Fleur
Rough_Rock
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My FI and I have decided to get married on a cruise "at sea" in May 09. Looks like it will a Princess ship since it''s the only cruise line that offers actual wedding ceremonies at sea as opposed to "on the ship" ceremonies before departure.
Some info about us: we are in our 40s. First marriage for him, third for me. No kids. We''ve been together 6 years, living together 3. Known each other since High School. Both of our parents are elderly, not in the best of health, and have no burning desire to be a part of the wedding. We''re not close to our families--friends are our family of choice. FI is a pretty private guy with no interest in a big "hoopla" so that''s why the intimacy of the at sea wedding appealed to him. I''m really fine with it just being the two of us but..... (there''s always a but, isn''t there!! LOL!!)
It would be fun to have a few close friends with us. It''s not a deal breaker but the more I think about it, the more I think how much the experience would be enhanced with a few friends to share our joy. I''m sure FI would not object if our friends came along. We just haven''t talked about this topic yet.
Here''s the issue: Asking someone to take a cruise in order to attend your wedding seems like asking a lot of someone. To me that''s not the same as asking someone to attend a ceremony in another state or even to be an attendance and pay for all those expenses. This would be a major expense. I''m assuming guests pay their own way? We''d never be able to pay for a group to go on a cruise. Perhaps if this was my first wedding, I wouldn''t have such guilt about it. I know people do it all the time so maybe I''m obsessing over something ridiculous??
So, PSers please share your opinions. How would you feel if your good friends asked you to go on a cruise in order to attend their wedding?
Some info about us: we are in our 40s. First marriage for him, third for me. No kids. We''ve been together 6 years, living together 3. Known each other since High School. Both of our parents are elderly, not in the best of health, and have no burning desire to be a part of the wedding. We''re not close to our families--friends are our family of choice. FI is a pretty private guy with no interest in a big "hoopla" so that''s why the intimacy of the at sea wedding appealed to him. I''m really fine with it just being the two of us but..... (there''s always a but, isn''t there!! LOL!!)
It would be fun to have a few close friends with us. It''s not a deal breaker but the more I think about it, the more I think how much the experience would be enhanced with a few friends to share our joy. I''m sure FI would not object if our friends came along. We just haven''t talked about this topic yet.
Here''s the issue: Asking someone to take a cruise in order to attend your wedding seems like asking a lot of someone. To me that''s not the same as asking someone to attend a ceremony in another state or even to be an attendance and pay for all those expenses. This would be a major expense. I''m assuming guests pay their own way? We''d never be able to pay for a group to go on a cruise. Perhaps if this was my first wedding, I wouldn''t have such guilt about it. I know people do it all the time so maybe I''m obsessing over something ridiculous??
So, PSers please share your opinions. How would you feel if your good friends asked you to go on a cruise in order to attend their wedding?