janinegirly
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How has wedding planning been so far?
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Ups and down for me....
I think if my budget was a little bigger (and it wasn''t my pocket taking the hit) I would feel a little better! hehe....Just find a vendor I like, book it, done...instead I so a LOT of searching, emailing, interviewing, negotiating...that part is just annoying and too time consuming...
But then I realize what I''m doing...planning my wedding, and it makes it all worth it!!!!!. I started working out more to release stress (and get int op shape!) and taking vitamins to help my inmune system stay strong.
I do have all kinds of nightmares...hate those. Usually they have to do with bad hair style the day of or vendors wlaking out in the middle of the day because I had not paid in full...hehe
Janine, it sounds like you are having a hard time with this though....just from all your previous posts I can tell this has been challenging and frustrating. Take some time to relax...take a week off of planning and make yourself do something else for a change....go out with girlfriends and make them do something to you if you say the word wedding!..
Hang in there girl
M~
I think if my budget was a little bigger (and it wasn''t my pocket taking the hit) I would feel a little better! hehe....Just find a vendor I like, book it, done...instead I so a LOT of searching, emailing, interviewing, negotiating...that part is just annoying and too time consuming...
But then I realize what I''m doing...planning my wedding, and it makes it all worth it!!!!!. I started working out more to release stress (and get int op shape!) and taking vitamins to help my inmune system stay strong.
I do have all kinds of nightmares...hate those. Usually they have to do with bad hair style the day of or vendors wlaking out in the middle of the day because I had not paid in full...hehe
Janine, it sounds like you are having a hard time with this though....just from all your previous posts I can tell this has been challenging and frustrating. Take some time to relax...take a week off of planning and make yourself do something else for a change....go out with girlfriends and make them do something to you if you say the word wedding!..
Hang in there girl
M~
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Okay so I voted "ups and downs." We''ve only been engaged since last Saturday so we haven''t gotten too far, but we had done a lot of pre-planning. The two things that are causing me stress at the moment are
a) deciding on what we want and how to create a memorable day for our guests as well as us AND
b) the guest list. We have a ton of family friends (some are siblings) and I''m not sure if I want to invite them. If I invite one though, I have to invite them all. They''ve been part of my life since I was born but I don''t keep in touch with them on my own anymore. If I see them at a party or hear from my parents how they''re doing, that''s great. I don''t really call them on my own to chat though. I guess I''d consider them like cousins although we''re not related. Of course I care about them but do I HAVE to have them at my wedding? This has been bugging me. Also, is it okay to invite just my aunts and uncles without inviting my cousins? It''s basically the same deal I just described above. I''ve been to their weddings and I care about them, but if I want to keep the wedding somewhat small, is it okay to have my aunts and uncles represent the whole family? I''m so afraid of offending anyone by not inviting them, but honestly, the guest list would be HUGE if I invited everyone I know. My parents are just too darn social.
I''ve really liked looking at invitations and venues though, and I''ve loved showing off my engagement ring.
a) deciding on what we want and how to create a memorable day for our guests as well as us AND
b) the guest list. We have a ton of family friends (some are siblings) and I''m not sure if I want to invite them. If I invite one though, I have to invite them all. They''ve been part of my life since I was born but I don''t keep in touch with them on my own anymore. If I see them at a party or hear from my parents how they''re doing, that''s great. I don''t really call them on my own to chat though. I guess I''d consider them like cousins although we''re not related. Of course I care about them but do I HAVE to have them at my wedding? This has been bugging me. Also, is it okay to invite just my aunts and uncles without inviting my cousins? It''s basically the same deal I just described above. I''ve been to their weddings and I care about them, but if I want to keep the wedding somewhat small, is it okay to have my aunts and uncles represent the whole family? I''m so afraid of offending anyone by not inviting them, but honestly, the guest list would be HUGE if I invited everyone I know. My parents are just too darn social.
I''ve really liked looking at invitations and venues though, and I''ve loved showing off my engagement ring.
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Date: 5/10/2007 6:46:42 PM
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Okay so I voted 'ups and downs.' We've only been engaged since last Saturday so we haven't gotten too far, but we had done a lot of pre-planning. The two things that are causing me stress at the moment are
a) deciding on what we want and how to create a memorable day for our guests as well as us AND
b) the guest list. We have a ton of family friends (some are siblings) and I'm not sure if I want to invite them. If I invite one though, I have to invite them all. They've been part of my life since I was born but I don't keep in touch with them on my own anymore. If I see them at a party or hear from my parents how they're doing, that's great. I don't really call them on my own to chat though. I guess I'd consider them like cousins although we're not related. Of course I care about them but do I HAVE to have them at my wedding? This has been bugging me. Also, is it okay to invite just my aunts and uncles without inviting my cousins? It's basically the same deal I just described above. I've been to their weddings and I care about them, but if I want to keep the wedding somewhat small, is it okay to have my aunts and uncles represent the whole family? I'm so afraid of offending anyone by not inviting them, but honestly, the guest list would be HUGE if I invited everyone I know. My parents are just too darn social.
I've really liked looking at invitations and venues though, and I've loved showing off my engagement ring.
Take a deep breath! It will all be ok.
I think it's fine to invite WHOEVER you want to your wedding and leave out those you don't. If you're not close to them anyway, chances are that they will be happy they don't have to spend a lot of $ trying to get to your wedding. I know I actually don't love being invited to weddings where I hardly know the people, I feel like it's fishing for gifts OR I am annoyed that I need to spend a lot of money to get to, sleep at, and attend their wedding.
If it makes you feel better, we just invited aunts and uncles and a few select cousins that were closest. No one has said anything about it, and no one seems to care or feel shafted!
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Ups and downs for me. Most of the downs were in the beginning. Sorting out and learning to accept the budget was hard. Planning the guestlist was hard (for most of the reasons that Zoe expressed and b/c due to budget, I really had to cut people that I didn''t want to cut). Those were some trying days. Once I was able to accept that I only had so much money and could only invite so many people, it has been more ups. I also don''t plan on days that I don''t feel like it so it doesn''t feel too stressful. I go for a week or so w/o doing much, then get motivated again and do something else. I feel like I''ve had a great amount of time to plan so that I can take my time. I wouldn''t say it''s been a thrilling experience but not bad, some parts more touching than others, some parts more trying than others. Buying the dress was unexpectedly fun. Deciding what little details to incorporate has been fun. Picking a cake has been fun. I have surprised myself b/c I thought I would care so much about a lot of the stuff but I really don''t.
Don''t get me wrong, I still have a lot to do and the time is certainly passing but I''m pleasantly surprised at how it''s going. Another thing that has helped was realizing and accepting that my FI wasn''t going to be very involved and that''s not b/c of his feelings for me but that he values the marriage much more than the wedding day. He voices his opinion when I ask and has been great about shopping w/me, but he''s not into all the details and accepts what I choose. Once I could accept his level of involvement, it made the planning less stressful.
Mandarine, budget is such a big issue! Sorry you''re having a little difficulty w/yours too. I am actually amazed how cheap everything is turning out. Definitely do your searching b/c there are bargains to be found. I was thrilled the other day when, on my way elsewhere, I saw a fabric store going out of business w/a sign saying "everything at least 40% off". I made sure to stop on the way back and bought the fabric I''ll need for our huppah for 50% off. Sorry to hear about the nightmares.. not fun!
Zoe, I decided that if I was going to invite one person from a particular group, I will invite them all. So I have some friends from work and whenever we hang out, it''s always all of us who hang out. Now, I''m closer to one couple than the other 2 but I just know that I can''t invite one couple w/o the others. So I''m inviting family and close friends first, depening on the rsvp''s, I''ll invite those 3 couples. If I can''t fit all of them in, then I won''t invite all. Also, I think it''s ok to invite aunts/uncles but not cousins. This is what my FI is doing. I''m not just b/c I really want my cousins there but he has so many and he''s not close to them that he felt it was ok. So I think you should do what works best for the two of you. It''s your wedding!!!
Janine, how''s it going for you?
Don''t get me wrong, I still have a lot to do and the time is certainly passing but I''m pleasantly surprised at how it''s going. Another thing that has helped was realizing and accepting that my FI wasn''t going to be very involved and that''s not b/c of his feelings for me but that he values the marriage much more than the wedding day. He voices his opinion when I ask and has been great about shopping w/me, but he''s not into all the details and accepts what I choose. Once I could accept his level of involvement, it made the planning less stressful.
Mandarine, budget is such a big issue! Sorry you''re having a little difficulty w/yours too. I am actually amazed how cheap everything is turning out. Definitely do your searching b/c there are bargains to be found. I was thrilled the other day when, on my way elsewhere, I saw a fabric store going out of business w/a sign saying "everything at least 40% off". I made sure to stop on the way back and bought the fabric I''ll need for our huppah for 50% off. Sorry to hear about the nightmares.. not fun!
Zoe, I decided that if I was going to invite one person from a particular group, I will invite them all. So I have some friends from work and whenever we hang out, it''s always all of us who hang out. Now, I''m closer to one couple than the other 2 but I just know that I can''t invite one couple w/o the others. So I''m inviting family and close friends first, depening on the rsvp''s, I''ll invite those 3 couples. If I can''t fit all of them in, then I won''t invite all. Also, I think it''s ok to invite aunts/uncles but not cousins. This is what my FI is doing. I''m not just b/c I really want my cousins there but he has so many and he''s not close to them that he felt it was ok. So I think you should do what works best for the two of you. It''s your wedding!!!
Janine, how''s it going for you?
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I voted ''ups and downs''
The start of planning was SUPER stressful--we had to change our date, couldn''t decide on a venue, had so much conflicting input etc. But once that was out of the way and the deposits were paid, things started to roll.
It has been great fun with my FI, he doesn''t take a lot of initiative (it''s not like he''ll just say, oh hon, I booked the florist today!) but he enjoys shopping with me, looking at stuff online etc. I think it has been a fun project.
Family continues to be a thorn in our side (budget, guest list, oh-so subtle passive aggressive opinion giving) but i am trying to ignore it and stay positive. So far, so good! I have potential to wander to the Bridezilla side (perfectionist) so I am making a very concious effort to keep things in perspective over the past few months.
The start of planning was SUPER stressful--we had to change our date, couldn''t decide on a venue, had so much conflicting input etc. But once that was out of the way and the deposits were paid, things started to roll.
It has been great fun with my FI, he doesn''t take a lot of initiative (it''s not like he''ll just say, oh hon, I booked the florist today!) but he enjoys shopping with me, looking at stuff online etc. I think it has been a fun project.
Family continues to be a thorn in our side (budget, guest list, oh-so subtle passive aggressive opinion giving) but i am trying to ignore it and stay positive. So far, so good! I have potential to wander to the Bridezilla side (perfectionist) so I am making a very concious effort to keep things in perspective over the past few months.
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