How'd you meet?

[star sparkle]

So madelise's thread about how you became BF/GF made me wonder how all you lovely ladies met your SO's! Some of you shared your story in that thread already so there might be some crossover, but feel free to re-post it here if you'd like!


My BF and I are in the same career field and met through work. We'd been working in the same building for around a year and a half before we met for the first time at a joint function. So we met, hit it off, and he said he'd stop by my office sometime and we could grab lunch. Then guess what?? He NEVER did!! I thought about him on a few occasions in the meantime, wondering what had ever happened to him, but I didn't dwell on it or anything and did my fun single girl thing for awhile.

Fast forward 6 months, my best friend at work happened to be over at his office for something and introduced herself to him. He said "Oh, I met a girl from your office awhile ago, really pretty, I think her name was xxxx?" My friend, ever the enabler and not shy, responded with "Yeah? Why, are you interested? She's single." BF laughed and said yeah, he was interested, blah blah blah. About two weeks later we got in touch and the rest is history!

I still tease him to no end about how he let 6 months go by without even so much as talking to me, and he gets a sheepish look on his face and says he was intimidated/nervous because he thought I was so pretty and was afraid of putting himself out there, and was hoping he would just happen to run into me sometime by chance and ask me out then. But he has admitted that he regrets not contacting me sooner. What a goober.

 

[princesss]

Too cute, Star Sparkle! I can't believe he didn't talk to you for 6 months. Silly boys.

Our story isn't anything too exciting from one perspective - met at a coffee shop. I was with my friend JJ and he was there on his own. I thought he was really cute and he was talking to people from another table, so I knew he was a chatty type. I thought that maybe if we were there long enough, he'd chat with us, too. But I didn't want JJ to give away that I thought he was cute, so I just up and bought myself a pot of tea! Best pot of peppermint tea ever. He invited us to go out for drinks that night, and we hung out and the rest is history.

HOWEVER, details are important in this story. We were both on vacation in NZ (he was visiting from the UK and I was visiting from the States), and the reason he suggested hanging out was because we were going skydiving that afternoon and he was going the next day so he wanted to find out what to expect. (Of course, we couldn't give him an accurate picture of what to expect since we weren't horribly hungover when *we* went skydiving...)

 

[star sparkle]

princesss, I've always thought your story is so incredible and exciting! I mean, what are the chances of finding someone like C that you adore when on an adventure far from home?

And that was just his excuse to see you again, I'm sure he didn't care one lick about how your experience skydiving might foreshadow his. Hahaha!

 

[princesss]

Well, the really funny thing is that I'd been getting comments for ages from my friends, family, and coworkers about how it would be impossible for me to find a guy I'd be willing to date in the city I live in, and that the odds were that I'd have to leave the country to find a man worth dating (for me - obviously there are awesome guys everywhere, but for what I want, trust me, I am not in the right city). One of my coworkers summed it up this way, "Princesss, you're definitely not going to find a guy to date in this city. You'll probably have to leave the state. Might have to leave the country, honestly." I tried dating here, but it was all kinds of awful, and about a month before I left I really, honestly accepted that I would have to leave the country before finding somebody I wanted to date. (My mom's advice when I was getting ready for NZ was, "Pack cute clothes! Something low cut, maybe. You know, show off the goods!")

When he left, all of his friends told him that he was going to meet somebody on the trip. (Of course then when we actually made things official there was a round of, "What? You're kidding, right? Why would you date a girl all the way in AMERICA?!?!" which absolutely cracks me up. It's like, wait a second, guys. You're the ones that told him he was going to meet somebody!)

 

[audball]

Cute stories ladies!

Andrew and I met through my ex actually. They are both the same major in college and worked together as officers in a club relevant to their major. We actually met for the first time at my house as my ex had invited him and a few other guys to go flying for an afternoon and they all met up at our place to drive together.

He still feels bad to this day that it was over a month before he even remembered my name. To his credit, I wasn't available at the time or interested in him either. Well, I was interested him...but not for me! I spent the next 3-4 months trying to get him and my best friend together. It failed, lol, but I tried! Everyone seems to find it hilarious now that I tried to hook them up. They are just too alike in their Type B relaxed outlook that it didn't mesh. Somebody had to be willing to take charge and neither of them are like that. Lucky for me!!

We spent the next few months just talking, and then falling for each other, before finally admitting our feelings. Once I was firmly separated from my now exBF, we started to see each other in person more regularly and started spending time together alone. It was nearly 7 months to the day from when I met him to when we admitted liking each other. Another month before we kissed and nearly another month before we had our first official date (that we call our anniversary).

Sometimes I feel like our anniversary should actually be back in April since that's when we started the talking that turned into those kind of conversations you have in early dating. Sometimes I feel like our anniversary should be in May since that's when we admitted our feelings for each other. Sometimes I feel like June since it's when I was officially separated finally from my ex and we started spending in person time together. Other times I like that our anniversary is the day that we went on our first official date..but it does feel weird to also know that he told me he loved me on July 30th. People think that's nuts when they realize it was only 2 weeks after our official first date, but less so when it's known that we'd been in a relationshipy sort of place since April. Hmm...what do you ladies think?

 

[star sparkle]

People think that's nuts when they realize it was only 2 weeks after our official first date, but less so when it's known that we'd been in a relationshipy sort of place since April. Hmm...what do you ladies think?

I don't think it's nuts! I mentioned in another thread that the day after mine and T's first date, he went out of town for two weeks. We talked on the phone the whole time he was gone and we knew the relationship would most likely be taken to the next level once he got back, and we celebrate our anniversary as the day that he returned and we became "official." About two weeks after that is when he told me that he loved me.

My thoughts are, when you know you love someone, you just know and it's hard to keep it in! Why should you be made to feel bad or weird that it happened quickly? I hate the games that sometimes revolve around the first "I love you"'s.

 

[pandabee]

People think that's nuts when they realize it was only 2 weeks after our official first date, but less so when it's known that we'd been in a relationshipy sort of place since April. Hmm...what do you ladies think?

I don't think it's nuts! I mentioned in another thread that the day after mine and T's first date, he went out of town for two weeks. We talked on the phone the whole time he was gone and we knew the relationship would most likely be taken to the next level once he got back, and we celebrate our anniversary as the day that he returned and we became "official." About two weeks after that is when he told me that he loved me.

My thoughts are, when you know you love someone, you just know and it's hard to keep it in! Why should you be made to feel bad or weird that it happened quickly? I hate the games that sometimes revolve around the first "I love you"'s.

I don't think I said it in my story earlier, but it took us a long time to say it...it was the first time I had ever said it to someone outside of my family, although I say it to my friends frequently. I was just so afraid of what was going to happen immediately after even though I was pretty sure he felt the same way. I don't know if he had said it to another girl before me, but I know that he barely even says it to his own family so I knew it was special when he told me that he loved me too. and when just randomly tells me out of the blue. I think I may have said it for the first time when I was very drunk one night (NYE 2011) and it took another full year and then some to really say it. so it's not always games...just nerves

 

[star sparkle]

People think that's nuts when they realize it was only 2 weeks after our official first date, but less so when it's known that we'd been in a relationshipy sort of place since April. Hmm...what do you ladies think?

I don't think it's nuts! I mentioned in another thread that the day after mine and T's first date, he went out of town for two weeks. We talked on the phone the whole time he was gone and we knew the relationship would most likely be taken to the next level once he got back, and we celebrate our anniversary as the day that he returned and we became "official." About two weeks after that is when he told me that he loved me.

My thoughts are, when you know you love someone, you just know and it's hard to keep it in! Why should you be made to feel bad or weird that it happened quickly? I hate the games that sometimes revolve around the first "I love you"'s.

I don't think I said it in my story earlier, but it took us a long time to say it...it was the first time I had ever said it to someone outside of my family, although I say it to my friends frequently. I was just so afraid of what was going to happen immediately after even though I was pretty sure he felt the same way. I don't know if he had said it to another girl before me, but I know that he barely even says it to his own family so I knew it was special when he told me that he loved me too. and when just randomly tells me out of the blue. I think I may have said it for the first time when I was very drunk one night (NYE 2011) and it took another full year and then some to really say it. so it's not always games...just nerves

Oh, I completely didn't mean to offend anyone who took longer to say it, I wasn't implying that if it takes awhile that it necessarily means games are being played. I completely understand that sometimes there are legitimate concerns and nerves when it comes to saying it, I was just referencing what I see a lot of times when people "withold" it for some reason or another, or try to use saying it/not saying it in order to gain something. Sorry if that came out wrong!

And yeah, I just love it when he says it out of the blue! Makes my heart sing.

 

[LoveLikeCrazy]

match.com!

 

[amc80]

match.com!

Same here!

 

[star sparkle]

match.com!

Same here!

Cool! I'm always so interested to hear the stories of people who met their SO's online. I was on match.com for awhile before meeting BF IRL and while I had a lot of fun going out with people I met there, I didn't have much success meeting anyone with long-term potential. I went on a ton of first dates, and handful of second dates, and maybe a couple third dates? Not a whole lot beyond that.

It's awesome that you both met great guys through there!!

 

[LoveLikeCrazy]

match.com!

Same here!

Cool! I'm always so interested to hear the stories of people who met their SO's online. I was on match.com for awhile before meeting BF IRL and while I had a lot of fun going out with people I met there, I didn't have much success meeting anyone with long-term potential. I went on a ton of first dates, and handful of second dates, and maybe a couple third dates? Not a whole lot beyond that.

It's awesome that you both met great guys through there!!

Ok so i guess i'll put the story...(although i feel its posted for the 39843947 time on this board, poor people are going to get sick of seeing it ). Star sparkle...i never thought online would find me anything more than some ego boost and lots of dates LOL.

So i had a nice string of first dates and short relationships with no potential. I wasn't going out anymore as all my friends were shacking up and pushing out babies. So i decided i would try online dating. It was July! I wanted some summer fun. I went and signed up and i was on it a few weeks. I had met 2 guys for a first date, neither of them did anything for me. Kinda meh. I decided to cancel my membership, but the account will still open the remainder of the month. I checked the email here and there to see who was interested in me. I was just about to go out on a sunday and someone tried to chat instantly, i though ehhh he's cute. Out of character, i gave him my email to find me on facebook so we could chat through there while i was out. Turns out he was heading out too & he had his account cancelled but saw a bunch of emails so he reactivated out of curiosity, and he saw me come up as a match. We facebook chatted most of the night (neglecting our poor friends) and he ended up calling me on his way home. We talked every.single.moment that we could from that point on. Hours on the phone, texting, emails, facebook. LOL

We made a date for that thursday, and it was brunch since i work second shift. He works first, but he was off that day. We both loved the same breakfast place, so it was only fitting to meet there. We met, i fell into his gorgeous blue eyes and into a trance...LOL. We were both afraid we would have nothing to talk about because we talked SO much, but we had no trouble continuing the convo in person. It felt as if i had known him forever. Some points to make. We grew up in the same town. We went to the same high school (he is 6 years older than me though). He lived less than 1.5 miles from my house. Our works were both less than 1/4 miles apart! All these weird creepy things...yet we never ran into each other.

Anyways, after breakfast we went back to his car and he kissed me right there in the parking lot! I was surprised...excited...ummm smitten?? We drove down by the beach and all over town. It seemed to end so quickly. I had to go to work. I got out of work at 11:30pm and went straight to his apt. Oh, i didn't mention that i literally passed his apartment everyday on my way to/from work...since it's on my way home!

And everyday since, i have seen him. He told me he loved me first, it was in September. He told me i was the one in October. In November he took me ring shopping. In December i moved in. Now it's April, we've been together 9 months and enjoying every single minute together. I know the engagement isnt coming for at least a year, but that doesn't stop his friends and my friends and family from asking all the time when it's going to happen.

Believe me, i never thought i could find someone so perfect for me through a computer screen. Whatever happened in the past that brought him to me...i would go through all the tears, heartbreak and sadness to have one hour with him...and lucky me he's promises me a lifetime!

 

[LJL]

C and I met while "studying" in a program in DC. We went to the same undergrad and had a lot of mutual friends but had never met until we went to Washington. A lot of booze, a lot of political debates, and there we were!

The "i love you" story is good.... only because we both said it on different nights while puking in trash cans with the other cleaning us up - and we both forgot later. I think it was like 3-7 days apart. But all those days blend together

 

[Sun-Shine]

Princess: I think it's brave when a guy can be forward like that!! Good on you guys

My friend had asked me to help her out at an event, I wound up breaking my foot 3 days prior so for the entire night I sat on a stool and handed out tickets. My now BF was kind of pacing around, and then walked up to me holding his phone took a deep breath then fired out "can-i-have-your-number?"... No intro, no smooth lines, just sheer panic. I gave it to him and he text messaged me seconds later. Once he calmed down I got his name and gave him mine. It was love/laughs at first site.

 

[madelise]

I love reading these stories. Thanks for sharing, everyone! These are so much better than the Twilight saga. Fo' realz.


I met my SO at a bar. I went with my then friend. Whose then boyfriend was hanging out with his then friend. Who brought along a lot of his friends. And one of the girls there had forced to drag along her then crush.

That then crush is now my SO. Funny, all those other people seem to hate each other now. We don't associate with them anymore.

 

[MayFlowers]

BF and I were set up on a blind date. My best friend's boyfriend was one of his good friends. We tried to set up the date a million times, but our schedules just didn't ever match up. Finally, like two months after they proposed the blind date, now BF and I finally had the same day and time free! I remember going into it with no expectations, and even though the date was probably one of the worst I have had, BF was just awesome. It ended up being a double date with the two friends who set us up in hopes that if the date was a disaster, neither of us would be in a completely awkward situation. We went bowling, got ice cream and watched a movie and then BF fell asleep during the movie! In his defense, it was a HORRIBLE date movie and a boring movie to watch even when you're not on a date!

He gave me his number at the end of the night and told me when he would be home from work the next day so that I could call him. At that time, I still had this firm belief that I would look desperate if I called him the day after our first date, so I was going to wait a few days. Then around the time he said he would be home, I got a call from my friend that now BF was on the phone with her BF and he said he had to get off the phone because he was expecting my call any minute! So, I promptly called him and we talked for hours. Actually every night after that until our next date, we would talk for at least 3 hours.

BF and I laugh about it all now. The first date was horrible and we aren't even friends with those two people who set us up anymore.

 

[audball]

Thanks ladies! Glad not everyone thinks we're crazy

Well...we are crazy...crazy in love

 

[madelise]

BF and I were set up on a blind date. My best friend's boyfriend was one of his good friends. We tried to set up the date a million times, but our schedules just didn't ever match up. Finally, like two months after they proposed the blind date, now BF and I finally had the same day and time free! I remember going into it with no expectations, and even though the date was probably one of the worst I have had, BF was just awesome. It ended up being a double date with the two friends who set us up in hopes that if the date was a disaster, neither of us would be in a completely awkward situation. We went bowling, got ice cream and watched a movie and then BF fell asleep during the movie! In his defense, it was a HORRIBLE date movie and a boring movie to watch even when you're not on a date!

He gave me his number at the end of the night and told me when he would be home from work the next day so that I could call him. At that time, I still had this firm belief that I would look desperate if I called him the day after our first date, so I was going to wait a few days. Then around the time he said he would be home, I got a call from my friend that now BF was on the phone with her BF and he said he had to get off the phone because he was expecting my call any minute! So, I promptly called him and we talked for hours. Actually every night after that until our next date, we would talk for at least 3 hours.

BF and I laugh about it all now. The first date was horrible and we aren't even friends with those two people who set us up anymore.

STORIES LIKE THESE are what keeps driving me to try to hook up all my friends with each other. HAHA. Not a single one has worked out, but I haven't given up!

 

[audball]

STORIES LIKE THESE are what keeps driving me to try to hook up all my friends with each other. HAHA. Not a single one has worked out, but I haven't given up!

Same here! I keep hoping we land the perfect set of couple friends!

 

[peonia]

great stories!

SO and i were 14 and 10 respectively when we first met, at our piano teacher's house

we went to the same school but overlapped just for one semester, and we also went to the same college but he graduated just before i started. we started dating when i was 18.

 

[gem_anemone]

I'm engaged, but I lurk in the LIW forum. I hope it is ok to post my story again

The day my fiance and I met was totally random as we were out at a bar with my roommate, but did not know each other. When my FF saw my roommie talking to me he thought I was cute and asked to be introduced. It turns out FF had previously asked to move in with my roommie, but I had stolen his room!

At first I thought nothing of him dating-wise as I was getting over a fresh break-up of which my ex did not see the same future I did (marriage and kids)...and I had been a serial monogamist with none of my relationships ending in engagement or marriage, so it was making me cynical that I would ever find the right match for myself. That and the fact that FF was somewhat younger than me and a LOT younger than my ex-BF, so if my ex-BF was not old enough for marriage, how could FF? So I did not really see FF as dating material that first night.

I must have had marriage on the brain because that first night FF and I confided to each other that what we wanted soon in the future was marriage and kids! All the advice I read on relationships tells you this is NOT the first conversation to have with a new date...since I did not consider him dating potential I took the plunge! He told me he was sick of going out with ladies in their early 20s who just wanted to party all the time, were not reliable, or were clingy. I am an independent woman with an established career, friends, and lifestyle, completely opposite of what we was used to. He had been working full-time since graduating high school and was ready to settle down, but none of the girls his age were like that. Our conversation paid off because shortly after we met, FF and I became inseparable! After four months together he even moved in with roommie and I! We now have been together for three and a half years, own our own home for the last year and a half and got engaged last August. Our wedding is in July. Our old roommie is the best man!

 

[gammygam]

Haha I should be cleaning but...here's our story.

I'm not officially engaged yet but he has the ring.

We both moved to the same city in May-June 2008. We are both in the same profession and a mutual friend of ours said that he thought we would make a good match. I was actually dating someone at the time, not seriously and apparently he was too the first night we met. We both barely registered on each other's radar that we both completely forgot that this was the first time we met.

Fast forward to NYE 2008/2009, our mutual friend invited me out and he was there. We talked a little and even flirted a bit, but I had a bad impression as I was told he was a ladies' man. I was pretty annoyed that he was flirting with me but ended up kissing another girl at midnight that night! Anyway, I went home shortly after that.

In summer 2010 after bumping into each other again and again at mutual friends' get togethers, I randomly asked him hang out just as friends. I was kinda dating (not exclusive) someone at the time long distance as well. So we did as friends for awhile until we decided to travel together on a business trip. Sparks really flew when I was with him one on one but, nothing happened until he invited me out for his birthday when we returned. What he neglected to tell me was that an ex-gf of his was in town and we all went out together. Meanwhile, I could still really tell that his ex (not serious just a couple of months of dating in college) had a thing for him, so I got annoyed thinking of NYE and I left. He followed me.

Funny enough, that still didn't really win me over. I just figured we were more of a casual thing, I wasn't looking for serious and figured he wasn't either....until he invited me to spend the holidays and New Year's with his family in the midwest. So anyway, that's the long story of how we met and FORGOT that we met each other and then eventually got together.

 

[audball]

Love the stories

 

[Chewbacca]

More stories please!

Mine:

I had gone to a show with a friend from school, who had her eye on one of the band members. During the show I met another boy, and we decided to go out on a date later that week. After he left, and the show ended, we waited around and met up with the band members. We decided to hang out, get something to eat. My now-SO was one of the band members! I vividly remember seeing him for the first time out on the street, literally stopping in my tracks, and my brain screaming "OH MY GOODNESS SO VERY VERY HOT!!". I remember feeling guilty for the boy I'd just set a date up with, my now-SO was in a complete other realm of beauty! As the night wore on it transpired that he was also in another realm of all round GREAT guy in general. Every girl seemed interested in him, and all of the boys loved him! I didn't even think twice, he was so dreamy - clearly completely unattainable!

I went to two more shows he played in, with the same friend, and with the other boy who was now my boyfriend. I think we were together for 2 or 3 months. Some span of weeks or months later I added now-SO on MySpace (he he!), because that was the thing to do, add everyone! We did a little bit of completely platonic chatting back and fourth, and then he messaged me his number out of the clear blue.


Gosh remembering all of this is so fun! He really is the babein'ist babe in babeland.

 

[Ravenne]

I love "how'd you meet" stories!! All of these are so sweet!

BF and I met at the university church that we both attended. I'd been an active member for a year and was a Junior. He was an incoming Freshman that got ensnared in the church's "welcoming BBQ" in the front yard that's meant to get new people to come to the church every year. I suppose we may have met at the BBQ, but I don't really recall it. But he came to worship that following Sunday and I was introduced to him by another person already active in the church that he'd met at the BBQ. We were all talking and joking before worship started, and I really don't recall what was said to bring this about, but at one point he put his hand over my mouth to get me to stop talking and instead of pulling away, I grabbed his hand and seriously made to bite him! He pulled away too fast, but I think that left quite an impression... Lol.

About 3 months later we had become a little group of 5-6 that hung out regularly and we were quickly becoming good friends. Then I met my ex. Charmer that he was, we started dating about 3 days after we met, dated for 2 months, before I realized he was immature (and a player, but I didn't know that until after I left him) and frankly I didn't really respect him, sad to say. I realized he would never make me happy, and I left him right before the semester ended, asking him to not contact me over Christmas break because I needed time to myself. Then he goes and calls and texts me several times and by the time the next semester started, I was so mad at him I could spit. It all came to a head when my ex showed up at the church one night to try to corner me to talk. The little group of friends I had was amazing and kinda formed a circle around me to get me out of the church. Didn't work though; my ex followed, asked to talk to me and I ended it for good. I didn't know until later that my friends had heard the whole conversation. They couldn't help overhearing. Anyway, after the conversation I came back to them fuming. I was so incredibly mad at my ex! I looked at my BF, and he was just watching me and slowly opened his arms for a hug. LOL. Who could turn that down right? And when we hugged a lightbulb came on and I realized that I really liked him. We started dating about a month later.

 

[princesss]

Awww, Ravenne, that's so cute! How long have you guys been together now?

 

[Ravenne]

About 3.5 years. Lol. I know when we get engaged, all of our friends are gonna say "Finally, geez, it's about time." I know most of the church expected him to propose before I graduated. Woops. :p