I think I have it worse then everyone..

[Autumnovember]

Okay SO.

One day my boyfriend and I were talking about engagement rings and came to the conclusion we would go to the jewelry store where the ring was that he wanted to buy for me.

We went, and he ended up putting down the deposit for it.

Shortly thereafter, he bought the diamond (all of which he told me about)

He then ordered the ring, it took 6 weeks to make. When it was time to pick up the finished product, I waited in the car.

The ring has now been sitting in the safe deposit box since November.

I cannot explain how insanely antsy I am getting. All I know is that it will be before August, but somehow this does not sooth my antsyness.

Sometimes I wish I didn''t know about the ring at all, WHATSOEVER. Other times I think if I didn''t know about it, I''d be getting even more antsy.

Siiiigh...I''m trying to enjoy this waiting period, but its not easy...at all.

 

[Autumnovember]

Oh, I should probably add that when we went on a mini vacation this past week...I thought FOR SURE it would happen based on different things he was doing/saying.

It didn''t happen and I was irrationally disappointed =[

 

[KittyGolightly]

Okay, you win.

Why the wait?

 

[beezygal]

welcome to the club...

I'm also waiting and getting very impatient... but the ring is being made right now.. if I know my bf has the ring, I'll probably be like you...

 

[Autumnovember]

Kitty--he is waiting for the "right time". Im just glad that it''ll be sometime before August. Although I still think thats too long. I''ve been with him for 3 years, an living together for almost two. I just try to tell myself that others have it worse (I have one friend thats been with her guy for 6 years....ugh...)

 

[beezygal]

Date: 4/29/2010 1:33:26 AM
Author: Autumnovember
Kitty--he is waiting for the ''right time''. Im just glad that it''ll be sometime before August. Although I still think thats too long. I''ve been with him for 3 years, an living together for almost two. I just try to tell myself that others have it worse (I have one friend thats been with her guy for 6 years....ugh...)

That''s like me and my bf... 6 years in July... but weren''t ready to get married a few years back until now... I''m 25 and he''s 27

 

[Autumnovember]

I should have been more clear----she''s been with him for 6 years and has been ready for over a year now and there is still no ring and no ring in sight anytime soon =//

 

[beezygal]

that''s sad... We''re not so bad afterall autumn.

 

[HopeDream]

Oh AutumnNovember your wait sounds like torture! At least you have a firm emdpoint in sight. I wonder it your BF is intimidated by the extra-specialness of the occasion and has psyched himself out a bit.

Is there a special date he might be waiting for (your first meeting, your first kiss etc.), or a special seasonal occurance that will make it amazing (cherry blossoms, roses blooming, a night warm enough to lie out under the stars, the Perseid meteor shower)?

I''m sure it will happen before you know it!

I know your pain: March of last year my BF told me he had wanted to propose to me December 2008, and then said nothing more about engagement for an entire year.

Keep posting, we''re here for you !

 

[honey22]

Nup, I beat ya.

6 months in the safe. After waiting 12 YEARS FOR THE PROPOSAL!

You got it easy girl

 

[KatM]

You know he wants to marry you, and you know he''s taking steps to make that happen. Could be worse....

 

[Tigarlily1]

I''m in a similar situation right now. The ring was picked out and bought in December. Ready the beginning of January.... and in the safe IN MY BEDROOM since then!! 4 months so far. I''m getting so antsy! We just bought a house together and I was sure that when we moved in he wouldn''t be able to hold out. He has no reason to wait except that he wants to propose in a special way and when it''s warm. Apparently it being warm outside is important to his plan. Hang in there! I''m with ya!

 

[MayFlowers]

Oh boy! I would be getting sooo antsy!

 

[Autumnovember]

I''m gonna continue posting, as I think it''ll be slightly therapeutic for me )

Hoeny--You do have me beat (for now)! I think by the the time he does it, he''ll have had the ring for 8-9 months However, it is nice to see that he did eventually propose.

 

[PumpkinPie]

AutumnNovember - good luck with the wait - at least you know your ring is safe and waiting for you (well, waiting for him!)

 

[legallyspoiled]

Hi Autumn!

Oh boy. Waiting since November. I would be in a crazy house by now. Lets look at it this way. You have already waited 6 months. You only have another 4 months to go. At least you are past the half way point.

My advice to you would be to stay busy! And I know it seems impossible but find something to keep your mind off it.

Even if it is just wedding stuff, start researching vendors and spend time reading wedding blogs. I started a password protected blog where I store links and pictures of stuff so that when I do start making vendor visits, I will have tons of pics and ideas to share with them.

Also, I invite you to read and comment on my diary! You''ll find that you aren''t in this boat alone!

 

[manderz]

I totally understand where you''re coming from!! My bf and I have been together for 7 1/2 years, and living together for 7 of that. We also bought our first house nearly 2 years ago now. He''s had the ring since November. I kinda had a mini-meltdown to him a few weeks ago, and we had a nice long chat about it. He wants it to be special, and he really isn''t sure what he wants to do or how he wants to do it. Plus, added to the fact that we wouldn''t be able to get married for about 3 more years (until I graduate from college) he''s really in no rush. We love each other more than anything, and we know we''ll be together forever, it will just be nice to have that extra re-assurance, you know?

Good luck!

 

[ckrickett]

anticipation is a fickle little thing isn''t she....
do you think he is waiting for you to forget about it, so it can be a total surprise

 

[babycush]

Girl, we''re in the same boat. Bought the setting and diamond in December, got it all put together in March. Now he''s waiting for:
1- His promotion (which has been ''in the works'' since January, thanks to a huge company with a ridiculously slow promotion process)
2- The "right moment", which he allegedly already has planned out and will come sometime before my 25th birthday (April 2011). I can''t complain about this because he says it will be romantic and special and a great story to tell our families and kids someday.

UGHHHHHH!!!!! Most of the time I can forget all about it, but occasionally I''m just in anguish.

 

[HappyNewLife]

I would totally go nuts knowing the ring was already purchased and I''m just waiting....

this is why I''m proposing to my GF in June and it''s fine cuz she has no idea I even have the ring...

 

[Callisto]

That does sound like torture sorry autumn. Like others have said you should try to focus on the fact that he is taking steps in the right direction. I don''t feel like I need to get engaged right this second, but I really wish SO would want to talk about ring searching and such. He said he would talk about it seriously after he graduates (which is in 2 weeks) so we''ll see if that actually happens. I''m skeptical that it will though because hes so aversive to it right now... i KNOW he wants to marry me, we''ve been together almost 4 years and living together for almost 1. I really wouldn''t mind waiting another year to get engaged, I just want him to want to talk about it as a reality and be the one to bring it up FOR ONCE! Sorry, mini rant... idk why this is coming out today... I''m sure if he had the ring for months and hadn''t proposed I''d be going crazy haha but from where I''m standing that doesn''t sound too bad.

 

[Autumnovember]

Crikket....very possible but for some reason I don''t think that''s why but that could be me just being negative.

Here are some more staggering facts:

He is 36 years old (I''m 22---yes! 14 year difference) He is by no means "too young" or anything of that sort. He has never been married before, never been engaged, doesn''t have kids. Up until his early 30''s his focus was his career and due to his mother raising her children to believe that women will ruin their lives, he just never got interested in having a relationship.

I''m his first serious relationship (yup!).

He is one of 7 boys. None are married except for one that is getting married this summer (who is 44).

Strange right?

I blame his crazy controlling mom, (who needs a psychiatric evaluation as soon as possible) for their abnormal tendencies.



Annnnyyyhow... him having the ring for so long almost feel like rejection in a sense. To me...I don''t understand what the wait is. He''s lived with me for almost 2 years, has dated me for 3. I''m graduating college in 2 weeks. GAAAAAAAAAAH



ok I''m done

 

[sunnyd]

Autumn, you definitely don''t have it that bad. There have been LIWs who have waited for the ring for a year (Trillionaire, for example). If you didn''t want to know about the ring, well you missed your chance to speak up...

 

[HappyNewLife]

Autumn-- i bet he''s going to give it to you after you graduate. just a few more weeks (hopefully)!!! hang in there. it would drive me bananas too. I''m sure he loves you and wants to be with you, he''s just being a dork

 

[Autumnovember]

Sunny-- I didn''t think it would be a problem knowing in the beginning, because I did not think he would be holding onto the ring for over 6 months. Had I known that, or had any idea I would have kindly asked him to keep it a secret.

Believe it or not, I''ll be waiting for close to a year before I get it too...I''m sure (It was bought in October, and I can almost bet he won''t propose till August)

 

[slg47]

oh my gosh if i knew my boyfriend had the ring for so long i would be going crazy!!!!


also congratulations on graduating!

 

[rhbgirl24]

Date: 4/29/2010 2:26:01 AM
Author: honey22
Nup, I beat ya.


6 months in the safe. After waiting 12 YEARS FOR THE PROPOSAL!


You got it easy girl

THIRTEEN for the proposal here!