We did send out STD a year in advance so everyone should know about it. I was planning on sending out the invites in the first half of June. So maybe the middle of July would be better. That would give me around a month.

 

[Caribou]

Because my wedding is on a holiday weekend, September 3, I''m sending out our invites 2 months before, July 1st, and asking for a RSVP date of a month before, Aug 1st.

Although, I''m not going to say ''I shouldn''t have a problem'' because I''m sure I will....but 85% is family so it won''t be hard to track them down if they don''t respond in a timely manner.

 

[jcrow]

i was wondering the same thing. i looked at an invite site and noticed that the sample had the rsvp set one month and one day before the day of the wedding. i have temporarily done the same. i am waiting my phone call being returned from the reception place. i asked them when they need to know by.

For example:

wed: nov. 18
rsvp: oct. 17


don''t know the protocol on this one.

 

[Mara]

part of it depends on your caterer etc like when they need to know...but i vaguely recall that something like 4-6 weeks ahead of time is the ''norm'' but depends on your own personal situation i think. we did ours 4 weeks ahead of time so that we could give people a long time to respond but we also didn''t stress because the caterer could add or remove as necessary up til the day before, plus the whole destination thing made it different. but i say 4-6 weeks if your caterers are fine with that!

 

[ivanadiamond]

According to the Crane''s Wedding Blue Book, although there is no hard and fast rule, most brides use 2 weeks prior to the wedding date for the RSVP. However my invitation gal told me to put at least 4-5 weeks...

I think it''s a good idea to select a response date one month prior to the date of your wedding or the 1st of the month before, it helps your guests remember the date~

 

[selflove]

I did 3 weeks before the wedding date. That was plenty of time for a small wedding.

 

[Tacori E-ring]

thanks everyone!