How much longer??

[chocolatefudge]

Hi Everyone!
I''m so pleased to find this site as I''ve been looking for a forum like this for ages! I live in England with my boyfriend and we''ve been together for six and a half years. I''ve been ready to get engaged since our second year together but am still waiting.....
People started questioning when we would get engaged around the five year mark and I also started to ask my bf when this would happen. He kept on saying that he wasn''t ready but couldn''t give me a reason why. I got quite upset over it, but as we were both at uni it did seem like not the best time to get engaged.
However, we now live together and two months ago I asked AGAIN if he was ready yet and he said that he had been thinkign about it more! He even looked at a couple of wedding venues with me on the internet (I''ve been doing this for years and have folders full of dresses, favours etc....)
I am praying for a Christmas proposal but am worried that I may be getting my hopes up when he is not planning this. Aside from saying he is more ready, there has been nothing else to make me think he may propose but I want it soooo much! I get my hopes up every single Christmas/birthday/ Valentines Day/ holiday and it never happens.
Anyone else feeling as frustrated as me?
Haven''t had chance to read through the posts on here yet, going to trawl through them now

 

[tberube]

YES! Of course! You are not alone, certainly not. I waited ten years (and two separate boyfriends) before I was proposed to. I started to feel like just my mere presence alone as a girlfriend turned men into the non-marrying kind. Then I began to think that it was me, I was too nice, too good of a girlfriend - as I saw one mean, evil girlfriend after another turn up with 2 ct. diamonds and proposals after less than a year of dating. With my current guy, it took a full year of chatting about marriage, and a couple nudges ("I think I''d want to be engaged before we got a house together...that''s my rule") before I finally got the proposal.

So no, darling, you''re not alone. But - I still haven''t figured out why all the mean women get the big weddings first.

 

[Delster]

Maybe those mean women are mean to their men until they propose?

But being serious, you've been so patient chocolatefudge and it sounds like things are starting to come around for you so yippee!!!

Even if he doesn't do it this Christmas the signs are there that it's coming soon...

Welcome to Pricescope!

And I have to say I love your username...

 

[largirl]

You sound just like me! Six and a half years and a house, and no ring! I''ve been ready since our second or third year too, and it flipping SUCKS to wait. Especially when your family and his family and your friends all start to ask when you''re going to do it. Even strangers - yesterday I met some people from his new job at the Fall Outing for the first time and they did the standard, "So..how long have you been dating?" thing and when I replied six years, they looked at him and asked, "What''s wrong with you??" While it makes me laugh, it also makes me cringe. So I feel for you! I''ve been talking to him about it lately too and I think - hope - that the fact that we''re talking about it really honestly for the first time means he''s about ready.

Good luck!

 

[DMBsGirl]

Can totally relate! I have been with my FF for 9 yrs now, ugh, i know. We have been together since we were 17 and 18 so in all fairness I have only wanted to be engaged for a little over a year. But that year has been TORTURE!!! I am almost at my wits end at this point. I am getting very frustrated and upset that he has allowed it to get to this point! I really hope it happens soon because I dont want to associate these feelings with my engagement!

 

[largirl]

DMBsGirl, I feel the same, only I''m frustrated and upset that *I* let it get to this point! My friend Nate who proposed to his girlfriend after just under a year said he proposed then because he a) wanted it to be a complete surprise and b) didn''t want the relationship to get to the point where it was just expected and everyone was just waiting for it to happen. I''m kind of bummed/resentful that I''m beyond that point already! Like waaayyyyyyyyy beyond!

 

[bee*]

Date: 10/29/2007 6:04:18 PM
Author: largirl
DMBsGirl, I feel the same, only I''m frustrated and upset that *I* let it get to this point! My friend Nate who proposed to his girlfriend after just under a year said he proposed then because he a) wanted it to be a complete surprise and b) didn''t want the relationship to get to the point where it was just expected and everyone was just waiting for it to happen. I''m kind of bummed/resentful that I''m beyond that point already! Like waaayyyyyyyyy beyond!

I was beyond that point also but it was still amazing when he did it so don''t feel bad about it. I was with D 8 years when he did it earlier this month. Do you have any idea when he might do it?

 

[largirl]

I think by January, but I''ve been wrong about it before! My internal deadline, which I haven''t told him about, is February 15, because at that point all the holidays have passed and the next one isn''t until my birthday in August. So we''ll see what happens!

 

[chocolatefudge]

Hey guys. Well I''m still being patient... well trying to!! I''m trying not to mention it at all BUT a few night ago he said something about getting married!! I tried to stay clam and said, "Before Christmas?" And he said something about not getting engaged at Christmas and there are other times apart from then. I don''t know whether he''s just trying to put me off because he would want it to be a big surprise, or is he not going to propose and I''ll be gutted again. Not even sure if this is making sense! Jut fed up of waiting. When is it my turn?
I know it probably sounds stupid but I worry that he doesn''t love me enough and that''s why he doesn''t ask and when others partner''s do ask them earlier it''s because they can''t bear to be without them. Am I rambling now??
Ok rant over