MichelleCarmen
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How does your jewelry compare to your family''s?
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What a fun poll! Well, I have two extremes--my mother always had beautiful jewelry and lovely diamonds. My mom had (from my father--they are divorced) a 3 ct pear engagement ring--beautfilly cut, almost no bow-tie even for a stone cut 30 yrs ago, and white hot D color. I'm not sure about the clarity but it had to be good. From my stepdad she got a 1.5 ct RB. He was very traditional and went to a local B&M jeweler he'd known for 30 years... probably got ripped off on pricing but it is a beautiful ring nonetheless. My mom also has a lot of beautiful gold and precious gemstone stuff collected over the years.
My husband's family is the polar opposite...My mother in law has a tiny diamond engagement ring you can hardly see. Jewelry is definitely not a priority. To be fair, I guess my family had more money too. My father is an attorney and my mom a nurse. And my stepdad was an engineer in the defense industry.
Their reaction to my stuff is interesting. I posted the diamond cross I got this year in the "what are you givin/getting ..." thread and my family in law stared at it as soon as I walked in the room on Christmas day. i don't think they know how to react--the .27 stones in that cross are bigger than 99% of their ering stones. i tend to think that they think it is very wasteful and decadent. Everyone in my husband's family is into having kids--his siblings, cousins, etc. There are dozens and dozens of them. We, however, do not have any after 7 years of marriage, and aren't sure we want them at all. This is quite an exception.... I think the notion that we treat ourselves to jewelry, trips, etc., is foreign concept to them. That clan is all about having babies. Me and my diamonds don't fit in.
My husband's family is the polar opposite...My mother in law has a tiny diamond engagement ring you can hardly see. Jewelry is definitely not a priority. To be fair, I guess my family had more money too. My father is an attorney and my mom a nurse. And my stepdad was an engineer in the defense industry.
Their reaction to my stuff is interesting. I posted the diamond cross I got this year in the "what are you givin/getting ..." thread and my family in law stared at it as soon as I walked in the room on Christmas day. i don't think they know how to react--the .27 stones in that cross are bigger than 99% of their ering stones. i tend to think that they think it is very wasteful and decadent. Everyone in my husband's family is into having kids--his siblings, cousins, etc. There are dozens and dozens of them. We, however, do not have any after 7 years of marriage, and aren't sure we want them at all. This is quite an exception.... I think the notion that we treat ourselves to jewelry, trips, etc., is foreign concept to them. That clan is all about having babies. Me and my diamonds don't fit in.
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Your diamonds are mostly traditional gifts from your husband, aren’t' they? This should silence the clan a bit, although I doubt anything will. I hope things are not nearly as tough as I read in this message...
I know, all you need to do is go to the "who's who" section and find out that I have never been married and do not own diamonds for the sake of all things colored. But your story is very familiar: I am Romanian (this is a rather needy country where E-rings of any shape are unknown) and often get back hone from wherever in the US or Europe I happen to be studying or working inevitably crossing back a huge economic divide. Of course, all my class mates from (my Romanian) college already have a house of kids, started just about when I was getting my first scholarship! So? At first, I gathered my Tiffany memorabilia on the bottom of my luggage and tried to play down my still showing studs and watch and such. Some folks stared, some approved (after all, Romania is Eastern Europe where giving and receiving jewelry even more a social requirement than what I have seen in the US). Not much I would do about it and I am not holding anything back from them either. It does feel strange though, and if your story is in any way alike, I hope you find a better way to ward this evil.
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... I am not holding anything back from them either. It does feel strange though....----------------[/quote]
Perfectly put, Val. I don't think my diamonds make me a better person or better than they are certainly, but by the same token, it's my business and what's it to them if I like this stuff? I do get many as gifts from my husband, BUT I also treat myself....My jeweler is like family and allows me a generous lay-a-way plan. I always have a "treat" aside for myself.
The diamonds are just a very visible difference but one of many that go a lot deeper. I don't fit in in many ways. I, too, am educatd with an MBA and a very successful career; I am a marketing mgr for one of the biggest financial services companies in the world. I went to school on academic scholarship and graduated #1 in my college class. My husband is the only one of 4 children to go to college. So, there are a lot of differences. The diamonds are just a very obvious--and sparkly--sign of them.
I give a lot of money to animal rescue charitites and to the veterans, my two causes. I put my head down at night.
Wait until I get my three stone ring...It won't be for a couple of years but we're planning on it. I'm alread thinking 2.5-3ct center alone (maybe a radiant with 2 princesses, or an oval with side pears???) Their heads will pop off.
Thanks for sharing--sounds like we have the same poop to deal with in a lot of ways.
... I am not holding anything back from them either. It does feel strange though....----------------[/quote]
Perfectly put, Val. I don't think my diamonds make me a better person or better than they are certainly, but by the same token, it's my business and what's it to them if I like this stuff? I do get many as gifts from my husband, BUT I also treat myself....My jeweler is like family and allows me a generous lay-a-way plan. I always have a "treat" aside for myself.
The diamonds are just a very visible difference but one of many that go a lot deeper. I don't fit in in many ways. I, too, am educatd with an MBA and a very successful career; I am a marketing mgr for one of the biggest financial services companies in the world. I went to school on academic scholarship and graduated #1 in my college class. My husband is the only one of 4 children to go to college. So, there are a lot of differences. The diamonds are just a very obvious--and sparkly--sign of them.
I give a lot of money to animal rescue charitites and to the veterans, my two causes. I put my head down at night.
Wait until I get my three stone ring...It won't be for a couple of years but we're planning on it. I'm alread thinking 2.5-3ct center alone (maybe a radiant with 2 princesses, or an oval with side pears???) Their heads will pop off.
Thanks for sharing--sounds like we have the same poop to deal with in a lot of ways.
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My mother has way more jewelry than I do.
Some really intricate, gorgeous platinum and gemstones pieces, and of course, diamonds.
Some of her jewelry belonged to her mother and grandmother, and the workmanship and detail on these older pieces is superb.
Her engagement ring from my father is stunning and uniquely beautiful. My father designed it himself (in tandem with his jeweler.) It's a natural ruby in an eye-shaped (for a lack of a better description) setting, surrounded by diamond pave, with a thin platinum band. The ruby popped out years ago and she had it replaced.
I particularly love some of her ruby, sapphire, and emerald pieces. She also has some gorgeous amethysts set into earrings in platinum, with a matching pendant and chain...I've worn that set on occasion.
My sisters are not really into jewelry or diamonds - one of my sisters doesn't even wear her wedding band or have her ears pierced. Zero interest.
Her engagement ring from my father is stunning and uniquely beautiful. My father designed it himself (in tandem with his jeweler.) It's a natural ruby in an eye-shaped (for a lack of a better description) setting, surrounded by diamond pave, with a thin platinum band. The ruby popped out years ago and she had it replaced.
I particularly love some of her ruby, sapphire, and emerald pieces. She also has some gorgeous amethysts set into earrings in platinum, with a matching pendant and chain...I've worn that set on occasion.
My sisters are not really into jewelry or diamonds - one of my sisters doesn't even wear her wedding band or have her ears pierced. Zero interest.
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I was actually thinking about this the other night! How apt
My family is not into jewelry at all. My mom would probably like more jewelry but she loves things like earrings so she has a bunch of diamond earrings, not studs but more fashion. They live in Cupertino near the Shane Company so she just sends my dad there and he gets something she likes. Of course that is diamond sacrilege to me but she has promised the next time they buy something large and diamondy they will consult me first! My mom's original wedding ring was very simple, I think it was possibly something like a 3 stone but maybe all of .50ctw, I don't even recall what it looked like because she lost it on a walk one day and never found it again. So her second one is something like a 1ctw 5 stone ring (no they don't have ANY specs on these things!), which is from the Shane Company and amazingly, *very beautiful* for a B&M store ring. It was pre-set, it was the first thing she tried on and she loved it. She gets tons of compliments per day on it which is just hilarious to me because I know it wasn't expensive at all and people just tend to assume it is. We all really love her ring. It is set in yellow gold and I have eyeballed the diamonds. Nothing really visible so they must be SI's but I have a feeling it's tinged a little yellow, so maybe J stones. Regardless, it's amazing and it sparkles like the dickens. Next year my Dad has said he wants to get her a new ring with a bigger diamond, so we'll see. I think he had had alot of wine when he said that!! He's definitely the frugal one in the family!!
So obviously I didn't grow up loving diamonds or jewels at all. My mom didn't even have anything like a diamond bracelet or pendant. She had alot of gold. Last year my dad surprised everyone and got her this amazing diamond heart necklace from Tiffany's. It was pretty expensive and cost more than her ring! She loves it and it's pretty sparkly...I haven't taken the loupe to it yet.
Greg's family however is a different story. His mom and his stepmom adore jewelry, mostly colored stones and they have alot of ring and pendant pieces. His Dad loves to spoil his stepmom, I think her original wedding ring was a 1.25c or similar and her upgraded new ring was about 10 years after marriage and it was a 2.5c which I think is what she has now. It's huge! They put the original stone into a pendant and then it got LOST! So this last year his dad got her a replacement pendant of around 1c...which is really nice. Again I didn't have my loupe with me when we visited so I couldn't eyeball anything. Her upgrade ring seems to be cut a little deep, the pavilion looks heavy. But it's pretty sparkly! The setting is very nice as well. Of course I tried it on, bling bling!
Besides this stuff, I think she's got a few diamond bracelets and I'm sure some other necklaces--not to mention the colored stones etc. Greg's Mom has a typical 1c engagement ring with plain wedding band and she doesn't wear her other jewels at all when I see her..so I have no idea what else she has.
Lucky for me Greg grew up seeing his family get alot of jewelry as gifts. Tie this in with my best friend who I had just met when I met Greg whose family buys tons of jewels and also are very into loving diamonds. My girlfriend has 4ctw earring studs, diamond bracelets, pendants, a diamond nose stud, etc. So I was quickly getting the diamond bug right around when I met Greg! Couple that with his 'would you wear diamond earraings' questions when we first started dating and he was a LOST CAUSE.
Two years later I am a diamond fiend and have a nice little cache of items which most of you know about. Funny thing is I still don't like JEWELRY which I don't tend to think of my diamonds as. I love diamonds, but I don't wear alot of jewelry. At any given point in time I have on my e-ring, my pendant and simple silver hoops in my ears. I have a bracelet I wear sometimes, my studs for sometimes. But I'm still not wearing all the jewelry at once, it doesn't seem like me. But I still love to have it!
I'm sure this is more than you wanted to know Michelle...but you know me...I love telling stories.
My family is not into jewelry at all. My mom would probably like more jewelry but she loves things like earrings so she has a bunch of diamond earrings, not studs but more fashion. They live in Cupertino near the Shane Company so she just sends my dad there and he gets something she likes. Of course that is diamond sacrilege to me but she has promised the next time they buy something large and diamondy they will consult me first! My mom's original wedding ring was very simple, I think it was possibly something like a 3 stone but maybe all of .50ctw, I don't even recall what it looked like because she lost it on a walk one day and never found it again. So her second one is something like a 1ctw 5 stone ring (no they don't have ANY specs on these things!), which is from the Shane Company and amazingly, *very beautiful* for a B&M store ring. It was pre-set, it was the first thing she tried on and she loved it. She gets tons of compliments per day on it which is just hilarious to me because I know it wasn't expensive at all and people just tend to assume it is. We all really love her ring. It is set in yellow gold and I have eyeballed the diamonds. Nothing really visible so they must be SI's but I have a feeling it's tinged a little yellow, so maybe J stones. Regardless, it's amazing and it sparkles like the dickens. Next year my Dad has said he wants to get her a new ring with a bigger diamond, so we'll see. I think he had had alot of wine when he said that!! He's definitely the frugal one in the family!!
Greg's family however is a different story. His mom and his stepmom adore jewelry, mostly colored stones and they have alot of ring and pendant pieces. His Dad loves to spoil his stepmom, I think her original wedding ring was a 1.25c or similar and her upgraded new ring was about 10 years after marriage and it was a 2.5c which I think is what she has now. It's huge! They put the original stone into a pendant and then it got LOST! So this last year his dad got her a replacement pendant of around 1c...which is really nice. Again I didn't have my loupe with me when we visited so I couldn't eyeball anything. Her upgrade ring seems to be cut a little deep, the pavilion looks heavy. But it's pretty sparkly! The setting is very nice as well. Of course I tried it on, bling bling!
Lucky for me Greg grew up seeing his family get alot of jewelry as gifts. Tie this in with my best friend who I had just met when I met Greg whose family buys tons of jewels and also are very into loving diamonds. My girlfriend has 4ctw earring studs, diamond bracelets, pendants, a diamond nose stud, etc. So I was quickly getting the diamond bug right around when I met Greg! Couple that with his 'would you wear diamond earraings' questions when we first started dating and he was a LOST CAUSE.
Two years later I am a diamond fiend and have a nice little cache of items which most of you know about. Funny thing is I still don't like JEWELRY which I don't tend to think of my diamonds as. I love diamonds, but I don't wear alot of jewelry. At any given point in time I have on my e-ring, my pendant and simple silver hoops in my ears. I have a bracelet I wear sometimes, my studs for sometimes. But I'm still not wearing all the jewelry at once, it doesn't seem like me. But I still love to have it!
I'm sure this is more than you wanted to know Michelle...but you know me...I love telling stories.
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My family is VERY into jewels of all kinds. My mother has some beautiful pieces. Luckily, my father was very generous with all of us. Due to this, I've always had a warped perception. I have a .97 carat ering stone and 1ctw studs and I think they are small. But, also age-appropriate since I'm in my 20's... All of my friends used to joke around about how they felt sorry for my eventual husband because he would have a lot to live up to (and this was in college, years before I met my husband!).
My husband is a surgery resident, so he is short on both money and time. Hence, I picked out my ering and wedding band. We went together to try on a lot of things though, but I did the legwork. My stone is just shy of a carat. I'm having some problems with the wedding band, so I'm thinking of getting the head replaced on my ering and upgrading while I'm at it. I haven't exactly discussed these thoughts with my poor husband (I just noticed the wear on my prongs yesterday!)
He knows about my love for all things sparkly. It's funny because if he needs to go study instead of going out he'll say something like "Let me study so I can buy you diamonds". When we got married, I got a lot of pieces and "sets" from my mom. Most of them are evening-wear though, not something I'd wear to the office. Since I'm an executive at a hospital, I try not to be TOO flashy at work. I mostly wear white pearls, black pearls (I have a strand of South Sea black pearls and matching earrings which are GORGEOUS), or my diamond pendant and small (1 ctw) studs.
My husband is a surgery resident, so he is short on both money and time. Hence, I picked out my ering and wedding band. We went together to try on a lot of things though, but I did the legwork. My stone is just shy of a carat. I'm having some problems with the wedding band, so I'm thinking of getting the head replaced on my ering and upgrading while I'm at it. I haven't exactly discussed these thoughts with my poor husband (I just noticed the wear on my prongs yesterday!)
He knows about my love for all things sparkly. It's funny because if he needs to go study instead of going out he'll say something like "Let me study so I can buy you diamonds". When we got married, I got a lot of pieces and "sets" from my mom. Most of them are evening-wear though, not something I'd wear to the office. Since I'm an executive at a hospital, I try not to be TOO flashy at work. I mostly wear white pearls, black pearls (I have a strand of South Sea black pearls and matching earrings which are GORGEOUS), or my diamond pendant and small (1 ctw) studs.
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Thanks everyone. I love hearing the comparisons since we all love jewelery so much
My story started with my dad being absolutely obssessed with gems and diamonds and continually showering my mom with jewelery. I grew up with and developed the same passion as my dad. It's funny though, as my mom has NO interest in jewelery. She tossed her expensive earrings around along with all her other fine pieces, scattering them around the house and she even lost one of her diamond stud earrings! lol I have all of her jewelery now, and the biggest diamond is her eng. stone, a mere .38 D color round brilliant. It is gorgeous and I just made it into a pendant.
I deleted part of this for security concerns. . .you never know who may end up reading these posts!
Michelle
My story started with my dad being absolutely obssessed with gems and diamonds and continually showering my mom with jewelery. I grew up with and developed the same passion as my dad. It's funny though, as my mom has NO interest in jewelery. She tossed her expensive earrings around along with all her other fine pieces, scattering them around the house and she even lost one of her diamond stud earrings! lol I have all of her jewelery now, and the biggest diamond is her eng. stone, a mere .38 D color round brilliant. It is gorgeous and I just made it into a pendant.
I deleted part of this for security concerns. . .you never know who may end up reading these posts!
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Hey Michelle,
I can completely emphathize with you about wearing jewelry in front of family.
I especially feel that way in front of my husband's family. It's like your damned if you do and damned if you don't!!!!
Here is an example.
As you may already know, my 10th anniversary past in June. AT that time I was expecting to only receive my new diamond ring. But my husband said he would get me an anniversary ring also. I fell in love with the one from Tiffany's ( and my husband wound up getting that one for me), but I also contemplated getting it custom made by Whiteflash.
I asked my SIL what I should do and suddenly she tells me that she was having a bracelet custom made in France. She told me that she had it ordered last year August 2002, but she didn't receive it yet, mind you, it was already May 2003. I asked her why she never told me about it before and only mentioned it when I told her about having a ring made and she told me that she did, I must of forgotten.
Anyway, to make a long story short, I go to her house in September and she is wearing the bracelet ( which suddenly went from costing her "almost 3K" to 5K) and every single person in her family is asking her if they can see it, try it on, etc. I get to see her mother wear it, then her aunt, etc.
And there I am wearing my new rings and no one even looks at it. Or they do, but they just give me a look and when I look back at them, they quickly turn away. Even my MIL, who loves jewelry, makes believe that she doesn't notice my rings, but I know that she saw them because I caught her looking too.
I figure, whatever. When I didn't have any jewelry, they kept asking me when was my husband going to buy me a diamond and showing off what they got when they got engaged, etc. Then, when we were ready to purchase the diamond and I asked his aunt to come with us ( she is the person everyone goes with to buy diamonds), she tells me I don't need such an expensive diamond or such a big one. I asked her a few times to come with us, but she kept saying she was so busy and she had no time to go. Then, I would find out from my SIL that someone got engaged and that same aunt went with them to pick out the diamond!!!!
So, I went and did everything without them. Now, they are either mad that I didn't use them or just jealous that what I have is nicer and bigger.
The way I feel about it is that they loved to rub it in my face when I didn't have a diamond ring. So, when I picked out this one, I not only wanted it bigger than anything they had, but I also wanted it to be so brilliant that it would knock their socks off.
I think I managed that.
Sorry to sound so pissed, my SIL is not speaking to me right now.
I can completely emphathize with you about wearing jewelry in front of family.
I especially feel that way in front of my husband's family. It's like your damned if you do and damned if you don't!!!!
Here is an example.
As you may already know, my 10th anniversary past in June. AT that time I was expecting to only receive my new diamond ring. But my husband said he would get me an anniversary ring also. I fell in love with the one from Tiffany's ( and my husband wound up getting that one for me), but I also contemplated getting it custom made by Whiteflash.
I asked my SIL what I should do and suddenly she tells me that she was having a bracelet custom made in France. She told me that she had it ordered last year August 2002, but she didn't receive it yet, mind you, it was already May 2003. I asked her why she never told me about it before and only mentioned it when I told her about having a ring made and she told me that she did, I must of forgotten.
Anyway, to make a long story short, I go to her house in September and she is wearing the bracelet ( which suddenly went from costing her "almost 3K" to 5K) and every single person in her family is asking her if they can see it, try it on, etc. I get to see her mother wear it, then her aunt, etc.
And there I am wearing my new rings and no one even looks at it. Or they do, but they just give me a look and when I look back at them, they quickly turn away. Even my MIL, who loves jewelry, makes believe that she doesn't notice my rings, but I know that she saw them because I caught her looking too.
I figure, whatever. When I didn't have any jewelry, they kept asking me when was my husband going to buy me a diamond and showing off what they got when they got engaged, etc. Then, when we were ready to purchase the diamond and I asked his aunt to come with us ( she is the person everyone goes with to buy diamonds), she tells me I don't need such an expensive diamond or such a big one. I asked her a few times to come with us, but she kept saying she was so busy and she had no time to go. Then, I would find out from my SIL that someone got engaged and that same aunt went with them to pick out the diamond!!!!
So, I went and did everything without them. Now, they are either mad that I didn't use them or just jealous that what I have is nicer and bigger.
The way I feel about it is that they loved to rub it in my face when I didn't have a diamond ring. So, when I picked out this one, I not only wanted it bigger than anything they had, but I also wanted it to be so brilliant that it would knock their socks off.
I think I managed that.
Sorry to sound so pissed, my SIL is not speaking to me right now.
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Mara - I'm not a huge jewelery person either. OR, I guess I am, in that I adore jewelery, but I don't wear a ton of it and what I do wear is simple and refined. Usually, I just wear my wedding set and my diamond studs. Then a couple times per week I wear either my Tiffany floating heart pendant or my diamond pendant. I like a clean look
Oh, and I think it makes a huge difference if the guy you're married to watched his dad give jewelry to his mom because then you're more likely to get jewelry. You're luck Greg grew up with this because now he's understanding of your interest.
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Oh, and I think it makes a huge difference if the guy you're married to watched his dad give jewelry to his mom because then you're more likely to get jewelry. You're luck Greg grew up with this because now he's understanding of your interest.
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Jennifer,
Your cross is amazing! Those diamonds are HUGE! lol It must sparkle like crazy
It's too bad your inlaws can't be more supportive of your choice not to have kids (or at least not have them any time soon). Sounds like you and your hubby are having a great time enjoying each other!
I would love a weekend of NO kids to go on a small trip! (Oh, and I have to say even with two SMALL children, I still find people are unsupportive of my choice not to have any additional ones. . .weird, huh???)
Michelle
Your cross is amazing! Those diamonds are HUGE! lol It must sparkle like crazy
It's too bad your inlaws can't be more supportive of your choice not to have kids (or at least not have them any time soon). Sounds like you and your hubby are having a great time enjoying each other!
Michelle
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Well I have never been one to really care what others thought of me...and that includes in-laws to my better half's chagrin at times.
I say get what you want that makes you happy and to hell with everyone who doesn't agree. As long as you aren't pilfering the kids' college tuition, whose business is it how you two spend your money? It may not be THEIR way but they don't need to give you dirty looks either, family is family.
Michelle...yes I am definitely lucky in that Greg knew the 'jewelry drill' but the most ironic thing is that I was so not into things like that before I met my maid-of-honor (then my manager)...so she really can be credited with starting the craze for sparkles, then Greg came around at an opportune time to help further the love. hee hee. Sometimes now he jokingly curses my MOH because of what happened to me! It would have been much cheaper for him if I hadn't met her...ha ha.
The funny thing as well is that she is not into it like I am, she worked in a few B&M's when she was a teenager, and is more along the lines of what I call typical thinking...e.g. color and clarity and that it is 'GIA Certified' are the most important things. So not only did I find the love for sparklies, but I took it a step further than even she could get into...hee!
Oh and though Greg may understand the craze, he isn't necessarily as forthcoming when it comes to buying...he thinks I am spoiled enough and doesn't want to further it any more than necessary to keep me happy..HAH!
Michelle...yes I am definitely lucky in that Greg knew the 'jewelry drill' but the most ironic thing is that I was so not into things like that before I met my maid-of-honor (then my manager)...so she really can be credited with starting the craze for sparkles, then Greg came around at an opportune time to help further the love. hee hee. Sometimes now he jokingly curses my MOH because of what happened to me! It would have been much cheaper for him if I hadn't met her...ha ha.
Oh and though Greg may understand the craze, he isn't necessarily as forthcoming when it comes to buying...he thinks I am spoiled enough and doesn't want to further it any more than necessary to keep me happy..HAH!
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kayla and michelle, oooooh.... jealousy and pettiness transcends all races and backgrounds. i get that alot from my husband's side too, cos they r not rich and dont apear to have much jewelery. there is 1 aunt that they call the 'financial controller' and she was really giving me the evil eye about my earrings when we went up to visit early this year. rofl
majority of my diamonds so far are from my mum cos hubby cant afford the bigger ones i want yet but i am constantly bugging him, its all her fault for getting me hooked anyway. so if any1 asks (they usually just look and then pretend not to look), i usually just say that my mum bought it and that usually shuts them up. and mara, my hubby has gotten into saying that he has to work harder to get me my upgrade too.... lmao.
wait till u girls come to asia and u will feel this treatment everywhere u go, not only from ur relatives. i've had lotsa older women staring evilly at my diamonds on the street. some other women even start to flash their minscule diamonds at me!!!! apparently its even worst in japan, where they smile brightly in front of u and act all nice and interested, only to stab u in the back enough to kill u
majority of my diamonds so far are from my mum cos hubby cant afford the bigger ones i want yet but i am constantly bugging him, its all her fault for getting me hooked anyway. so if any1 asks (they usually just look and then pretend not to look), i usually just say that my mum bought it and that usually shuts them up. and mara, my hubby has gotten into saying that he has to work harder to get me my upgrade too.... lmao.
wait till u girls come to asia and u will feel this treatment everywhere u go, not only from ur relatives. i've had lotsa older women staring evilly at my diamonds on the street. some other women even start to flash their minscule diamonds at me!!!! apparently its even worst in japan, where they smile brightly in front of u and act all nice and interested, only to stab u in the back enough to kill u
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Hmmmmmmmm...Green-eyed monsters, anyone???
In my "vast" experience, when people don't say anything, they are usually jealous....And it is hugely evident in Kayla's post that this is the case.
My recent attitude is "Who cares?" I used to be all self conscious around my inlaws with my stuff--hey, even my modest ering at barely a full 1ct stood out as "huge" in that crowd, but now I wear what i want. I will say I get a lot of "Is that Swarovaskiski...or whatever?" (I know it's Swarovski, but you get my drift
) and i just smile and say, "No, diamonds."
In my "vast" experience, when people don't say anything, they are usually jealous....And it is hugely evident in Kayla's post that this is the case.
My recent attitude is "Who cares?" I used to be all self conscious around my inlaws with my stuff--hey, even my modest ering at barely a full 1ct stood out as "huge" in that crowd, but now I wear what i want. I will say I get a lot of "Is that Swarovaskiski...or whatever?" (I know it's Swarovski, but you get my drift
tomatoe
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My love of jewelry came from my father. He would travel & have pieces designed & made with the "home" gemstone - Opals from Autralia - pearls from Japan - all different colored stones from Brazil. So, it's in my blood.
I'm unusual in that I collect & deal in period jewelry. Mostly silver - but many gold/some platinum pieces as well. I have two very large safety deposit boxes full. I rotate what I want to wear. So, I have the most jewelry in the family. It's always been a passion of mine. And, I love to give away a piece to relatives every once in a while. I have just as much enjoyment watching them wear it.
The big ring & new watch has been an interesting study in human nature & familial dynamics. Somehow the period jewelry falls under the radar.
Ah - inlaws - now there's a topic.
I'm unusual in that I collect & deal in period jewelry. Mostly silver - but many gold/some platinum pieces as well. I have two very large safety deposit boxes full. I rotate what I want to wear. So, I have the most jewelry in the family. It's always been a passion of mine. And, I love to give away a piece to relatives every once in a while. I have just as much enjoyment watching them wear it.
The big ring & new watch has been an interesting study in human nature & familial dynamics. Somehow the period jewelry falls under the radar.
Ah - inlaws - now there's a topic.
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On 12/27/2003 7:30:51 AM canadiangrrl wrote:
My sisters are not really into jewelry or diamonds - one of my sisters doesn't even wear her wedding band or have her ears pierced. Zero interest.----------------
That is because *your* sisters are BLUESTOCKINGS!!!! Don't think I forgot about those Ph.D.s. They should be ashamed!
Deb
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Ok, that does it!
Geeze, guys these are your *families* by criminy sakes!...Why the *heck* can't they just be happy for you?
To me it smacks of the 'me first' philosophy that is so prevelant in today's culture. If I had a ruler, I'd spank each and every one!
If it were me, I'd tell them how selfish I think they are, and how ashamed I am of them.
win
Geeze, guys these are your *families* by criminy sakes!...Why the *heck* can't they just be happy for you?
To me it smacks of the 'me first' philosophy that is so prevelant in today's culture. If I had a ruler, I'd spank each and every one!
If it were me, I'd tell them how selfish I think they are, and how ashamed I am of them.
win
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Win I agree! I figure you may not LIKE your family all the time
but they are still your family..I wouldn't be caught dead giving a family member dirty looks because they like diamonds for heaven's sake or really for any reason. To each their own. Family is family...whether it's married or born into.
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