I think I totally just spoiled it!!!

[dreaming of the day]

Hey everyone,

Boy did I miss PS when I was on holidays!!! Glad to be back.

Well I think I may have just completely spoiled my ring surprise, and I feel absolutely awful! I know my FF has already purchased the diamond, because I picked it out. It''s a cushion so I needed to have my input

. (I never actually got to see the diamond, just the GIA, Sarin, IS, ASET and 40X - No real pictures of the diamond at all.) We set the end of the year as the our timeline and I was fully expecting a christmas proposal, but now I am not so sure.

I talk to FF about settings all the time, he knows I am obsessed! Well last night before bed it came to me that I never told him that I would like the diamond set North to South not East to West. So like usual I thought I would "educate" him on my preference. Well, he freaked. He kept going on about how I peaked at the diamond, etc. etc... Obviously I didn''t... and what difference is it going to make if the diamond is still loose? Well he kept saying he didn''t understand what I was talking about with the whole N/S E/W thing, and that I must have peeked. I feel so terrible. I think he has it completely set, and was going to surprise me way sooner than x-mas, and it has been done E/W.

I don"t know what to do, even just thinking about spoiling his surprise kills me, and on top of it if he set the opposite way (which in the end would be fine) I just totally made him doubt the entire ring. I wouldn''t have thought anything if he didn''t react the way he did - what am I to do????

 

[vita*dolce]

oh, no!! i hope you''re wrong, because he must feel awful if he set it E/W and then you told him how much you hated that!! don''t worry though, you may be misinterpreting his reaction, and either way it shouldn''t be too hard to have it reset as you like it.

only 2 more months left in the year -- your time is coming up soo quickly!!

 

[Dreamgirl]

Hopefully its what you want! But at least he has a ring, you lucky girl you.............

 

[dreaming of the day]

It totally sounds like he has the ring doesn''t it??? And I spoiled it, didn''t I???

 

[Dreamgirl]

If he is anything like my boyfriend...he may just be teasing you...

I would feel the same way as you though. Uhhhg I feel for you.

Honestly, if you said "in the end would be fine," and that is truly how you feel about it, I would just let him know tonight that even if it is that way.....you know........

 

[Clairitek]

Don''t be too hard on yourself... The thing is you DIDN''T snoop or violate his right to have the surprise. He gave himself away by reacting the way he did.

I would feel bad too if I were in your position but please don''t keep scolding yourself. Some LIWs would go searching for a ring hidden in the house somewhere but it seems to me that you have been honoring his request to have some control over how it all happens. I''m jealous that you got to help pick out your stone.

The furthest I got in this process was trying stuff on and helping to narrow down the choices. I have NO IDEA what my FF is going to get me.

I look forward to hearing your proposal story and seeing ring pics. My guess is that you will love what he gives you no matter how the stone is set.

 

[glitterazzi]

Are you Catholic!? Cuz you are riding out the guilt trip as if you are!!!

I guess if I were in your shoes I would feel guilty too - but then, I''m catholic! lol!

If I were you I would just take a moment tonight to reassure him that you are over thinking it all, and that you have complete confidence in him. And that no matter what he gives you it will be perfect - and you will love him no matter what.

That''s the best I got! Don''t worry - like C-tek said - he gave it away himself! Chin up! You know you''ll be off the LIW list soon! Enjoy the sweet anticipation!!!

 

[dreaming of the day]

Date: 10/28/2008 1:15:49 PM
Author: glitterazzi
Are you Catholic!? Cuz you are riding out the guilt trip as if you are!!!

I guess if I were in your shoes I would feel guilty too - but then, I''m catholic! lol!

If I were you I would just take a moment tonight to reassure him that you are over thinking it all, and that you have complete confidence in him. And that no matter what he gives you it will be perfect - and you will love him no matter what.

That''s the best I got! Don''t worry - like C-tek said - he gave it away himself! Chin up! You know you''ll be off the LIW list soon! Enjoy the sweet anticipation!!!

LOL, no I am not catholic but my FMIL is, so maybe I am picking it up from her!!!!

Good advice, and the thing is its true, I will love it!!! Also, the ratio is only 1.12:1 so it isn''t really that rectangular even if it is set E/W.

See pic:

 

[BlueSki231]

Oh boy, i can totally see something like this happening to me. I know what you mean - the longer he waits the more you start to obsess in the details of what you want - maybe even second guessing yourself - and I''m sure the fact that you know it''s coming soon isn''t helping the matter either!

I understand why he blew up at you - but he has to know that you wouldn''t have said anything if you knew the ring had already been done. Which it sounds like he DOES already have the ring done, otherwise he probably wouldn''t have gotten so upset. I agree with glitterazzi though.. really sit him down and reassure him that you''re just obsessing right now. Tell him you''re driving yourself crazy with the details cause you''re TOO excited (and you have to keep your mind occupied SOMEHOW!!) but let him know that in the end you will honestly be happy with the setting he''s chosen - whether it''s N/S or E/W.

 

[BlueSki231]

Date: 10/28/2008 1:30:54 PM

LOL, no I am not catholic but my FMIL is, so maybe I am picking it up from her!!!!


Good advice, and the thing is its true, I will love it!!! Also, the ratio is only 1.12:1 so it isn''t really that rectangular even if it is set E/W.


See pic:

HAHA you really ARE obsessing - that thing is almost square!!

Don''t blame ya though, I''d be doing the same thing

gorgeous stone - can''t wait to see it set!!

 

[Dreamgirl]

The diamond sure is beautiful either way!!!!!!!

 

[dreaming of the day]

It is eating me up inside. I have so much anxiety over ruining his surprise.
See the thing is when I was on my way home from his house on our third date it had just turned halloween (after midnight) and I had a really bad car accident where I came very close to losing my life, and every halloween I call it my celebration of life day and I thank god for letting me be here and enjoy my SO, etc... Well I have always dreamed that he would propose on this halloween (7 is a good number) and its 7 years later. I didn''t think it would be possible because we only got the diamond in the beginning of October and that is not enough time for a Tacori setting to be made (but now I am thinking he could have had a tacori ''inspired'' one made in time). With his reaction yesterday I am thinking that perhaps my dream was his plan all along. However, maybe I am wrong and it is not going to happen on halloween - but now I am going to have my hopes up!

I am obsessing, please patronize me!!!!!!!

 

[jcarlylew82]

I agree with others. just assure him that you trust him 100% and that you are just over thinking.

heres a little dust for you though...just in case!

 

[BlueSki231]

Date: 10/28/2008 2:57:10 PM
Author: dreaming of the day
It is eating me up inside. I have so much anxiety over ruining his surprise.

See the thing is when I was on my way home from his house on our third date it had just turned halloween (after midnight) and I had a really bad car accident where I came very close to losing my life, and every halloween I call it my celebration of life day and I thank god for letting me be here and enjoy my SO, etc... Well I have always dreamed that he would propose on this halloween (7 is a good number) and its 7 years later. I didn''t think it would be possible because we only got the diamond in the beginning of October and that is not enough time for a Tacori setting to be made (but now I am thinking he could have had a tacori ''inspired'' one made in time). With his reaction yesterday I am thinking that perhaps my dream was his plan all along. However, maybe I am wrong and it is not going to happen on halloween - but now I am going to have my hopes up!


I am obsessing, please patronize me!!!!!!!

OK, here''s something to think about..

Yes, it would be VERY special to you if he proposed on Halloween.

But if he proposed on any other day in November or December, would it be any LESS special?
Will you forever hold it against him if he doesn''t propose on October 31, 2008??

 

[dreaming of the day]

Date: 10/28/2008 11:07:07 PM
Author: Namaste

Date: 10/28/2008 2:57:10 PM
Author: dreaming of the day
It is eating me up inside. I have so much anxiety over ruining his surprise.

See the thing is when I was on my way home from his house on our third date it had just turned halloween (after midnight) and I had a really bad car accident where I came very close to losing my life, and every halloween I call it my celebration of life day and I thank god for letting me be here and enjoy my SO, etc... Well I have always dreamed that he would propose on this halloween (7 is a good number) and its 7 years later. I didn''t think it would be possible because we only got the diamond in the beginning of October and that is not enough time for a Tacori setting to be made (but now I am thinking he could have had a tacori ''inspired'' one made in time). With his reaction yesterday I am thinking that perhaps my dream was his plan all along. However, maybe I am wrong and it is not going to happen on halloween - but now I am going to have my hopes up!


I am obsessing, please patronize me!!!!!!!

OK, here''s something to think about..

Yes, it would be VERY special to you if he proposed on Halloween.

But if he proposed on any other day in November or December, would it be any LESS special?
Will you forever hold it against him if he doesn''t propose on October 31, 2008??

No of course not! Any day would be special - I have always thought that I didn''t want it to be on an occasion because then it would just be "our day"! I am really looking forward to it, but...''the sooner, the better''

 

[BlueSki231]

Yea see!! You just gotta tell yourself that when you''re starting to feel anxious and impatient - any day he chooses will end up being special to both of you.

Hey, at least you know it''s coming before the end of the year!!
I can''t manage to squeeze a timeline out of my guy so I''ve got no clue! When I bring it up he just gets this goofy grin on his face and then turns his head away so I can''t see it and then changes the subject (he''s not good at keeping secrets from me

. I know he wants to surprise me so I try and respect that. it''s hard sometimes to be patient!! Hang in there!