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Ideal_Rock
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Seriously. I read all you ladies posting about this and that and the other with regards to planning your "real" weddings and I''ve been sitting here with a smug little smile on my face thinking I''ve beat the wedding game by eloping, right? Well, the smug is no longer on my face! I do believe I''ve blown my own mind with all this "planning". I suppose it''s because with an arts background and being a tad bit anal retentive on details, I''ve had a vision of my elopement and it''s basically a "mini wedding". Yeah, I could have gone to Vegas like FI laughingly suggested, but it''s just not me. Not that there''s anything wrong with it but the smoking all over the place alone would ruin it for me. So no, I had to go and plan the most planned elopement in possibly the history of elopements. Maybe even since post-Roman times! Seriously. I''m willing to put that out there. I cant believe all the last minute details I''d forgotten!
First, I just thought all we needed to do once we nailed down a date was book/coordinate the officiant, photographer and hotel reservations. But nooooooo!
First, my sister yelled at me (lovelingly!) and said I''d better not do my own hair and makeup since I never wear makeup...so I had to find a salon to accommodate me on a Sunday. Check.
The hair and makeup booking reminds me I need to book hair appt''s for both of us right before we leave for our wedding. And nail appt. for me as well. Check.
Then I remembered that I need a bouquet. Well, I dont NEED one but I love flowers so, well, yeah, I NEED one! So I had to make way too many phonecalls last week to find someone to do a simple hand tied bouquet. I still have to make one more call today to the person that will hopefully be able to accommodate me since most are busy with bigger weddings or will be off island that weekend. ACK.
THEN, I remembered that we need to be on island as early as possible on Sat. so I can go round and confirm hair/makeup lady, flowers, dinner/cake, location for ceremony, etc. etc. etc. since it''s all been done via phone. So we need to find a place to stay close to the ferry Friday night so we can get the early morning ferry to the island,right? Luckily I find a hotel right next to the ferry landing and they have ONE ROOM LEFT so I nab it! Check.
THEN, I cant remember if the ferry takes reservations or not so I have to check that. Not. Good. Check.
THEN, I remember that we need, oh, what do you call them, oh yeah! Airline tickets to get up there. And a rental car. Still working on that. Needs to be done today.
Then I have to find a restaurant that can make a special dinner for two (vegan) AND an eggless wedding cake for two. After three calls, I''ve found two places. YEAH! I''m booking the place that''s been around the longest since they seem really non-plussed about a vegan prix fixe menu for two and an eggless cake was to them was like "no problemo!" I''m thinking lemon with coconut frosting?
Then I find that the resort we''re staying at has a room in the main mansion that is fanfreakingtastic and naturally more expensive. But it''s like our wedding night/honeymoon together right? So we should splurge, right? It''s seriously ALOT nicer than the regular rooms. So I''m going to see if it''s still available today and book us there.
Then the officiant and photographer want to know little details like, oh, you know, WHERE will the ceremony be??? Uh, I dunno...We wanted a really private place where there''s no lookie-loos listening in. There isn''t a ton of public waterfront on island that''s public and what is, cant be cordoned off for a wedding so I found the local pottery place, which has magnificent property and old rough hewn log cabins (where they sell the pottery) and an adult tree house and a little lawn and flower garden at the edge of a 100'' cliff that has big old pines and looks out onto the water. We can use it for free, after 5pm. So a 6pm ceremony it is! The photographer is happy because the early evening light is much better there for pictures, so yea! Check.
Oh, then I forgot that we need one of those thingies...A marriage license! yeah, that''s it. So I frantically call the local marriage bureau and we just got our paperwork yesterday. I was SO excited! Just a pesky little detail I almost forgot.
Oh, THEN, what if it''s raining the day of our wedding?!? We have no back up plan. Crap. I ask if we can use the main mansion upstairs but it''s $600 for us to use it for a few minutes ceremony! So worst case scenario, we''ll either use our living room if we get the better room, or we can use the inside of the pottery shed. Or possibly a shelter on top of the mountain that I''ve heard exists but have yet to confirm.
THEN, yesterday I realize that my FI has nothing to wear to his own wedding as he keeps putting off shopping (hate it). So last night I drag him to the mall and we find a fantastic wedding oufit for him. White cotton pants, light tan silk shit with darker tan silk sports coat. He looked fabulous. I cant believe a guy can try on a few things and find a wedding outfit that fast.
Are you dizzy yet from reading this? I am!
I''m sure I''m missing something but the frantic-ness is because I got a last minute assignment and I''m going out of country next weekend for two weeks, then come back only one week before the wedding so all the planning HAS to be done by this Friday. My dear FI, whom I adore, has no tolerance for this planning and his threshold for wedding talk is minimal at best so he has no idea of how much planning is going into this. But I want it to be perfect. We''ve been together for over 14 years and while I didn''t think it would feel like such a big step to get married after being together so long, it IS! I bought some bridal mags I hadn''t seen Friday night and he just laughed and I said, "Hey, it''ll all be over soon so I''m reveling in it while I can!"
Now, I know we could have paid $50. and had this ceremony at city hall here in town, gone out to dinner and one night at a hotel and called it a day. But I really wanted to feel like a bride on my wedding day, even though we''re going to be the only two people there...I swear, I think I''m going to open my own "elopement" business...Mini weddings...whaddya think???
First, I just thought all we needed to do once we nailed down a date was book/coordinate the officiant, photographer and hotel reservations. But nooooooo!
First, my sister yelled at me (lovelingly!) and said I''d better not do my own hair and makeup since I never wear makeup...so I had to find a salon to accommodate me on a Sunday. Check.
The hair and makeup booking reminds me I need to book hair appt''s for both of us right before we leave for our wedding. And nail appt. for me as well. Check.
Then I remembered that I need a bouquet. Well, I dont NEED one but I love flowers so, well, yeah, I NEED one! So I had to make way too many phonecalls last week to find someone to do a simple hand tied bouquet. I still have to make one more call today to the person that will hopefully be able to accommodate me since most are busy with bigger weddings or will be off island that weekend. ACK.
THEN, I remembered that we need to be on island as early as possible on Sat. so I can go round and confirm hair/makeup lady, flowers, dinner/cake, location for ceremony, etc. etc. etc. since it''s all been done via phone. So we need to find a place to stay close to the ferry Friday night so we can get the early morning ferry to the island,right? Luckily I find a hotel right next to the ferry landing and they have ONE ROOM LEFT so I nab it! Check.
THEN, I cant remember if the ferry takes reservations or not so I have to check that. Not. Good. Check.
THEN, I remember that we need, oh, what do you call them, oh yeah! Airline tickets to get up there. And a rental car. Still working on that. Needs to be done today.
Then I have to find a restaurant that can make a special dinner for two (vegan) AND an eggless wedding cake for two. After three calls, I''ve found two places. YEAH! I''m booking the place that''s been around the longest since they seem really non-plussed about a vegan prix fixe menu for two and an eggless cake was to them was like "no problemo!" I''m thinking lemon with coconut frosting?
Then I find that the resort we''re staying at has a room in the main mansion that is fanfreakingtastic and naturally more expensive. But it''s like our wedding night/honeymoon together right? So we should splurge, right? It''s seriously ALOT nicer than the regular rooms. So I''m going to see if it''s still available today and book us there.
Then the officiant and photographer want to know little details like, oh, you know, WHERE will the ceremony be??? Uh, I dunno...We wanted a really private place where there''s no lookie-loos listening in. There isn''t a ton of public waterfront on island that''s public and what is, cant be cordoned off for a wedding so I found the local pottery place, which has magnificent property and old rough hewn log cabins (where they sell the pottery) and an adult tree house and a little lawn and flower garden at the edge of a 100'' cliff that has big old pines and looks out onto the water. We can use it for free, after 5pm. So a 6pm ceremony it is! The photographer is happy because the early evening light is much better there for pictures, so yea! Check.
Oh, then I forgot that we need one of those thingies...A marriage license! yeah, that''s it. So I frantically call the local marriage bureau and we just got our paperwork yesterday. I was SO excited! Just a pesky little detail I almost forgot.
Oh, THEN, what if it''s raining the day of our wedding?!? We have no back up plan. Crap. I ask if we can use the main mansion upstairs but it''s $600 for us to use it for a few minutes ceremony! So worst case scenario, we''ll either use our living room if we get the better room, or we can use the inside of the pottery shed. Or possibly a shelter on top of the mountain that I''ve heard exists but have yet to confirm.
THEN, yesterday I realize that my FI has nothing to wear to his own wedding as he keeps putting off shopping (hate it). So last night I drag him to the mall and we find a fantastic wedding oufit for him. White cotton pants, light tan silk shit with darker tan silk sports coat. He looked fabulous. I cant believe a guy can try on a few things and find a wedding outfit that fast.
Are you dizzy yet from reading this? I am!
I''m sure I''m missing something but the frantic-ness is because I got a last minute assignment and I''m going out of country next weekend for two weeks, then come back only one week before the wedding so all the planning HAS to be done by this Friday. My dear FI, whom I adore, has no tolerance for this planning and his threshold for wedding talk is minimal at best so he has no idea of how much planning is going into this. But I want it to be perfect. We''ve been together for over 14 years and while I didn''t think it would feel like such a big step to get married after being together so long, it IS! I bought some bridal mags I hadn''t seen Friday night and he just laughed and I said, "Hey, it''ll all be over soon so I''m reveling in it while I can!"
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