loveydovey
Rough_Rock
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So, we were talking and we are planning to get married Sept 2009.
We are moving into a townhome in mid-December and we are both super excited!!! (My lease on my apartment by myself is up mid-December)
Well we will be spending Thanksgiving out of town with my family and I can''t wait to see everyone and they''re just as excited.
My mother is very strict Christian who''s belief include being against boyfriend/girlfriend living together.
A huge part of me (because of my own standards and because I want her to be super happy for us) wants to be able to say "Mom we are engaged and moving together, the wedding is in Sept".
I told SO last night over dinner and at first he didn''t understand my feelings and why I thought of it like this. He told me I should just tell my mom that I''m moving to a new place and don''t mention that he will be living their too. But I told him that I want to share our good news with everyone. I dont want to just say it''s MY place when it''s OUR place.
If she doesn''t ask, I probably won''t mention it. But, if she does ask me anything about my lease and if I''m renewing or moving to a new place, then I want to tell her the truth.
So SO responding by saying that he doesnt want me to have to go through anything like that trying to duck and dodge and so then he asked me at the table "Will you marry me?" I thought that was nice, but I guess I would consider a proposal/engagement to include an engagement ring. Then he said, "Why don''t you ask me why we''re not engaged yet". So I did. And he told me that he has been saving for it, but he''s not there yet.
I told him why doesn''t he consider financing it. And he was saying he probably wouldn''t qualify and he''d rather pay for it outright. Well when we arrived at my apartment he was asking me was I Ok and if I was disappointed. I told him that I remember when we went looking at rings earlier this year...in one high end store that we walked into, the sales associate was showing some rings but then he interrupted himself and asked by SO which kind of price was he in the market for....he held up one ring which was around $1,000 and he held up another which was for around $6,000. SO pointed to the one for $6,000
. So last night I told him that I hope he''s not trying to save that much. That because it is a token from him that I would love anything he gets me. He said that I was worth more than a couple thousand dollar ring.
This morning, when we woke up (he stayed the night) we were holding each other and I asked him if he considered getting a temporary engagement ring and then upgrade at a later time. He was quietly thinking and said "I never thought about it like that" After some more time passed I asked, "so will you think about it?" he said "No.....................I''m going to do it. I''m gonna do right by you."
So, my thinking is:
But another part of me is like:
because he''ll probably propose between now and the end of the month.
I kinda always wanted my proposal to be a surprise.
Did/does anybody else already know when their SO was going to propose?
We are moving into a townhome in mid-December and we are both super excited!!! (My lease on my apartment by myself is up mid-December)
Well we will be spending Thanksgiving out of town with my family and I can''t wait to see everyone and they''re just as excited.
My mother is very strict Christian who''s belief include being against boyfriend/girlfriend living together.
A huge part of me (because of my own standards and because I want her to be super happy for us) wants to be able to say "Mom we are engaged and moving together, the wedding is in Sept".
I told SO last night over dinner and at first he didn''t understand my feelings and why I thought of it like this. He told me I should just tell my mom that I''m moving to a new place and don''t mention that he will be living their too. But I told him that I want to share our good news with everyone. I dont want to just say it''s MY place when it''s OUR place.
If she doesn''t ask, I probably won''t mention it. But, if she does ask me anything about my lease and if I''m renewing or moving to a new place, then I want to tell her the truth.
So SO responding by saying that he doesnt want me to have to go through anything like that trying to duck and dodge and so then he asked me at the table "Will you marry me?" I thought that was nice, but I guess I would consider a proposal/engagement to include an engagement ring. Then he said, "Why don''t you ask me why we''re not engaged yet". So I did. And he told me that he has been saving for it, but he''s not there yet.
I told him why doesn''t he consider financing it. And he was saying he probably wouldn''t qualify and he''d rather pay for it outright. Well when we arrived at my apartment he was asking me was I Ok and if I was disappointed. I told him that I remember when we went looking at rings earlier this year...in one high end store that we walked into, the sales associate was showing some rings but then he interrupted himself and asked by SO which kind of price was he in the market for....he held up one ring which was around $1,000 and he held up another which was for around $6,000. SO pointed to the one for $6,000
This morning, when we woke up (he stayed the night) we were holding each other and I asked him if he considered getting a temporary engagement ring and then upgrade at a later time. He was quietly thinking and said "I never thought about it like that" After some more time passed I asked, "so will you think about it?" he said "No.....................I''m going to do it. I''m gonna do right by you."
So, my thinking is:
But another part of me is like:
I kinda always wanted my proposal to be a surprise.
Did/does anybody else already know when their SO was going to propose?
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