I need my fellow LIWs

[honey22]

Hey girls! Just a quick post - I need some 'grounding' I guess you can call it.

As many of you know, the ring is in the safe (5 months, but who's counting right) and next Thursday is our 12 year anniversary! Yes, that's not a typo, it's 12 years!!

I just need some encouragement to get through to next Friday WITHOUT getting my hopes up! SO is taking me out to a special restaurant and I really just want to enjoy my night and celebrate being with this incredible guy without thinking is it going to happen or not! He is such a sweetie, last night be bought me home flowers and told me I deserve flowers cause I am a wonderful, beautiful person - how lucky am I. I just want to have a relaxed happy night celebrating simply being in love rather than having my mind wander and hope.

I am trying not to think about the possibilities and get excited, but it keeps playing on my mind - can this finally be it? Someone bring me down to earth please (nicely hey, I am just a big softie) How can I get through the next week without torturing myself.

I really only want it to happen if that's what he has planned, if not that's cool I can wait, but as a LIW the thought has crossed my mind you know?

ETA I just realised that there was totally no point to that post, but I feel better just writing it all down!

 

[Bia]

Hmmm...I don''t know if I could refrain from getting my hopes up in this case, with it being your 12-year anniversary. Congrats on that by-the-way!!!

Look, you and your man are about to celebrate 12 years. TWELVE! That is fantastic!!! You''re thrilled and rightfully so. Try and focus on all the reasons you''re happy and why he means so much to you. I am sure you have some wonderful and meaningful things to say to him on that day, so try focusing on all the things YOU want to tell HIM--this way its not all about what he is going to...uhhh..."say" to you. Know what I mean? Also, you know the ring is in his possession, so it will likely happen in the very near future. If its not next week, maybe he has a better plan in the works.

At any rate, know that if it doesn''t happen next Friday, it will happen soon and either way, you''re going to have some good times ahead!

But because I too am a LIW, I''m still sending some special dust your way!!!

 

[honey22]

Thanks so much for your kind words Bia - you are totally right right right!

I think that if we hadn''t have purchased the ring, I might have given up all hope, but now it''s a different story. I have to be truly honest and say I would be pretty devastated if it doesn''t happen but I know that if that''s the case, it will be because he has something else in mind, and that''s ok with me, this is HIS big moment and I just have to sit back and enjoy the ride I guess.

I think we have come to such a fantastic place in our relationship, for the first time ever, I feel like everything is 100% perfect for us to move into the next phase of our life, and I know he feels great about us too. I really want this anni to be about celebrating the time we have spent together. We have had our fair share of rocky times in the past (we met when we were 18 and still basically kids) but we have grown in adults together and our relationship too has grown into something very special to both of us (not that is wasn''t special before, but it has just moved to a higher level of closeness I guess, I can''t really put that feeling into words).

I am going to put all my effort into making this day be about him - me showing how much I appreciate and adore this man who puts up with all the crazy neurotic things I do, and forget about the fact that I am a LIW for a while!

And anyway, I deserve some serious drinkies to celebrate - 12 years! My younger collegue at work giggled the other day when I told him how long we had been together and said incredulously - I was 10 when you guys got together - errr thanks, nothing like a comment like that to make a girl feel old hey?

 

[Deelight]

Honey as another long timer I feel your pain, but firstly a HUGE congrats on 12 years that is fantastic and awesome and wonderful and I am sure will only keep getting better .

I know if I was you I would be wishing like heck that he will finally pop the question, you don''t care how and would probably be working myself into a tizzy. I really hope he does it then and it is magnificent but just in case he doesn''t just think he has the ring so you know he will do it, it is really just a question of when. Being that you guys have been together for so long he might even feel some pressure (not from you just a boy pressure inside himself) that he has to make it the most fantastic proposal known to mankind, heck according to my FF when I told him your story about the ring in the safe he said he has something planned and is just waiting for the time, so thats the perspective of one Aussie bloke on another. Hopefully the 12anni is the time .

I really hope he does propose to you on your anniversary, *sending heaps of dust your way* but if he doesn''t (and the only reason I could see him not doing it is because he thinks you might expect it and wants it to be a surprise) just remember he loves you and you love him and he has the ring and he will do it. So I hope regardless of what happens you guys have the most fantastic time on your anniversary and live it up and enjoy all the wonderful moments you have had and will continue having.

*more and more and more dust* for you

 

[gwendolyn]

Oh sweetheart, you have been so very pat1ent! (sorry aga1n about my lack of ''eye''s, laptop''s broken) 1 totally understand why you would be hop1ng 1t w1ll come on your ann1versary but you KNOW that, whether 1t''s that day or not, that man loves you and apprec1ates you l1ke some women only DREAM of be1ng loved and apprec1ated. 1''m sure he''s got a plan, and maybe 1t''s to propose on your ann1versary, or maybe not--1 would be th1nk1ng the same as you 1n your pos1t1on! E1ther way, he 1s an amaz1ng man who has someth1ng spec1al up h1s sleeve, 1 th1nk. 1''ll bet, when he chooses to propose, he w1ll knock you socks off w1th how heartfelt and sweet 1t 1s. He just sounds l1ke that k1nd of guy, y''know?

DEF1N1TELY go1ng to send some dust your way, though, dearest. 1 hope 1t happens soon!!!

 

[softly softly]

Honey I can understand how hard it must be when you know your beautiful ring is just waiting for you in the safe, but I'm sure your boyfriend just wants to make it as special as possible. I think what Gwen said above is very wise, and you obviously are very appreciative of your relationship. But still waiting isn't much fun .

I have to say though, speaking from experience, being surprised by a proposal can be a wonderful thing. My husband caught me completely off guard when he proposed and it is one of my happiest memories - as I am sure it would have been even if I was expecting it.

 

[Keepingthefaith21]

What if you focused your energy on doing something special for your man on that day? Maybe you could write him a special letter that would take some time to compose or make him a card or even a little scrapbook that the two of you can keep together. Create something you know he would love and appreciate.

I''m just trying to think of a fun project you could use to preoccupy your mind as well as remind you that regardless of the outcome next Thursday you have a man who has stood by you and loved you for 12 years

 

[princesss]

I love KTF''s suggestion! Maybe make something special for him that focuses on your relationship. 12 years...that''s fantastic! What fantastic commitment to each other. Congratulations!

 

[Cookie_tyme]

Boy do I know how you feel... Even though I've been married 23 yrs, I've been waiting for my first diamond since 1997, when I first requested one. Then life happened, expenses, another baby, time went on, and all the while I increasingly hoped for that ring! Then last summer, I knew for sure it was coming soon. And I truly expected it for our 23rd wedding anniversary last March. DH even took me on a romantic trip for 3 days, HIS idea. (Having a large family, this was a treat!) I kept looking for that ring just around the corner, at a nice dinner while hearing live jazz - nope. At the zoo (he knows I love zoos) - nope. A the symphony - nope. At the museum - nope. Finally we head home, and I realize - it's not happening, and I quietly cried a little on the way home. (He didn't know this.) I got over it, and life went on. Then not a month ago, he took me out for ice cream and surprised me with the ring. Turns out, he was looking for a particular size carat as well as high quality. It took him 2 months to find it. He couldn't in time for our anniversary. He told me he was going to take me horse-back riding to give it to me, but then that fell through. So, he just did it, simply and sweetly, over ice cream. It was a surprise...mostly - I had it in the back of my mind at all times, esp when he'd initiate a date, small or big. After 23 yrs, one becomes a bit obsessive

Do try NOT to expect it. Just enjoy the night for what it is, a celebration of 12 years of loving together-ness. All that hoping I did on our trip stole from the joy of the moments that should've been memorable.

Have a couple good movies to watch when you get home, in case you do end up bummed. Distraction is a wonderful thing.

 

[purrfectpear]

It sounds like you''ve already given this a lot of thought. I think you have your head on straight about it. Have a fabulous anniversary

Now a slight thread jack; Gwen are you sure your laptop I is broken? I''ve had a few keys stop working and it always ended up being a crumb or pebble under the key. Hold your laptop upside down and shake like crazy. Blow under the I key. Maybe that''s all it is.

Back to celebrating the anni

 

[honey22]

Deelight,softly softly, princess, cookietyme, purrfectpear - thankyou all so much for your advice and support. It really does mean alot to me!

gwen - you seriously crack me up sweetie - here I was getting all teary with deelight''s post, and then your strange post pops up with all these 1''sl, totally made me crack up - I can just imagine you there typing all these 1s in and I can''t help but laugh! I really love your posts, you seem to understand me so well, I think we are quite alike us too!

KTF - I really like that suggestion! About 6? years ago, BF moved out back home for 6 weeks as were going through a bad patch. It nearly killed me, I was so miserable. It didn''t make matters worse that time included Valentine''s Day. So, I found a whole heap of photos over the past 5 or 6 years we had been together and made up a big posted and stuck them onto it. They were all of us at really happy times in our life, and I made up a Fairy tale about a princess who met a prince at a party, they fell in love, and had stumbled onto bad times. The princess had treated her prince not as well as she had hoped, and had taken him for granted, and how in fairy tales, the prince always came back and the princess knew they would work it all out and live happily even after. I gave that too him on VDay with the promise of working things out. He really loved it, its still in the back of our study cupboard to this day, along with all the little lovenotes I have ever made him, even little notes I left on the bed for him to find when he went to bed at night before we lived together fulltime, and on serviets I had scribbled on when I worked at a chicken shop! He is so adorable like that! Did I mention he used to write me poetry! I am his ''eternal rose'' - he still buys me roses every anniversary!

I know I have an awesome guy and I feel so much more chilled out about this reading your posts. I really feel support and friendship around here, I know that when I call you ladies will be there to listen to me have a cry and a vent, so thankyou so much buddies

 

[Deelight]

Aww Honey I didn''t mean to make you teary so if I upset you I am really sorry

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[honey22]

Date: 7/12/2008 8:16:23 AM
Author: Deelight
Aww Honey I didn''t mean to make you teary so if I upset you I am really sorry

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No! Not at all Deelight sweetie - you made me teary in a good way! I loved your post, thanks so much for the suport

 

[Deelight]

Phew, I thought that might be the case I just wanted to make sure I didn''t inadvertently offend you.

 

[honey22]

Not at all! You are among my favorite PSers!!

 

[Deelight]

Awww shucks (I am seriously blushing) Thank you I feel really special

Right back at you as well, your such a sweetie and you always have something lovely to say