I need some help....

[Melibk]

Okay, those of you who have read my previous posts know my story, but I will jsut be quick. Ok so my boyfriend has agreed to get married next Summer, and he said he is giong to be getting hte ring very soon. He told me not to ask anymore questions about it because he wants to do it himself. He already knows the exact ring I want. We actually bought a ring last week and had to return it. Now he says he is giong to handle it and he even said he was callin ghis jewelry store today! But I am not supposed to ask questions!!!

I am like going nuts. I just want to ask him but I thin kit is important to him that I don''t ruin it. I just want tomake sure he called and didn''t forget. i know that sounds stupid. Help me!!!!

 

[KimberlyH]

Melibk-

How exciting! Now, step back, take a deep breath and let him handle it. Part of being in a relationship is partnership...he wants to do his part, if you don''t allow him to then all you have left is a nership, and that sounds more like a space alien than a great realationship, which is what I assume you are aiming for. The more pressure you put on him the less fun and exciting this becomes for the two of you and in 50 years when you are reflecting back on this time together, you''ll want to remember that it was fun.

Now go take a bubble bath or a quiet walk or something else that sounds like fun to you and dream about your ring and upcoming life with a great guy.

 

[anchor31]

Oooh... Looks like it''s going to be soon! Enjoy the anticipation, don''t let it drive you crazy!

 

[Melibk]

I know you are all right! It sounds so easy and it is exactly what I would tell someone else. HOWEVER, I cannot wait!!! I think I have issues!! I should jsut be happy we got to this point after 4 years!!!!!!!!!!! I was super sad yesterday because we had to return my first ring. I mean, we were not officially engaged yet, so I wasnt wearing it, but at least I felt like that would be my ring once he formally asked. So sad..... I miss it even though it was not hte right ring.

 

[Christa]

Find something to distract yourself with, don''t say a word, and consider it practice for marriage . . .

 

[always.waiting]

you really have nothing to worry about. your bf has virtually guaranteed you a wedding and he is just trying to find a ring and he even told you that. it sounds quite sweet of him. You really have nothing to be frustrated about. Unlike me, I am so emotional tonight. I told my bf I''m an emotional wreck and he just said he''s tired of me harrassing him and to "do what I need to do". I can''t stop crying. It seems like he really just doesn''t care that I''m dying. I don''t know what to do. Anyway sorry to hijack. i guess i''m the one in need of help!

 

[Christa]

I''m so sorry AW . . . I was one of the hijackers in your other thread (sorry about that, too!), so I''ve been following your story. I hope this situation turns out well for you one way or another.

 

[Melibk]

AW:

Hang in there! Think about it. If your boyfriend has something planned and you bring it up he is giong to get annoyed. He will feel like he can''t do it because you are talkin gabout ti. Plus I realized that when I am mad, my boyfriend seems less interested in it. Ok- when is your official deadline? WRite back. Don''t cry!.