I need some opinions about giving a gift!

[miyabi_na]

I need some opinions!!

My bf really wants this watch he saw while we were out shopping. It''s really nice and a price I can handle and I''ve decided to get it for him since he wanted it so much.

There are no upcoming holidays that would entail a gift....no birthdays....etc..

The only other option would be "anniversary" but that''s a problem because we really don''t have an anniversary date and we''ve never celebrated one before.
We started out a couple years ago as friends and it just developed into a relationship over time so there was no "Will you be my gf" on such-and-such date. (Yes, I HATE it when people ask for the date! I never know what to say!!!!!!

and I ABSOLUTELY hate it when I try to explain and they eye me suspiciously and say "then how did you know you were really together??" what the hell does a date have to do with love? *huff* LoL okay off-topic....)

How should I approach giving him this gift-for-no-reason? I don''t want him to feel like I''m pressuring him into making a "anniversary" date for us now...and I don''t want him to feel that since I gave him a nice gift, he has to do the same back.

It''s just something I want him to have

Would it make sense if I explained it that way when he asks "why''d you get this for me?", no obligations attached?

I''m stuck!

 

[XChick03]

I would just tell him you got it because you wanted him to have it. And tell him he doesn''t need to get you anything at all, just having him is enough.

 

[Blenheim]

What about telling him essentially what you told us? "I know that you really like this and I wanted to get it for you, just because, but I don''t wait to wait however many months for a holiday to come up." If you don''t mention your anniversary at all, it won''t seem like you''re pressuring him into an anniversary date.

Do others feel like he might feel pressure to give miyaba a "just because" gift back?

 

[miyabi_na]

Date: 3/2/2006 3:39:32 PM
Author: Virginia
Gifts for no reason are the best ones! Tell him it is because ''I love you''. That should be enough. I love to give gifts, it makes me feel good and I think that there is no better reason than that someone likes something and does not expect to get it.

Very true!!
But I know he''ll still ask me why...even if I just buy him a shirt he asks my reason for it

LoL!

 

[qtiekiki]

Does he really need an explanation or an occasion to get a gift? [:tongue] In all seriousness, I think it''s fine for you to just tell him that you know how much he like the watch and you just want to him to have it. Plain and simple. He shouldn''t be against it or feel obligated to get you something.

 

[Blenheim]

I didn''t see XChick03''s response before I posted, but I think she said it beautifully.

 

[miyabi_na]

Date: 3/2/2006 3:39:56 PM
Author: Blenheim

Do others feel like he might feel pressure to give miyaba a ''just because'' gift back?

That''s what I''m afraid of! I don''t want anything back, but I know how his mind works

LoL

thanks everyone for your opinions!

 

[CareBear]

Date: 3/2/2006 3:46:20 PM
Author: miyabi_na

Date: 3/2/2006 3:39:56 PM
Author: Blenheim

Do others feel like he might feel pressure to give miyaba a ''just because'' gift back?

That''s what I''m afraid of! I don''t want anything back, but I know how his mind works

LoL

thanks everyone for your opinions!

I think the best gifts are the surprise ones that''s given not because of a birthday or holiday. Has he done anything special for you lately? Been there for you through a tough situation maybe? If so, you can say, this gifts is for.... That might make him feel less obligated to get you a gift back.