How many Bridesmaids are you having?

[SoonIHope]

Including maid of honor, how many bridesmaids are you going to have/did you have at your wedding? What did you take into consideration when deciding this?

[I posted my bridesmaid dilemna here which is why I ask.]

I''m only having one because our wedding is going to be small and informal, and most of my other friends are part of one group of friends or another, where I feel I''d have to invite all of the group if I asked any of them.

Please share your stories! Thanks!

 

[E B]

I have 4 friends who want to be bridesmaids, but my fiance doesn't want to have to choose attendants. We decided that to save money, we wouldn't go the traditional route and this way, no one's left out.

 

[Shiny42805]

Just my sister (MOH), his sister, and my best friend since we''re 4

 

[jcrow]

i am stuck between 3 & 4. i have 3 friends that i''ve considered asking. i have already asked my MOH and 1 other BM. the third- i haven''t asked yet. she''s made numerous comments leading me to think she is anxious for me to ask her ASAP. i hesitate, for several reasons. i also have a cousin, whom i could ask. if i ask her i think more of my family would attend my wedding- which would be cool.

i do want equal guys to girls. my FI has two brothers and another guy friend who he''s going to ask- that makes 3. i also have a best gay friend that i always pictured in my wedding party. he could easily be the 4th guy. problems involve one of his brothers. he''s a ship captain is away very often. we think we''ve timed the wedding so that he can be in town. but, the last wedding (my FSIL/MOH''s) they timed it also, but he ended up not being able to be there. so i don''t know if we should have 3 and 3 and if the brother can''t make it ask my best guy friend?

ah more decisions!

 

[anchor31]

I'm not engaged yet and the wedding is probably 2 to 3 years way, but I don't want us to have more than two attendants each. I want to ask my twin sister to be my MOH and my best friend to be my BM. Would it be a faux-pas to not ask my SO's sister to be my BM? My SO will undoubtedly ask his best friend to be his Best Man, and might ask his brother to be a GM, but I'm not sure. He probably never thought about this at all! I most probably won't have a flower girl, and I'm thinking about asking my brother to be an usher.

 

[dani13]

Ginger-

I am in the same predicament as you. My FI definitely wants 3 -his best friend and his 2 brothers. I definitely want 3- my sister and 2 best friends..But I also have a brother, who I would like to be in the party, and my other best friend is a gay male!!! We dated in the past (before he came out, even though I knew) and stayed friends even after the breakup. I would love for him to be in my wedding party too...But then it would be 5 guys, 3 girls, and I want even, so I would have to ask 2 more of my friends. But, honestly, I have a lot of acquaintances and friends, but I only want my BEST friends in my w-party...oh well , what to do- can I have a man-of-honor??? lol

 

[curlygirl]

I''m having just my sister as MOH. It saves a lot of trouble and nobody''s feelings get hurt. Saves everyone a lot of $$ too!!

 

[Tacori E-ring]

I don''t really like large wedding parties (just my 2 cents) I am having three girls he is having five guys.

 

[larussel03]

I'm having my MOH plus 4 or 5. It's hard b/c I have 2 best friends from high school who I still talk to all the time and who still are my best friends, two from college, who are now friends with the high school ones and we all hang out all the time, and then my cousin, who I just met a year ago, but is my only relative that I know and get along with just like...well cousins, I guess

. Plus my best friend from my major in college and grad school.

3 of the 5 BMs and the MOH already know, and I just feel like I can't leave out the other two, so I'm going to have a pretty large wedding party. Luckily FI has lots of really close friends like I do, plus my brother and his brother, so we can match them up. It's too hard to choose b/c while I have lots of other friends who I want to be at my wedding, not necessarily in the party, my MOH plus 4 (or 5 if I include cousin) are really my home. I love them so much and thinking about not having them feels like my heart would break. I know I dont need all these BM's but they're all like sisters to me. I dont have sisters or close family besides my cousin..

I'm thinking I may leave out my cousin....seems not the nicest, but I dont know her as well, and she's the only one who I could have the wedding with her a direct part of (plus she's in med school so she's super busy anyways)...we'll see

 

[sarita]

Just a maid-of-honor here. We are going to have a fairly small destination cruise wedding with maybe 25 at the most so this seemed logical. Originally I was going to do 3 but my fiance would only have had 2 which wouldn''t "match" and plus we were thinking we''d pay for the best man and MOH''s trip which is more feasible with less attendants.

 

[Jelly]

I''ll be having two bridesmaids and two junior bridesmaids making it a total of 4. No maid of honor or flower girls.

 

[lovelylulu]

i didn''t really want a huge wedding party, but it was sort of an all or nothing to me

i have two amazing friends that i''ve known since 7th grade (one is my MOH), then i have a SIL and a future SIL (both of whom i adore), two of my best friends from college and one amazing friend from law school. i guess i decided to adopt "the more the merrier" approach to forming my wedding party. but, none of these girls are that difficult and the personalities in the group mesh really, really well. i''d rather include them as special members in the day then be just "regular" guests. also, the one cost that we are able to really kind of reign in and do affordably is flowers 1) because the natural setting is gorgeous; and 2) because we found a great, reasonable florist --

 

[Caribou]

I am just having one person on each side. But we are having 2 ushers, my brother is walking me down the aisle, and my friend is marrying us.

 

[AndyRosse]

Three BMs and one flower girl. There will be four GMs.

Basically my MOH is my best friend, one BM is my fiance''s sister, and the other BM is a good friend of mine. The flowergirl is my six year old god-daughter.

The best man is my fiance''s brother in law, one GM is my brother, and the other two are his good friends.

 

[JKohio]

We had 3 bridesmaids, 3 groomsmen, & 2 ushers. I was all about keeping it simple & didn''t want the headaches that a larger bridal party can create. Everyone understood.

 

[saturn]

We wanted to keep the bridal party fairly small.
We''re having four each: I''m having my sister, his sister and two close friends. He''s having his brother, my brother and two friends.


I just realized that I have lived with all four of my bridesmaids!

 

[Odilia]

I have two sisters, so I had them plus best friend. Don''t like large wedding parties, and in some ways it would have been nice to just have the MOH and that''s it! But rather than choose between them, I just chose all 3. DH had one best man, one other groomsman, and an 8 year old nephew as ring-bearer, so if you count the 8 year-old, we had equal number "attendants".

 

[FireGoddess]

I had a MOH (my best friend) and 1 BM. There easily could have been 4 more, but since everyone had to travel to get to the wedding, I wanted to keep their costs down and just have them enjoy the trip.