I think I found it...

[Blenheim]

Just yesterday, I posted this about how cryptic my boyfriend''s being regarding whether or not he has the ring. One of the things that he was saying is that if he had already gotten the ring, he would have a special hiding place for it so that the guys he lives with couldn''t do anything to it.

He''s already taken over my nightstand with things that he wants to keep safe from them. The monogrammed old fashioned glasses I got him, his good scotch, etc. Last night, I thought to myself, "Wouldn''t it be funny if he were hiding it right there, under my nose?" So I looked in it, AND THERE WAS A RING BOX!!

I freaked out, then started to try to think if there''s any reason I might have put a ring box in there. I can''t think of anything else it could be, or any other reason he would have put one in there. I haven''t peeked yet, but I''ve gotten the box out and held it in my hand repeatedly. I SOOO want to see what''s in it!

I shouldn''t open it, right? Since he asked me what I liked and then picked it out without me, I want it to be a surprise, right? PLEASE tell me why I shouldn''t open it. This is even worse than trying to guess whether or not he got it!!

And I was trying to think of why he thought it could possibly be a good idea to hide it in my room (it''s not like we live together even), but then I realized. He probably got it over Christmas break (for reasons in yesterday''s post), and it''s probably been sitting there for THREE MONTHS without me finding it! THREE MONTHS. I mean, I knew that he was an incredibly patient guy, but woah. And if he can wait that long, I have no idea how longer he can wait. And everytime he was teasing me about me not knowing whether or not he had the ring, it was sitting right there!! I sleep next to it every night!



By the way: I''d love advice on what to do, but I really really don''t want him to know that I found it (and he knows that I post here and that my username is Blenheim). He''s out of the country without internet access until Sunday, so I''m going to ask the administrators to delete the entire thread next Saturday. And actually, for this reason, please be careful as to what you say in yesterday''s thread.

I think this might be the first secret I''ve ever tried to keep from him... (Well, except what his Christmas presents were and such.)

 

[anchor31]

OMG!!! He is one SNEAKY guy!!

You''re a much better woman than I am, I soooo would have opened it and even tried it on!!

If you want it to stay a surprise, then don''t open it. Then maybe you should tell him you found a ring box in your nightstand and if he doesn''t want you to open it he should move it somewhere else? How do you think he would react to that?

 

[Blenheim]

Since he''s trying to be so sneaky about it, I''m pretty sure he doesn''t want me to find it. He''d be nice to me if I explained and asked him to move it, but I''m sure he''d probably be beating himself up inside.

Plus, he''s out of town until next Sunday or Monday, so it''s going to be sitting there at least a week before I could ask him to move it. I could move it myself, but I''m not sure that that would be any better.

Sneaky, sneaky boy! I can''t believe this!

 

[sk8rjen]

Do NOT open it!!!

I really think it would be hard to give a genuine reaction if you already know what''s in that box (not that you won''t be happy, etc etc etc) but just think about seeing for the first time -- save it!!!

OK, my other thought is that it could be an evil trick by your boyfriend to see if you are looking for it, and it may be something you can''t undo (ie a false ring box that never re-closes once it''s opened with like a "gotcha" note in it or something!!)

Am I the only one here that thinks guys could do domething like that ??

I would be TOTALLY tempted to open it, but just DON''T!!!!!!!!!!!

There, hope that helps

jen

 

[anchor31]

If you move it yourself, you''ll still know where it is, right?

 

[Blenheim]

Date: 3/11/2006 5:23:25 PM
Author: anchor31
If you move it yourself, you''ll still know where it is, right?

Exactly, plus I could forget to move it back.

 

[WTNLVR]

It''s likely a trick. Likely no ring inside. That''s what my hubby would do.I''d peek just so I could calm down. Just a second to see if it is a ring

 

[Blenheim]

Date: 3/11/2006 4:59:06 PM
Author: sk8rjen
Do NOT open it!!!


I really think it would be hard to give a genuine reaction if you already know what''s in that box (not that you won''t be happy, etc etc etc) but just think about seeing for the first time -- save it!!!

Thanks

. I''m seriously the worst liar ever, and I know I couldn''t fake a "natural" reaction to seeing it for the "first time" when he proposes if I looked at it beforehand.

OK, my other thought is that it could be an evil trick by your boyfriend to see if you are looking for it, and it may be something you can''t undo (ie a false ring box that never re-closes once it''s opened with like a ''gotcha'' note in it or something!!)


Am I the only one here that thinks guys could do domething like that ??

My grandfather was a spook who did things like put small pieces of tape over drawers to see if people had opened them while he was gone. Believe it or not, this thought had crossed my mind!

 

[ilovesparkles]

DONT OPEN IT whatever you do!!!!!!! I can only imagine howq badly you do but think of how guilty you will feel afterwards! Geez I couldn''t handle it Id be calling him right this second. What a sneak! Good luck! Sorry I don''t have any better advice but don''t open it I think you''ll regret it.

Amanda

 

[Blenheim]

I still haven''t opened it. I''m trying to preoccupy with other things and concentrate on how I really do want it to be a surprise when he proposes. I''m going to be out of town later this week visiting grad schools, which will really help. I can''t peek if I''m out of town!

I had an idea for getting it and the temptation out of here, and was wondering if anyone had thoughts. He knows that I''m really trying to clean up my room. We''re moving in together in a little under 3 months, and I looked in my closet earlier this week and realized that I really need to give up clothing that I haven''t worn for two years. It''s not fair to him to take up all that closet space.

So, when he''s back from Europe and over at my place, maybe I can look over at the nightstand and say, "Oh, I forgot to clean that out. It''s mostly your stuff, but I think I have some old nail polish I never wear in there. I''ll try to take care of it after you leave." (By the way, I do keep nail polish in there.) Then I''ll make sure to leave him alone in my room for a few minutes (go to the bathroom or something), and see if he removed it after he''s gone. Then he wouldn''t have to know that I saw the box, but I wouldn''t have to struggle with not peeking! Good idea? Anyone have a better one?

 

[ilovesparkles]

Cant think of any problems with that idea and it sounds plausible, just make sure you give him enough time to figure out what to do with it lol. Poor guy may have gotten himself in a little stitch. And again good luck not peeking!!!!!!!

 

[anchor31]

If you''re a good actress, I think it''s a great idea!! You are very brave for not peeking!! Good luck!

 

[Blenheim]

Date: 3/11/2006 11:53:26 PM
Author: ilovesparkles
Cant think of any problems with that idea and it sounds plausible, just make sure you give him enough time to figure out what to do with it lol. Poor guy may have gotten himself in a little stitch. And again good luck not peeking!!!!!!!

Oh, I hadn''t quite thought of that. Hmmmmm....

 

[InLuvWithMrH]

Maybe there''s a note in there that says, Caught you peeking! Meet me at __ to find the real thing...
I would have a friend look for me to see if there is a ring in there....

 

[CourtHorn]

You must be dying! I know I would be, but you really can''t look. It will be so much more special to see if for the first time when he proposes! Stay strong. (I think you should just try (i know that won''t be easy) to forget about it and just go with the flow.) How very exciting for you!!

 

[MissAva]

You get mad bonus points for not ripping that box open the moment you saw it. Way to be strong, I would be trying to post covert pictures of the ring here on Pricescope…

Just remember it will be all the more special this way when he does give it to you, perhaps you can even tell him what a good girl you were.

 

[Blenheim]

I am soooooo retarded.

I was driving myself nuts over the whole thing, and I''ve been racking my brain since Friday trying to figure out whether there was any possible chance that I could have left a ring box in there. I couldn''t think of any reason, since I haven''t bought a ring for myself in quite a while. And finally curiosity got the better of me and I decided to figure out if there was at least a ring in the box. I turned the box around so that the hinges were facing me, opened it away from me, and reached in to touch... nothing. No ring. I turned it around to actually look it in, carefully inspected the inside of the box, and finally realized that it was the box that my college ring came in well over a year ago. I have no idea why I kept it, as my college ring lives in my jewelry box when I''m not wearing it. And I also have no idea why I put it in there with his stuff. Ah well.

At least I''m not driving myself crazy over this, and I guess I have a story to tell him when he gets back in town. Since he''s been teasing me with whether or not he has it, he might like seeing that I''m going absolutely nuts. (Bad boy.)

 

[anchor31]

Well, there''s a funny story to tell future children/relatives...

Don''t beat yourself up over it, we all have crazy moments!

 

[midgirl]

Hahahaha, good story....

sorry there was no ring! bad for peeking!

 

[AndyRosse]

Haha, well, at least you don''t have to keep stressing about whether to peek or not now!

I wonder if he put the ring box in there just to tease you??

 

[Blenheim]

Date: 3/12/2006 7:01:22 PM
Author: midgirl
bad for peeking!

I didn''t peek , exactly. I just wanted to make sure that I was freaking out for a legitimate reason, so I turned it away from me so I''d still see it for the first time when he proposes, and put on winter gloves so that I''d be able to feel the presense of a ring but not, say, the shape of the center stone or the exact size. Haha, I sound psychotic.

I might have regretted it if there had actually been a ring in there, but I''m glad that I can study for my multiple tests this week without obsessing over a non-existent ring.

Is waiting making other ladies feel absolutely crazy as well?

 

[anchor31]

Date: 3/12/2006 7:15:31 PM
Author: Blenheim
Is waiting making other ladies feel absolutely crazy as well?

If you check out my ring update thread, you''ll see that I''ve given up all control over the ring buying process last night. This morning, I was hitting my head on the wall over it. Of course I trust my boyfriend and I trust White Flash, but this is driving me INSANE!!!

I keep dreaming about the ring, and I wake up in the middle of the night and check my hand to see if it''s there. I compulsively check White Flash to see if the diamond I want has been sold a couple of time a day. So yeah, it''s making me feel absolutely crazy.

 

[moon river]

You did exactly what I would have done. The gloves were a nice touch. Didn''t think of that.

 

[chrisam143]

I too am going crazy. I helped pick out the ring over a month ago, but have not seen the final product. A few weeks ago I found the ring, we live toether, and I was so mad he hadnt asked yet, so I looked for it and he hid it in a drawer, he didnt even bother to hide it well. Like you I wanted to open it, but I knew I would never fogive myself. I did not want to see the ring, I just wanted to know if he had picked it up yet. I want the first time I see it be when he gives it to me. Everyday I touch the box, and have been tempted to open it but wont. Its been over a month since he has it and I am going crazy waiting for him to ask. he really wants it to be a surprise and is still planning it, or so he says! how can he hold onto it so long?

 

[ilovesparkles]

Date: 3/12/2006 7:15:31 PM
Author: Blenheim

Date: 3/12/2006 7:01:22 PM
Author: midgirl
bad for peeking!

I didn''t peek , exactly. I just wanted to make sure that I was freaking out for a legitimate reason, so I turned it away from me so I''d still see it for the first time when he proposes, and put on winter gloves so that I''d be able to feel the presense of a ring but not, say, the shape of the center stone or the exact size. Haha, I sound psychotic.

I might have regretted it if there had actually been a ring in there, but I''m glad that I can study for my multiple tests this week without obsessing over a non-existent ring.

Is waiting making other ladies feel absolutely crazy as well?

OMG I am laughing MAO so so hard! I don''t know if I would have been able to think of that but it was a brilliant move! Good thing that stress is gone for the moment. Good luck on all the exams this week! Midterm''s? I finished my only test yesterday and am turning all the projects in today.

Unfortunately there is much work to be done on projects and thesis on my vacay with BF over Spring break, boooo

Have fun telling him all bout your craziness (lord knows you aren''t the only one suffering around here)

Amanda

 

[Blenheim]

I''ve decided to leave this thread up after all, so when he gets back in town I can have him read it and say: "Look what you''re doing to me! Are you happy now? What are you waiting for!?!" Ok, maybe not quite that forcefully, but you know.

I''m past mid-terms, but two of my classes happen to be on the same schedule test-wise, plus I need to finish my thesis this week and prepare an abstract for a talk that I''m giving in April. I fly to visit one of my top choice grad schools TOMORROW

, so my five-day week has been cut down to three days.

It''s great that you''re getting all that stuff in today, and I''m sorry to hear about your spring break. Am I correct in remembering that you''re visiting your BF this weekend?

 

[Patchee]

LOOK IN THE BOX PLEASE!!! I am sweating here thinking about what is in that box! Hurry go, so you can tell us before he comes back!

 

[sk8rjen]

OK, that was hilarious!! For some reason, *I* feel SO much better now knowing I am not alone on this weird state of pre-engagement psychosis!! I swear it should be something we can use as an excuse (like pms) for feeling crazy all the time

Thanks for the laugh, and I''m sorry to hear it wasn''t "the" ring!

jen

 

[aphisiglovessae]

Ha ha, BAD GIRL for peeking!! I did the same thing when I was waiting. He had a ring box in his nightstand and as I was cleaning up his room and putting things away I saw it. Of course I eventually peeked, but it was just a box he kept his fraternity pins and a collectors coin in. It had actually been there for months, but when I saw it I forgot all about that and it was like it was there for the first time. It''s amazing how your mind can play tricks on you...

 

[Blenheim]

Update

BF is finally back in the country, so I showed him this thread. He just cracked up laughing.

Me: Do you think I''m psychotic?
Him: Yes.
Me: Is that good or bad?
Him: More on the good side.
Me: You''re pretty pleased with yourself, aren''t you?
Him: Oh yes. And my roommate''s going to love this story. Maybe he''ll even plant an empty ring box in his girlfriend''s room.

He''s not sure how it got in there either, but we''re guessing that I threw it in the back of my nightstand when I moved into my apartment in September and completely forgot about it.