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nytemist

nytemist

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That as of this moment, my wedding is 9 weeks and about 5 hours away. And I started to flip out on the inside. Sooooo many details aren''t done yet! Haven''t made my veil, haven''t ordered my attendents'' gifts yet, don''t have a purse, haven''t found a make-up artist, don''t know if my uncle is coming (he feels the same about flying- terrified) haven''t lost the 15 pounds I need to lose so I don''t look like a whale, not to mention I haven''t really made any progress in cleaning, organizing and packing my stuff to move to fiance''s condo. Top it off with being kind of poor right now, my mom on the warpath and my car is acting up.

The gym has not been calming me down. Neither is yoga, a good glass of wine or chocolate, which I''m eating now. I''m losing sleep and I''ve been so good this far, not becoming a bridezilla driving everyone around me nuts. Anyone have some advice? I''ve had one mini-meltdown here at work. I AM LOSING IT.
 
Put down the wine and the chocolate if they aren''t helping your emotions... they won''t help you with the 15 pounds either. Believe me, I do the same thing... but it''s not helping. And if you don''t lose it, you WILL NOT look like a WHALE! Be nicer to yourself! You''re a beautiful woman and you look heavenly in your dress!!!

What will happen if you don''t have a purse? Or a handmade veil? Or a makeup artist? You''ll still get married! Can you get your makeup done at a department store the day of or are you set on getting somebody to come to your site? Would you absolutely not do it yourself? Those are the questions on that front.

as for the veil, making it might actually help you calm down... sort of a zen-like effect with an end product. I beaded one for a friend a few years ago and it was quite relaxing. Plus you can''t eat while you''re doing it, which would help that first goal again!

What kind of purse do you want? I bet the savvy shoppers at PS can find you one in a matter of moments!

calm down! You''re going to make it!
 
Okay honey. You''re feeling cranky and stressed. The weather isn''t bad today. Why don''t you get out for a while and take a walk. It''ll clear your head, give you a little energy, and make you feel good. On your way to work maybe go to a store and pick up a nice purse. Something tangible that you can hold on to and feel like you''ve done something. Have some sushi or a nice salad for dinner. Flip through the south beach diet book-- it''s great for dropping pounds short term, trust me. Don''t worry about the veil in fact, delagate it if you feel comfortable. As for the BM gifts, if you can order them online do so tonight.

It''s a start. For now... just vent on here. We''re here for you.
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I guess I''ve spent too much time staring at the list of wedding tasks that I have tacked up at my desk. It''s sending me subliminal messages to panick.

I know none of these matters will stop us from having a marriage, but they are still things that have to get done. The biggest issue is not being able to buy them right now.

I tried working on my veil at home. Not enough space and everyone bugged me. Tried to at fiance''s place. Cats looooove chiffon. I don''t have the room in the budget to buy one; I can''t bring myself to pay $100 or more for a veil.

I don''t need a make-up artist to come to me. I want to find a place to get it done after doing my hair since I suck at doing formal make-up. Plus I have problem African-American skin so I would prefer a pro to cover flaws.

Thank you for the compliment. I''m just frustrated and venting because I thought I would mostly have it together by this point since the wedding is so small. This is me having typical bride stress isn''t it?
 
Date: 8/29/2006 2:03:28 PM
Author: nytemist
This is me having typical bride stress isn''t it?
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Yup. You''re being "typical"! Now stop it!
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Just a thought- i got my veil on ebay for $16 and loved it!! It was perfect, I like you couldn''t possibly see spending over $100 on a veil, so it worked out just perfect!

Oh and yes this is all very typical...relax in the fact that you are a normal bride to be...
 
I shouldn''t be this stressed. Rationally I know this, but looking at my list got to me. Amyg, I have to make the veil since the dress is lilac.

Ok, trying to breath deeply. My boss was trying to make me laugh with his own stories of how his wife drove him crazy during their planning.

I tried searching craigslist for good make-up people in the Boston area who aren''t an arm and a leg and know good colors for my skin tone, but it hasn''t been easy.

It''s strange. I was fine this morning. Maybe it''s the rain.

At least our cake topper should be arriving in the mail at his place today.
 
SDL, yout''re on to something. Maybe that was the trigger. I was emailing my BMs because I want to get them together to see the location. I also want my photographer to see it. Two of BM''s are saying "they can''t do it then, how about this day... I have no car and could take the T, but claims she doesn''t know Downtown Boston well and couldn''t find it on her own..." which is crap. She GREW UP HERE. Of course, my third BM finally had her baby on the 15th (YAY) so basically I told her she didn''t have to do anything but show up polished the day of. Which I''m fine with. Maybe I''m starting to feel like I''m doing it myself, again, and have reached my limit. Fiance is being ok, but like a guy he doesn''t get all the girly details. He is actually working on the invite envelopes and response enelopes. We printed the invites in response cards at his mom''s house since she had a font we loved. The I assemble them, since he doesn''t quite get how the ribbons are tied.
 
Have you seen this?

http://boston.craigslist.org/sob/evs/200452442.html

Also, have you considered making a quick morning trip to the closest mall with a MAC store? You could go in a week before, have a makeup trial, and if you like it, request the same person on your wedding day (if they''re available). I believe all you have to do for a makeup trial is buy something they use, like powder or lipstick (which you''ll need for a refresher anyway!).
 
Thanks Ebree... I will look into that further. It says around the South Shore, I just don''t know how far south. Some I have read up on are kind of far from where I am. I will have a time crunch that day. Right now it''s looking like 7-10ish AM for my hair, then getting all us girls together in one meeting spot after they get hair/make-up done, wich will take a while since we''re all about 20 mins. to half hour away from each other and then going to the place to do whatever decorating we don''t get to the night before and then getting dressed by 4:40-5 PM and then ceremony at 6. Grrrrr

But I''m calmer now, I''m eating grapes.
 
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