I am officially driving myself crazy!

[IrishEyes08]

Ok, so I am usually a pretty relaxed, level headed girl, I love all the usual things, wine, reality tv, great pair of heels, working out, etc. But lately, I''ve become this crazy person who is constantly conjuring up various wedding ideas, scenarios, etc. It needs to stop - I don''t even really know when my sweet BF is going to propose.

We looked at rings a few times over the Summer, solidified what we really loved a couple of weeks ago, talk about our wedding, future family, house and life together all the time. I know he''s going to come into a nice chunk of change over the next month or two, but he has never said by X date we''ll be engaged.

So why the sudden wedding fever and how do I get rid of it?! Ack!

 

[~*Alexis*~]

its LIW-itis at its best!! Everyone here has been through it or is going through it.

The best advice is to keep wedding **** and revel in it whenever he is not around and try and focus on other things. At one point I started to wear a rubber band and snap it when I caught myself day dreaming!

 

[dreaming of the day]

Date: 10/8/2008 4:54:24 PM
Author:IrishEyes08
Ok, so I am usually a pretty relaxed, level headed girl, I love all the usual things, wine, reality tv, great pair of heels, working out, etc.We all are!!! But lately, I''ve become this crazy person who is constantly conjuring up various wedding ideas, scenarios, etc. It needs to stop - I don''t even really know when my sweet BF is going to propose.

We looked at rings a few times over the Summer, solidified what we really loved a couple of weeks ago, talk about our wedding, future family, house and life together all the time. I know he''s going to come into a nice chunk of change over the next month or two, but he has never said by X date we''ll be engaged.

So why the sudden wedding fever and how do I get rid of it?! Good Luck with that, and if you find the answer let us know!!! Ack!

 

[sammyj]

So why the sudden wedding fever and how do I get rid of it?! Ack!

Uhhhh....one word: PRICESCOPE!!!!! Seriously, this forum has completely fueled my obsession with getting engaged/married!!!! I''m not saying it''s a bad thing though...

 

[vita*dolce]

Date: 10/8/2008 5:35:57 PM
Author: sammyj

So why the sudden wedding fever and how do I get rid of it?! Ack!

Uhhhh....one word: PRICESCOPE!!!!! Seriously, this forum has completely fueled my obsession with getting engaged/married!!!! I''m not saying it''s a bad thing though...

sammyj hit the nail on the head. PS has given me wedding fever!!

 

[dec2410]

PS has given me engagement/marriage fever to the max! i''ve had to limit my surfing on PS because it really drives me insane.

 

[anniee19]

Irish- I feel for you!!!
I believe my BF has a diamond on hold, and I was doing okay up until this point but now, I can''t resist wanting to plan everything!!! I have all these ideas and it''s so hard to keep waiting!!!

Annie

 

[Dreamgirl]

A very bad case of the LIWitis indeed!

I have my spirts of the same things. Recently, after getting my new job though, my thoughts at work aren''t completely focused on this stuff (still are, but less.) But......I slipped. Over the weekend I looked at the Pronovias ''09 gowns and fell in LOVEEEEE with a San Patrick ''09 gown which made me start to think again about when I might get engaged/married and if this gown will still be available. (Which is silly because I love their gowns every season. There was one from ''08 that I thought was the one, but this new one from ''09 is even better. IT"S PERFECT!!!!!!!)

It''s all crazy! I don''t even think we are quite ready just yet but the subject plagues my thoughts constantly............

 

[vita*dolce]

oh, dear! if you''re suffering from LIWitis, PS is NOT the place to be!! i think it''s contagious, and we''re all reinfecting each other all the time!! then again, if you have to have something on the brain, what could be better than diamonds??

 

[anxiousbee]

Don''t feel weird, I''ve officially been going crazy-in-waiting for a year. It''s literally ALL I think about.

 

[ckrickett]

Oh I understand, it''s exciting isn''t it!
I sneak on Pricescope whenever he isn''t home/not looking to indulge in my little obsessions!
this site is great for that.

I frequent SMTR alot! so much eye candy there!

 

[American Girl]

Just joined today... and like you, very normal level headed girl. Have my own life, keep myself busy. Have an absolutely amazing relationship with my boyfriend (been together a year - both in our early to mid-30''s)... and THEN we went to look at rings...

... after reading a lot of the posts on here I''m just so thankful I''m not the only one going absolutely NUTS/INSANE/CRAZY. Ever since we looked at rings, I tried a whole bunch on, picked one, picked the diamond... I have been an absolutely completely different person. I think about the ring, about him proposing, I think about the wedding, what will be the wedding date/season, we agreed on a 6 month engagement (in the engagement ring store/prior to picking out rings/and after)I can''t tear myself away from looking at wedding magazines or websites... if he knew this... he may run far far away lol.

Now... I''m trying with all of my will to NOT talk to him about the ring (he knows exactly what I want), the wedding plans, getting engaged... but it''s not always working. Sometimes HE brings it up! Mostly he wants to talk about the wedding and I just don''t know what to do with myself... lol. I keep telling him that he has to propose first. The last thing I want (seriously) is to pressure him... but if he keeps this up, I may hit him over the head and drag him to vegas .

 

[megster84]

Phew! I am not alone! lol I have always loved weddings. I can admit to the fact that I am very organized in my life (sometimes maybe a little too much) so the idea of planning a beautiful day that celebrates the love between me and SO is like my version of crack! I can''t help but look on PS, brides.com, the knot and day dream about the planning of the wedding...The side of my that is practical and not an insane addicted to lovey-wedding thoughts just enables the addict in me by saying "It''s ok Megster, when you do get engaged you will prepared!"

 

[mynewobsession]

Hi everyone! i''m new to PS and already feel right at home.

Megster, when you say, "I can admit to the fact that I am very organized in my life (sometimes maybe a little too much) so the idea of planning a beautiful day that celebrates the love between me and SO is like my version of crack!"

That sounds just like me!! I''m a planner - it''s literally what I do for a living - and I''ve just become SO preoccupied with the impending engagement that it is driving me insane! My boyfriend and I have been together for 7 years (I''m 26) and living together for most of that time. We are both on the same page as far as wanting to get married and having a medium sized wedding, but for him it''s the money factor that freaks him out. He''s very impulsive with his money and can''t save to save his life... so putting the cash away to buy a nice ring is very scary for him. It just kills me knowing that we are seen as this "perfect couple" by our family and friends, extremely dedicated to one another, and both wanting the same thing but yet he refuses to make a commitment to getting that savings account started!!

I keep telling myself, "one of these days..."

Basically, IrishEyes08 - I feel your pain!

 

[American Girl]

Oh little ms. planner - I feel your pain! I have been frequently visiting The Knot and adding lots of things here and there to my ''notebook'' to keep ideas (flowers, dresses, cakes, reception ideas). Also, I''ve got my guestlist already on the site lol. As one of the ladies put it (sorry, can''t remember who - I loved it!)... keep wedding **** haha. I have my wedding magazines and look at plenty of wedding planning websites. He may be slightly shocked (he''s a great guy, he''ll probably fold over laughing) when I''ve got everything all figured out the day after he proposes - but what the heck, he''s a planner too!

Ok back to the craziness that is now my day-to-day normal life now... I USUALLY have pretty good willpower - not so much with this new found ticking time bomb that has been set off by looking at rings. I find myself weasling in some kind of a question that may somehow give me a hint into when he may propose, did he buy the setting/diamond, is the ''timeline'' he gave me still the same, how will he do it, where will he do it, what will he say??? LOL! All of this... great questions... to NOT ASK HIM... yes yes I know... ok, the only one I''ve nudged at is if the timeline is still the same and the answer has been yes... this year (he''s DETERMINED to surprise me - but, I did ask for it - I''m not getting ANY hints).

This year... I keep looking at my calendar. Halloween??? Nah... couldn''t be then, that''s not romantic. Besides, it''s going to be an early night... and he''ll be gone the whole weekend. The next 3 weekends we don''t have anything ''planned'' (that I know of). And then there''s Thanksgiving... I can''t imagine him proposing in front of the family. Then there''s my bday in Dec... Christmas... (I asked him to not wait that long). I''m hoping that he''ll propose on a day that''s ''special'' just because that''s the day he proposed, and I genuinely believe he''s thinking up something that is going to catch me TOTALLY of guard.

I have run out of words to describe how anxious and worked up I am over all of this! I feel like some sort of an addict… looking for some SHRED of evidence that feeds into my crazy need to know when when when. I REALLY have absolutely no insight what so ever into what his plans are (he''d love to hear that lol).

Amazing how much this forum helps!

Thank you ladies!!!