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I''m feeling a little anxious that FI and I may not thought out the guest list properly...
Almost a year ago, we sent out our STDs because our wedding is going to be in Mexico. At that time, we invited those we really WANTED to invite as well as some people we felt we HAD to invite. We wanted to keep it a very small wedding (no more than 30, and actually, I''d love 20-24) so there''s quite a few family members/friends that we left out. As time passed on, we started to regret some of the people we didn''t invite. Amd as we started finding out in little bits here and there that some people might not go, we decided to take a chance and print out invites for some of those people we didn''t invite via the STDs. We''re still a little afraid we''ll end up with a bigger wedding than we wanted, but we just decided to do it anyway. Problem is, some of the people who didn''t receive STDs know some of the people that did. And even though "technically" you don''t have to send out STDs to everyone, I am pretty certain those people who didn''t receive them thought they would not be invited to the wedding. There''s a couple of these situations, but the stickiest one is with a couple who is very good friends with my mom/dad and aunt/uncle. We sent out STDs to two other couples who are very good friends of the family (I''ll calll them couple #1 and couple #2) but not to them. But just the other day, we were thinking how we''d actually like to have them there (we saw them a few times at different gatherings and we just really like them, even though they''re a lot older). Anyway, I have the invitations all ready to go for them, and just TONIGHT my aunt tells me how it''s likely couple #1 will probably not be going. I didn''t say anything to my aunt that I was even planning to invite couple #3, but now I''m feeling like couple #3 might think we invited them because #1 isn''t going, when that really isn''t the case. Couple #1, #2, and #3 are fairly close, and talk often, so it''s possible couple #3 already knows #1 isn''t going.
I was planning on sending out all the invitations tomorrow...I''m wondering if I should include a little note to couple #3, but saying what? Maybe it''s better to just let it go and hope they don''t think/feel that way?
Almost a year ago, we sent out our STDs because our wedding is going to be in Mexico. At that time, we invited those we really WANTED to invite as well as some people we felt we HAD to invite. We wanted to keep it a very small wedding (no more than 30, and actually, I''d love 20-24) so there''s quite a few family members/friends that we left out. As time passed on, we started to regret some of the people we didn''t invite. Amd as we started finding out in little bits here and there that some people might not go, we decided to take a chance and print out invites for some of those people we didn''t invite via the STDs. We''re still a little afraid we''ll end up with a bigger wedding than we wanted, but we just decided to do it anyway. Problem is, some of the people who didn''t receive STDs know some of the people that did. And even though "technically" you don''t have to send out STDs to everyone, I am pretty certain those people who didn''t receive them thought they would not be invited to the wedding. There''s a couple of these situations, but the stickiest one is with a couple who is very good friends with my mom/dad and aunt/uncle. We sent out STDs to two other couples who are very good friends of the family (I''ll calll them couple #1 and couple #2) but not to them. But just the other day, we were thinking how we''d actually like to have them there (we saw them a few times at different gatherings and we just really like them, even though they''re a lot older). Anyway, I have the invitations all ready to go for them, and just TONIGHT my aunt tells me how it''s likely couple #1 will probably not be going. I didn''t say anything to my aunt that I was even planning to invite couple #3, but now I''m feeling like couple #3 might think we invited them because #1 isn''t going, when that really isn''t the case. Couple #1, #2, and #3 are fairly close, and talk often, so it''s possible couple #3 already knows #1 isn''t going.
I was planning on sending out all the invitations tomorrow...I''m wondering if I should include a little note to couple #3, but saying what? Maybe it''s better to just let it go and hope they don''t think/feel that way?