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Congratulations, Mine!!
I know it isnt probably exactly how you pictured things going, but I think it will be great! From everything you''ve said about him, it is apparent that he cares about you & your family so much. You are one very lucky girl! Are you just going to have close family and friends or just you two? Do you think you''ll do a little larger celebration later on? I feel like I''m being nosey, so I''ll stop
I wish you two futures full of lots of luck, happiness & love, so congratulations again.
I know it isnt probably exactly how you pictured things going, but I think it will be great! From everything you''ve said about him, it is apparent that he cares about you & your family so much. You are one very lucky girl! Are you just going to have close family and friends or just you two? Do you think you''ll do a little larger celebration later on? I feel like I''m being nosey, so I''ll stop
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Thanks... No.. just us... we really have no family around here and the magistates office here is actually part of the penitentary. It is a bit dreary really. You have to be buzzed in to this holding area and then into another room where a gaurd leads you into the magistrates office. We do not want to take the children and I really do not want to put any of my friends through it either. So I guess it will just be us. We really aren''t going to do any type of celebrating or anything... We just found a place cheap enough to move into for a year.. since we are not ready to buy a house now... and we are going to have to move into it by the end of July. But as long as we get married by the end of June then my insurance will kick in on July 1st. So I guess that is what we are aiming for..
I really want to be excited.. I do... And I suppose that I am... just disappointed as well. But thanks... I appriciate it.
I really want to be excited.. I do... And I suppose that I am... just disappointed as well. But thanks... I appriciate it.
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MINE,
Congratulations!!!!! Now chin up, it may not be the way you dreamed of but many weddings don''t turn out the way you dream. What matters is that you are moving forward and marrying the man you love. Find a way to celebrate afterwards, include your precious girls. It doesn''t have to be expensive or fancy. You can do something special to celebrate this special day in all of your lives. Weddings and ceremonies last minutes, a marriage lasts a life time.
Congratulations!!!!! Now chin up, it may not be the way you dreamed of but many weddings don''t turn out the way you dream. What matters is that you are moving forward and marrying the man you love. Find a way to celebrate afterwards, include your precious girls. It doesn''t have to be expensive or fancy. You can do something special to celebrate this special day in all of your lives. Weddings and ceremonies last minutes, a marriage lasts a life time.
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I just read your older thread about your teeth and insurance. I''m soooo glad you are taking care of your health and you have a wonderful Fiance - soon to be husband
standing by your side!!!
You need to get excited about Wednesday...it''s your wedding day....the first day of the rest of your life for you and your daughters with a man who loves you and will be promising to be there for you forever
Like everyone else has said, you need to find a way to celebrate this most special day. You are a very lucky and special lady!
You need to get excited about Wednesday...it''s your wedding day....the first day of the rest of your life for you and your daughters with a man who loves you and will be promising to be there for you forever
Like everyone else has said, you need to find a way to celebrate this most special day. You are a very lucky and special lady!
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Congrats!! I''m not really clear on the extenuating circumstances for you, it seems you need to do this early for insurance? But in any case, my parents got married with Justice of the PEace (neither of their families were in the US at the time) and they have been happily married for 30 years!!
If a big celebration is what you want, I don''t see why you can''t still do it later on, when the time is right... sometimes I wish I wasn''t planning this huge party, and I could just BE MARRIED already~! I guess the grass is always greener!
I think that if you''re not excited about the magistrates office, you can just get the marriage license and have someone else do the service somewhere else?? I know pretty much anyone with a permit to perform marriage ceremonies (not limited to clergy, etc... I havea friend who got a license) can do it anywhere... anytime... is this an option for you? Then you might be able to do something nice in a pleasant park or even your home and have your kids and a few friends...
Anyhow, just a thought! I''m sure you''ve already considered the possibilities...
Enjoy your special day!
If a big celebration is what you want, I don''t see why you can''t still do it later on, when the time is right... sometimes I wish I wasn''t planning this huge party, and I could just BE MARRIED already~! I guess the grass is always greener!
I think that if you''re not excited about the magistrates office, you can just get the marriage license and have someone else do the service somewhere else?? I know pretty much anyone with a permit to perform marriage ceremonies (not limited to clergy, etc... I havea friend who got a license) can do it anywhere... anytime... is this an option for you? Then you might be able to do something nice in a pleasant park or even your home and have your kids and a few friends...
Anyhow, just a thought! I''m sure you''ve already considered the possibilities...
Enjoy your special day!
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oh MINE!! be excited!! i know the circumstances are not ideal, but you''re marrying a wonderful man who clearly loves both you and your children. THAT is the point! plus, now you get to wear your wedding bands earlier
and i absolutely think you should do something nice w/ your girls in celebration of your new family. anything that you can enjoy together- from dinner, to chuck e. cheese, a baseball game. you deserve to celebrate! and i am sure your girls want to be included too.
CONGRATS! i''m sure it will be lovely, regardless
and i absolutely think you should do something nice w/ your girls in celebration of your new family. anything that you can enjoy together- from dinner, to chuck e. cheese, a baseball game. you deserve to celebrate! and i am sure your girls want to be included too.
CONGRATS! i''m sure it will be lovely, regardless
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OK mine - put on a nice dress, new or otherwise. Grab a bunch of roses from a local florist or even Costco for $10 and be EXCITED...you're getting married!!! Then rustle up the kids and a few close friends (if you want) and go to dinner someplace NICE afterwards!!! You can't do anything about where the magistrate's office is or what it looks like, but you can try to make your surroundings look or feel a little nicer by what YOU contribute to them, and what your mindset is. Just because it's not an all-out extravaganza doesn't mean you have to concede that it be dreary and unromantic. My 2 cents...
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Oh Mine, I feel for you.
I know that this is not your ideal wedding scenario, but since you are still going to have the big wedding next year, try to think of this as romantic rather than just practical. This will be a wedding for just the two of you, not a ''performance'' for all of your guests. Wear something that makes you feel beautiful, get some flowers, and make a romantic evening of it. Just you and the man that you love, pledging to share the rest of your lives.
Then, at the big wedding next year you can celebrate the commitment, without having to worry about *making* that commitment - it will already be taken care of! In a way, you''re getting another part of the wedding taken care of in advance! LOL!
I will confess to daydreaming about running off to Vegas sometime and getting secretly before my wedding next year. Then FI and I could have a nice, private romantic ceremony and celebrate ourselves before we have to do the whole 200-person wedding thing.
I hope you can find a way to make the day special and to GET EXCITED!!!!!
You''re getting married!!!!
I know that this is not your ideal wedding scenario, but since you are still going to have the big wedding next year, try to think of this as romantic rather than just practical. This will be a wedding for just the two of you, not a ''performance'' for all of your guests. Wear something that makes you feel beautiful, get some flowers, and make a romantic evening of it. Just you and the man that you love, pledging to share the rest of your lives.
Then, at the big wedding next year you can celebrate the commitment, without having to worry about *making* that commitment - it will already be taken care of! In a way, you''re getting another part of the wedding taken care of in advance! LOL!
I will confess to daydreaming about running off to Vegas sometime and getting secretly before my wedding next year. Then FI and I could have a nice, private romantic ceremony and celebrate ourselves before we have to do the whole 200-person wedding thing.
I hope you can find a way to make the day special and to GET EXCITED!!!!!
You''re getting married!!!!
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Mine-
Everything posted here is so right-on...OMG, Girl, in less than three days you''re going to be married to the man of your dreams, wearing the e-ring of your dreams, your life has taken an incredible turn-around and your family is going to have the most amazing future! If anyone can make this special, it''s you- after all, you do dream in COLOR
! Congratulations, you deserve all the happiness in the world!
Everything posted here is so right-on...OMG, Girl, in less than three days you''re going to be married to the man of your dreams, wearing the e-ring of your dreams, your life has taken an incredible turn-around and your family is going to have the most amazing future! If anyone can make this special, it''s you- after all, you do dream in COLOR
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I totally agree with everyone else that has posted! Its not your dream, but its happening and should be treated as such!
This past weekend i was at a shower with great-aunts, aunts and cousins and it was so interesting to hear them all talk about their weddings or great-grandparents weddings. No one had a lavish affair... the fanciest it got was cake and punch in the church reception hall. Out of 10 women (ranging in age from 50s-80s) 3 eloped, 3 went to the JOP and 4 had the small church weddings. 6 are still happily married, 2 divorces and 2 deaths. They all talked about their wedding like it was a $50K affair even though it consisted of nothing fancier than a 2-tier cake (if that). It made/makes me feel very silly for planning and having the 250 person bash our wedding has turned into.
So think of this has doing it the right way, the meaningful way. Your loving FI wants to take care of you and help you and have you for the rest of his life and the best way he knows to do that is to make you his wife. Put everything aside for the day. Dont worry about school or where the magistrates office is or your health issues and why things are happening the way they are. Buy a fantastic dress (or that one you already have that makes you feel like a million bucks), a beautiful bouquet of flowers, a flower for his lapel and take a camera. Stand there knowing you are getting married because you love your man and he loves you... that two are stronger than one... and that you are the most beautiful, intelligent, enduring woman in the world and deserve all the happiness you can get your hands on!!! After you are official, get someone to take a picture of you all next to the prettiest thing you can find in that office! Go out to a fabulous meal all by yourselves or include your girls or invite everyone you are close to. Be so happy that everyone around you cant help but be happy and ask what is going on and then scream as loud as you can... I'M GETTING MARRIED!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
This past weekend i was at a shower with great-aunts, aunts and cousins and it was so interesting to hear them all talk about their weddings or great-grandparents weddings. No one had a lavish affair... the fanciest it got was cake and punch in the church reception hall. Out of 10 women (ranging in age from 50s-80s) 3 eloped, 3 went to the JOP and 4 had the small church weddings. 6 are still happily married, 2 divorces and 2 deaths. They all talked about their wedding like it was a $50K affair even though it consisted of nothing fancier than a 2-tier cake (if that). It made/makes me feel very silly for planning and having the 250 person bash our wedding has turned into.
So think of this has doing it the right way, the meaningful way. Your loving FI wants to take care of you and help you and have you for the rest of his life and the best way he knows to do that is to make you his wife. Put everything aside for the day. Dont worry about school or where the magistrates office is or your health issues and why things are happening the way they are. Buy a fantastic dress (or that one you already have that makes you feel like a million bucks), a beautiful bouquet of flowers, a flower for his lapel and take a camera. Stand there knowing you are getting married because you love your man and he loves you... that two are stronger than one... and that you are the most beautiful, intelligent, enduring woman in the world and deserve all the happiness you can get your hands on!!! After you are official, get someone to take a picture of you all next to the prettiest thing you can find in that office! Go out to a fabulous meal all by yourselves or include your girls or invite everyone you are close to. Be so happy that everyone around you cant help but be happy and ask what is going on and then scream as loud as you can... I'M GETTING MARRIED!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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You know, I think that I am going to regret admitting this... but I have heard all the wonderful things that you all have said and how positive you are and how great you are and what wonderful things that you are saying and I keep thinking "I should feel that way too.. I should be excited!" BUt I am so sad and miserable... I try to get excited REALLY I try.. but I know that I am not.. I am sad and I cry and I cry and I cry. I know that I am being selfish... But can't things just happen RIGHT.. just this time? Maybe this means that I am just not grown up enough to get married again.. Maybe this means that I am better off alone.. DAMN... why am I so miserable?
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Hey MINE - try not to take that attitude about things - you are not "better off alone," no one is unless they are in some way abusive to other people.
Maybe if you can''t be happy for your own sake, try to think of your FI and your kids - they are probably very happy that you are getting married and becoming a family sooner than expected, and you want to start that new family off on the most positive note possible, in spite of the circumstances. I know its rotten to feel like things aren''t going right, but this is incredibly important and you will want to be able to remember it and have your husband and your kids remember it as a day when you at least seemed happy. Also try asking yourself - in 15 years, when we are happily married and more financially secure, when I have finished school and I''m happy with my job and the kids are grown up, is this really going to matter that much? You will still have beautiful memories of your wedding days (both of them) if you try, and maybe by pretending to be happy you will move more in that direction - its worked for me before.
In any case, best of luck with everything and do try to think of it as an exercise in mental discipline if nothing else ("I WILL focus on the positive, I WILL focus on the positive...)
I know things are rough right now, but I am sure they will get better soon - just try to keep focusing on the people around you who love you and on your bright future.
Maybe if you can''t be happy for your own sake, try to think of your FI and your kids - they are probably very happy that you are getting married and becoming a family sooner than expected, and you want to start that new family off on the most positive note possible, in spite of the circumstances. I know its rotten to feel like things aren''t going right, but this is incredibly important and you will want to be able to remember it and have your husband and your kids remember it as a day when you at least seemed happy. Also try asking yourself - in 15 years, when we are happily married and more financially secure, when I have finished school and I''m happy with my job and the kids are grown up, is this really going to matter that much? You will still have beautiful memories of your wedding days (both of them) if you try, and maybe by pretending to be happy you will move more in that direction - its worked for me before.
In any case, best of luck with everything and do try to think of it as an exercise in mental discipline if nothing else ("I WILL focus on the positive, I WILL focus on the positive...)
I know things are rough right now, but I am sure they will get better soon - just try to keep focusing on the people around you who love you and on your bright future.
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Oh MINE!!
Maybe on Wednesday you WILL get really excited and feel wonderful about getting to marry the man you love sooner.
I didn''t see the post with the reason why you are moving up the date, but it must be for a good reason. So, you can solve one problem, get married sooner, then get to do it all over again.
I have been trying to get my fiance to run off and have a pre-ceremony with just the two of us for a year now.
Granted, it was my choice, and this seems to be the only choice for you?
I know how it is to try to snap out of a mood, and follow what you know is good advice- so I will hope that it just happens on its own on your wonderful wedding day. Know how many of us will be thinking of you!!
Maybe on Wednesday you WILL get really excited and feel wonderful about getting to marry the man you love sooner.
I didn''t see the post with the reason why you are moving up the date, but it must be for a good reason. So, you can solve one problem, get married sooner, then get to do it all over again.
I have been trying to get my fiance to run off and have a pre-ceremony with just the two of us for a year now.
I know how it is to try to snap out of a mood, and follow what you know is good advice- so I will hope that it just happens on its own on your wonderful wedding day. Know how many of us will be thinking of you!!
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MINE...I can completely understand your disappointment, but I hope you can look at it in another way. Look at the reasons you''re getting married with the JOP!! If you delayed this, the consequences could be SO much worse and then you wouldn''t have the opportunity to enjoy another ceremony later...if you delayed this, you may not be able to have a wonderful life with a man who obviously cares for you ever so much!!!
Look at why you''re doing this...is it the best of circumstances? Of course not, but honestly...look how many people have "the perfect wedding" only for the marriage to be a disaster!! Your wedding isn''t the ideal situation, but look at the foundation of your relationship...your FI is SO worried about you that he is willing to forego 1 "special day" to have a lifetime with you!!! Please don''t hyperfocus on the day itself....concentrate on the PURPOSE of the day...to be with the one person who you love and cherish...your FI sounds like one special person who definitely cherishes you...most women would give themselves up for much less...
You can always go back and have the ceremony YOU wanted later...but it sounds like your reasoning to get married now is in the best interests of you and your FI at this time....just keep reminding yourself of the consequences if you didn''t do this now...and then look at the long-term goals for doing this now...
Keep your chin up...you have SO much going for you!!! CONGRATULATIONS!!!
Look at why you''re doing this...is it the best of circumstances? Of course not, but honestly...look how many people have "the perfect wedding" only for the marriage to be a disaster!! Your wedding isn''t the ideal situation, but look at the foundation of your relationship...your FI is SO worried about you that he is willing to forego 1 "special day" to have a lifetime with you!!! Please don''t hyperfocus on the day itself....concentrate on the PURPOSE of the day...to be with the one person who you love and cherish...your FI sounds like one special person who definitely cherishes you...most women would give themselves up for much less...
You can always go back and have the ceremony YOU wanted later...but it sounds like your reasoning to get married now is in the best interests of you and your FI at this time....just keep reminding yourself of the consequences if you didn''t do this now...and then look at the long-term goals for doing this now...
Keep your chin up...you have SO much going for you!!! CONGRATULATIONS!!!
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MINE!!-
I really can''t find the thread that goes into your situation in detail (something to do with teeth?), so I won''t comment except to say, first, congratulations! Next, hang in there. Whatever the problem is will work itself out and in a few years you''ll remember it fondly as a crazy foible of starting your life with your FH. When the time is right, you can do soemthing to really celebrate your marriage.
(If it is your teeth, you may be feeling kinda'' negative because of it. When I was having my wisdom tooth problems, I was really crabby! The pain was horrible... and then, believe it or not, the pain meds made kind of mean and grouchy. Just a thought!)
I really can''t find the thread that goes into your situation in detail (something to do with teeth?), so I won''t comment except to say, first, congratulations! Next, hang in there. Whatever the problem is will work itself out and in a few years you''ll remember it fondly as a crazy foible of starting your life with your FH. When the time is right, you can do soemthing to really celebrate your marriage.
(If it is your teeth, you may be feeling kinda'' negative because of it. When I was having my wisdom tooth problems, I was really crabby! The pain was horrible... and then, believe it or not, the pain meds made kind of mean and grouchy. Just a thought!)
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Well, maybe it''s asking a bit to much to tell you to be thrilled, but at least try not to be so miserable.
You have a man who loves you, and you are getting married.
I know that this sounds dumb, but they say that the physical act of smiling (even if you don''t mean it) helps boost your mood. So try walking around with a big grin on your face for a while. Even if it doesn''t help, maybe you can at least laugh at yourself.
Also, when I''m miserable, I sometimes find that taking extra B vitamins helps improve my mood.
Good luck, and congratulations.
You have a man who loves you, and you are getting married.
I know that this sounds dumb, but they say that the physical act of smiling (even if you don''t mean it) helps boost your mood. So try walking around with a big grin on your face for a while. Even if it doesn''t help, maybe you can at least laugh at yourself.
Also, when I''m miserable, I sometimes find that taking extra B vitamins helps improve my mood.
Good luck, and congratulations.
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https://www.pricescope.com/community/threads/teeth.29922/
Here''s the thread others are having trouble finding.
Mine!!,
I''m sorry you''re having such a hard time dealing with having to move the date of your marriage up. You ARE doing the right thing, and you and your soon-to-be-husband are doing what''s best for both of you and for your children. Just think how much more you''re going to be able to enjoy your big celebration next year when you''re really healthy again. Do something small to make the day special for you on Wednesday and to make your kids feel a part of things, and then concentrate on getting better.
In Germany, a lot of people just have small civil ceremonies in some registry office. And lots marry simply to get a tax break. Many have the registry office wedding one year and hold the big celebration for family and friends the next year when they can afford the church wedding and the reception. You''re not getting married now just to get medical insurance - you''re doing it because it''s the best thing you can do to secure your future and that of your family. You two had already made the commitment to one another before this started.
I sucks things aren''t working out exactly the way you dreamed, but the end effect will be the same: you''ll be married to a wonderful man, living with him (now sooner than you would have otherwise!), and raising your children together. You''re just starting your future together sooner.
Good luck!
Drk
Here''s the thread others are having trouble finding.
Mine!!,
I''m sorry you''re having such a hard time dealing with having to move the date of your marriage up. You ARE doing the right thing, and you and your soon-to-be-husband are doing what''s best for both of you and for your children. Just think how much more you''re going to be able to enjoy your big celebration next year when you''re really healthy again. Do something small to make the day special for you on Wednesday and to make your kids feel a part of things, and then concentrate on getting better.
In Germany, a lot of people just have small civil ceremonies in some registry office. And lots marry simply to get a tax break. Many have the registry office wedding one year and hold the big celebration for family and friends the next year when they can afford the church wedding and the reception. You''re not getting married now just to get medical insurance - you''re doing it because it''s the best thing you can do to secure your future and that of your family. You two had already made the commitment to one another before this started.
I sucks things aren''t working out exactly the way you dreamed, but the end effect will be the same: you''ll be married to a wonderful man, living with him (now sooner than you would have otherwise!), and raising your children together. You''re just starting your future together sooner.
Good luck!
Drk
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Mine, I just read your other thread & am SO thrilled you''re taking care of the situation w/ your teeth!
I think that you & your FI have made the best choice given the circumstances.
A couple I know from Romania got engaged over a year ago. She moved from Romania to the US to join her FI. His company didn''t offer insurance to her unless they were married, so they got married by a JP. My bf & I found out about this "surprise wedding" the afternoon of the ceremony via email. Some friends of theirs had decided to host a wedding party for them after the civil ceremony. They decorated the apartment with rose petals & candles everywhere, had about 20 nearest & dearest over & danced all night! It turned out to be a wonderful, heartfelt celebration. While the bride was initially not super excited to be getting married by a JP, she said that the whole day was just so special because it was her wedding day & she was marrying the man she loved. Nothing could change that. (she wore a pretty dress & pearls & had a mini bouquet) The party was extremely memorable & was entirely focused on the love the 2 shared for each other. (no party planning stress to get in the way!
) And they just had a religious ceremony & big reception in Romania this May, which was unbelievable as well.
So, I know it''s disappointing to have your (1st) wedding day to your FI be a civil ceremony, but it will still be special b/c you''re marrying the man you love! And you get to have another celebration in 6 months!
& congrats...
(good point, velouria, about the pain meds...)
A couple I know from Romania got engaged over a year ago. She moved from Romania to the US to join her FI. His company didn''t offer insurance to her unless they were married, so they got married by a JP. My bf & I found out about this "surprise wedding" the afternoon of the ceremony via email. Some friends of theirs had decided to host a wedding party for them after the civil ceremony. They decorated the apartment with rose petals & candles everywhere, had about 20 nearest & dearest over & danced all night! It turned out to be a wonderful, heartfelt celebration. While the bride was initially not super excited to be getting married by a JP, she said that the whole day was just so special because it was her wedding day & she was marrying the man she loved. Nothing could change that. (she wore a pretty dress & pearls & had a mini bouquet) The party was extremely memorable & was entirely focused on the love the 2 shared for each other. (no party planning stress to get in the way!
So, I know it''s disappointing to have your (1st) wedding day to your FI be a civil ceremony, but it will still be special b/c you''re marrying the man you love! And you get to have another celebration in 6 months!
& congrats...
(good point, velouria, about the pain meds...)
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I jsut read your post... I am SO GLAD you''re getting taken care of! I''m actually getting my wisdom teeth removed next Thursday! Too bad we''re not doing at the same time and don''t live in the same area-- we could have vicodin-n-videos parties-- all the while making googly eyes at our colored-gem shineys!
Why not just pretend you''re not yet married? Go spend the afternoon at the JOP, get your teeth fixed, and forget about it... until you have the *real* ceremony! Pretend you just had to file for his insurance, and that''s all the JOP wedding was. That''s what I''d do, anyway..
Why not just pretend you''re not yet married? Go spend the afternoon at the JOP, get your teeth fixed, and forget about it... until you have the *real* ceremony! Pretend you just had to file for his insurance, and that''s all the JOP wedding was. That''s what I''d do, anyway..
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Mine...I am working backwards. I read that you were getting married today, then read this thread. I still do not understand the particulars about what you had wanted versus the wedding you ended up having. (Maybe someone can help me go back to another thread that will illuminate that matter.)
I just wanted to say that you have a right to feel sad and disappointed. If you feel that way, you feel that way. Whatever you do or do not do about a future reception, I wish you well. It sounds as if you are marrying (have married!) a great guy. You still have a right to feel your wedding wasn''t the way you had dreamed it would be. What you feel, you feel
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Hugs,
Deb
I just wanted to say that you have a right to feel sad and disappointed. If you feel that way, you feel that way. Whatever you do or do not do about a future reception, I wish you well. It sounds as if you are marrying (have married!) a great guy. You still have a right to feel your wedding wasn''t the way you had dreamed it would be. What you feel, you feel
.Hugs,
Deb
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I hope your wedding day was much better than you were expecting. I know it's hard to see beyond all the trappings of modern weddings...but just the fact that your now husband was willing to change everything you had planned to marry now says a lot about how much he loves you. Marriage isn't about the white dresses, party favors & first dance songs. It's about taking care of each other. And your husband is already an ACE in this department. Congratulations to you both!
I hope your wedding day was much better than you were expecting. I know it's hard to see beyond all the trappings of modern weddings...but just the fact that your now husband was willing to change everything you had planned to marry now says a lot about how much he loves you. Marriage isn't about the white dresses, party favors & first dance songs. It's about taking care of each other. And your husband is already an ACE in this department. Congratulations to you both!
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