How rude can one person get,,today my wife and i was having dinner...

[Dancing Fire]

at a restaurant and a stranger walk pass our table and she said to my wife "that's a beautiful ring is it real ?" referring to her 3 ct ring ,so i reply by saying " dose it matter,you just said it's beautiful " on second thought i should of ask if her boobs were real,even though i knew they were silicones.

 

[valeria101]

Are you sure you want this post up there ?

 

[Garry H (Cut Nut)]

And if she said "actually, yes, they are real" then you could have replied "fantastic, now I can enjoy looking at them, and yes, the diamond is real too!"

 

[sevens one]

That was you!!!????

 

[lmurden]

Garry H (Cut Nut), Great answer!

I find that a lot people think that when a woman is wearing a very large diamond that it must be fake because they can't image a regular person having that kind of money to spend on a diamond. My mother has a 2.5 carat solitaire topaz and she always gets the same reaction "Is it fake?"

 

[Jennifer5973]

LOL.

This hasn't happened to me...yet.

Hard to say excatly what I'd do, but my gut reaction would be a big, fat, snotty "Excuuuuuse me????"

 

[ame]

I got stopped by some old wench in the hall of my office building with the gaudiest most hideously huge piece of included crack rock Ive ever seen and she said that she's been dying to ask since she saw me in the bathroom washing my hands with it on because while its pretty it seems so small and asked me if we just don't get paid very well to have something so little.

I just said "its an heirloom from his great grandmother that means the world to us and I love it" even though it isn't an heirloom. She told me "honey, with age you will learn that bigger is definitely better, and that you should have just held out. If he really loves you he will pony it up"

Judging by hers, it surely is not.

 

[Jennifer5973]

ame, are you %$#@! serious?

I would have punched her lights out.

THAT is the RUDEST thing I have ever heard... she is miserable--no one but a person who is very unhappy inside and wretched would say soemthing like that.

And you can add clueless, ignorant, rude, obnoxious, tasteless, and classless to the top of the list.

I can't believe it...

Maybe next time you can ask her where she got her rock, noting that it's hard for you to really admire it since it is so heavily INCLUDED like her brain.

 

[lmurden]

Ame,

That is so horrible. I can't believe someone would say such a thing. The hag obviously knows nothing about quality or the sentimental values of an heirloom! Very sad.

 

[ame]

Its not an heirloom. I hoped telling her that would be a way to get her to not be a b!tch but it seems to have just made it worse...I guess now she thinks we are too cheap to buy something!

Oh well. Some people are just screwed in the head. I hope she likes her golfball sized nugget because from a foot away I could see crap floatin around in it and it just gave me the willies.

I just avoid her now. And laugh at her (hysterically and maniacally) from inside my own head. Since when is just about a carat small anyway? This isn't a city like NYC where a larger stone is more common. This is the midwest. Where most folks appreciate a great deal. And the common size for a stone is about a half carat and girls are more excited with the proposal than the ring!

I wonder what a .86 carat diamond can do to a woman's forehead. I bet that's quite a hole in the noggin...It can't be THAT small. She saw it from like 12 feet away.

 

[glitterata]

This sort of behavior is incomprehensible to me. Why would anyone try to make someone else feel bad about her engagement ring?

If she really thinks your stone is embarrassingly small, wouldn't the obvious thing to do about it be to keep her mouth shut so as not to make you feel bad?

Maybe she feels bad about her own ring because she knows she has a low clarity diamond, and is trying to make herself feel better by criticizing yours.

Maybe she just doesn't understand how anyone could have different values from hers. If she chose size over clarity, maybe she genuinely can't imagine that anyone else would make a different choice. Maybe she thinks she's trying to help you by encouraging you to make the "right" choice--her choice.

But try not to let it get you down. You have a beautiful diamond that was given to you with love. It's not small at all--it's a lovely size. Wear it with joy.

 

[quaeritur]

ame- that's just un-freakin'-believable. I guess I would just have said "Oh yeah, I hear everything looks smaller the older you get...you must be very old!"

Or "there's no fool like an old fool."

 

[Gale]

Ame, I cannot believe someone would go so deliberately out of her way to make you feel bad about your engagement ring. How horrible. Whether a woman's e-ring has a .01 ct diamond, or a 10 ct diamond, it is her pride and joy. No one has the right to make any kind of remark (and that includes your rude dinner-interrupter V) about such a sentimental, heartfelt token of love and affection. Who cares whether it is real or whether it is small (I don't think yours is small at all)? As tou say, it IS about the proposal. And it's about life that follows the proposal and the life that follows the wedding.

 

[glitterata]

Hey, Vtigger, by the way, have you posted any pictures of your and your wife's rings? Can you direct me to links? I've been wanting to see them, but I can't seem to find them.

 

[verticalhorizon]

VTig... I can't believe someone would bother to stop in a restaurant to say that!

Ame... I can't believe it EVEN MORE that someone you see on a regular basis would say something like that! I wouldn't have even bothered to say anything to that 'person.' Yet I know, we all say that we don't care what other people think... some on some level we still let it burn us (hence the thread). We can't help it.

The only people who really aren't bothered by rudeness or criticism, I've found, are the very jerks who dish it out! Whatever!

 

[reena]

THAT'S APPALLING AME! luckily you have enough sense to just write her off as the *&%$# that she is. ugh.

 

[Dancing Fire]

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On 8/23/2004 5:13:09 PM glitterata wrote:

Hey, Vtigger, by the way, have you posted any pictures of your and your wife's rings? Can you direct me to links? I've been wanting to see them, but I can't seem to find them.----------------

glitterata,

here's the link to the stone

don't have a camera yet, still trying to decide which digital camera to buy. any suggestions?

 

[Dancing Fire]

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On 8/23/2004 5:49:16 AM Garry H (Cut Nut) wrote:

And if she said 'actually, yes, they are real' then you could have replied 'fantastic, now I can enjoy looking at them, and yes, the diamond is real too!'----------------

Cut Nut
if she said yes they are "real" then i would of ask real what ? "silicones"....and i'll be rolling on the floor LOL !!! i guess it takes all kinds of people to make this world go around.

 

[Dancing Fire]

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On 8/23/2004 11:32:23 AM Jennifer5973 wrote:

ame, are you %$#@! serious?

I would have punched her lights out.

THAT is the RUDEST thing I have ever heard... she is miserable--no one but a person who is very unhappy inside and wretched would say soemthing like that.

And you can add clueless, ignorant, rude, obnoxious, tasteless, and classless to the top of the list.

I can't believe it...

Maybe next time you can ask her where she got her rock, noting that it's hard for you to really admire it since it is so heavily INCLUDED like her brain.

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one thing i learn here on P.S. is don't mess around with Jenn5973 & More more more,they can kick some serious "Asssses"

 

[Garry H (Cut Nut)]

Cut Nut
if she said yes they are 'real' then i would of ask real what ? 'silicones'....and i'll be rolling on the floor LOL !!! i guess it takes all kinds of people to make is world go around.----------------[/quote]


I can just imagine you - rolling on the floor, and she piercing your ears with her stilleto heels!!!!

 

[Rowan]

Some people can be so mean. I agree, she is probably jealous because she knows her diamond is hideous.

 

[motcs]

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On 8/23/2004 11:12:32 PM Rowan wrote:

Some people can be so mean. I agree, she is probably jealous because she knows her diamond is hideous.

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Perhaps, but are her breasts real and are they fabulous?

 

[Mara]

People will say the oddest things...I don't think the restaurant comment was meant to be rude, rather sounds more like incredulous, probably because as someone else noted, big rocks that look amazing are soooo far and few between and also speak to alot of $$$$ so you don't see alot of people sporting them.




The 'old wench' probably just was doing what many older people tend to do...speaking their mind regardless of what others may think. I see this more than one would think. I would have just laughed at the 'pony it up' comment because that sounds rather like modern slang!

 

[Dancing Fire]

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On 8/23/2004 9:18:05 PM Garry H (Cut Nut) wrote:


Cut Nut
if she said yes they are 'real' then i would of ask real what ? 'silicones'....and i'll be rolling on the floor LOL !!! i guess it takes all kinds of people to make is world go around.----------------

I can just imagine you - rolling on the floor, and she piercing your ears with her stilleto heels!!!!
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OUCH... that sounds painful,luckily for me i kept my mouth shut.

 

[Jennifer5973]

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On 8/24/2004 8:52:52 AM Furthermore wrote:


Sounds like her head was silicone. )))


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HYSTERICAL. And likely true.

 

[lislaz]

Had to reply even if the story isn't my experience.

First of all, I'm sorry about the comments those ladies decided needed to be heard. Totally rude and unsolicited.

Here's the story -- my friend got engaged and got married recently. She received (to her delight) a gorgeous engagement ring and wedding ring, each with 5 to 8 small diamonds (D and E color) in channel bar settings. Together these rings sparkle like crazy and look like one band with about 5 very large sparkly diamonds in them.

She works with a LOT of older ladies, and let's just say that they are outspoken. A conversation with some of them had this kind of tone:

"Awww honey, congratulations on getting married! Let's see the ring."

She shows them the dazzlers and they look at her.

"Honey? Where's the solitaire? You know, the engagement ring."

Um. Yeah, I'm wearing it.

"Oh."

(moment of shock from all parties)

"ohhhhhhh honey. Don't worry. Maybe for your anniversary he'll be able to afford to get you the real ring."

Thankfully my friend did NOT attempt to kill them (god help her though, I know she wanted to.)

 

[Garry H (Cut Nut)]

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On 8/24/2004 8:52:52 AM Furthermore wrote:


Sounds like her head was silicone. )))


Best regards all

Furthermore ))))))))
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You mean her head was attractive as the, er, um, other bits?

 

[Carmel]

CN ~

You're naughty.

~ Carmel