PrincessNatalie
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Hi all, after having a week to absorb the info and kind of get over it I guess I am ready to post it - I post on another board which some of the ladies here also post on so some of you will have a small idea of this.
FF and I are going on a trip at the end of the year which I was about 90% sure was going to be *it*. Very sure. I truly very much had my heart set on it. Last Thursday I thought just incase I am living in a dreamworld I should probably broach the subject a little harder than I have been, to bring myself back down to earth if need be and make sure I don’t ruin the trip with my expectations – gives me 5 months to come up with a poker face I guess.
So we talked about finances and financial agreements, our plans for extensive travel, the fact that we will attend couples counselling before we get married (not because we are having issues or anything we just think it is a good idea – I have talked to couples who have done it and they always say it makes you talk about things that you don’t usually even think about, and it will makes sure are both on the same page going in), spoke about the whole thing being a matter of when not if, etc. Then I asked him if he had a more solid timeline yet and he said he didn’t know, and I said oh ok. And he said “we only talked about this not long ago” and I said “well, about 2 - 3 months ago…” and he said “Oh”. Then he said “Well for sure its not going to be this year, something impulsive could happen but I really think its better if I plan something don’t you” and laughed and I was thinking “Ok so early next year” – still during trip time, and he must have been thinking the same thing and said “And not early next year either” and I told him I actually had my heart absolutely set on the trip so I was very sad to hear that.
Then he said I really have nothing to worry about, its just circumstances etc. and planning to go overseas puts the whole thing on the back burner. There were a couple of other very good reasons too. And I do understand them all but it was still disappointing because I really had my heart set on it happening on Koh Samui on New Years. While everyone was lighting up the floating lanterns and sending them up into the sky, and all the fireworks on the beaches, it would have been amazing. I am still very disappointed that it wont happen while we are away honestly.
And after a little while of me having the sads, I said “so it could be up to a year away?” And he said “Yes it could potentially be up to a year away” and I said “Ok, I do understand, but I don’t know how I am going to handle all this waiting and LIW craziness for another whole year” and he was like “awww its definitely going to happen though don’t worry”.
So my timeline is up to a year away. He is buying the stone long before that, I know, and yes it is all definite and such but still, a year feels like forever to my little LIW heart.
He found me a bit teary over the weekend in the bedroom and said after comforting me a little and me apologising and saying I was just really disappointed and I always cry when I am disappointed he said “I want to make you feel better but you don’t want to know anything, you have said over and over again that you don’t want to know anything and want to be completely surprised. You aren’t allowed to get upset if you don’t want to know about it, because I cant say anything to make you feel better!” and laughed.
The saddest part is that I really don’t see how he could possibly top Koh Samui on New Years… EVER. Except maybe with under the Eiffel Tower in Paris. But Europe’s not going to happen for a couple of years lol.
So theres an update from me, I am probably going to crack the top 20 at least.
FF and I are going on a trip at the end of the year which I was about 90% sure was going to be *it*. Very sure. I truly very much had my heart set on it. Last Thursday I thought just incase I am living in a dreamworld I should probably broach the subject a little harder than I have been, to bring myself back down to earth if need be and make sure I don’t ruin the trip with my expectations – gives me 5 months to come up with a poker face I guess.
So we talked about finances and financial agreements, our plans for extensive travel, the fact that we will attend couples counselling before we get married (not because we are having issues or anything we just think it is a good idea – I have talked to couples who have done it and they always say it makes you talk about things that you don’t usually even think about, and it will makes sure are both on the same page going in), spoke about the whole thing being a matter of when not if, etc. Then I asked him if he had a more solid timeline yet and he said he didn’t know, and I said oh ok. And he said “we only talked about this not long ago” and I said “well, about 2 - 3 months ago…” and he said “Oh”. Then he said “Well for sure its not going to be this year, something impulsive could happen but I really think its better if I plan something don’t you” and laughed and I was thinking “Ok so early next year” – still during trip time, and he must have been thinking the same thing and said “And not early next year either” and I told him I actually had my heart absolutely set on the trip so I was very sad to hear that.
Then he said I really have nothing to worry about, its just circumstances etc. and planning to go overseas puts the whole thing on the back burner. There were a couple of other very good reasons too. And I do understand them all but it was still disappointing because I really had my heart set on it happening on Koh Samui on New Years. While everyone was lighting up the floating lanterns and sending them up into the sky, and all the fireworks on the beaches, it would have been amazing. I am still very disappointed that it wont happen while we are away honestly.
And after a little while of me having the sads, I said “so it could be up to a year away?” And he said “Yes it could potentially be up to a year away” and I said “Ok, I do understand, but I don’t know how I am going to handle all this waiting and LIW craziness for another whole year” and he was like “awww its definitely going to happen though don’t worry”.
So my timeline is up to a year away. He is buying the stone long before that, I know, and yes it is all definite and such but still, a year feels like forever to my little LIW heart.
He found me a bit teary over the weekend in the bedroom and said after comforting me a little and me apologising and saying I was just really disappointed and I always cry when I am disappointed he said “I want to make you feel better but you don’t want to know anything, you have said over and over again that you don’t want to know anything and want to be completely surprised. You aren’t allowed to get upset if you don’t want to know about it, because I cant say anything to make you feel better!” and laughed.
The saddest part is that I really don’t see how he could possibly top Koh Samui on New Years… EVER. Except maybe with under the Eiffel Tower in Paris. But Europe’s not going to happen for a couple of years lol.
So theres an update from me, I am probably going to crack the top 20 at least.
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