I was nice to be here

[bubbly1126]

...but I am going to ask to be taken off the list.

I just don''t think we''re anywhere near him asking me. I know he wants to marry me but I guess the funds aren''t there right now and I don''t see our financial situation getting any better any time soon. (If you''d like for me to explain then I will be more than happy so you can maybe have a better understanding.)

But I thank all you ladies for your amazing advice. I truly appreciate it.

 

[~*Alexis*~]

Hey....well there can be an emagement with out the ring is that a possibility?? I know all girls think about getting the ring and whatnot but would just being engaged make you happy? Maybe you would be able to discuss this with your BF?

 

[bee*]

aww that''s a shame! Just think of what a loving relationship you have already and when the time comes, it is definitely worth the wait when you can do it with the funds etc.

 

[mirre]

Expanding on what Alexis said. I completely understand about the funds just not being there and not looking like it anytime soon. But since she mentioned an engagement without a ring... if you''d really rather have a ring when getting engaged but want to be engaged now... could just a simple little gold band work? Those are usually pretty "wallet friendly" then you''d have a symbol that you''re engaged and you could save up for the diamond ring later?

(May not be the best of options because a simple band would end up looking like a weding band but maybe a ring with your birthstone or something...)

 

[diamondsgirl22]

i agree, maybe since the funds are not good right now that maybe he would be willing to get a different ring to symbolize your engagement until you can afford a bigger one. Keep your head up and keep looking towards the future. talk to him about it and you never know how much he will understand and want to work with you on this. Good Luck!

 

[Keepingthefaith21]

Bubbly:

I hope that this does not mean you are leaving this forum

There are a lot of ladies who have been on the list for awhile...some of whom have been LIW''s for many many years. I haven''t got any idea when my SO plans to propose...could be next week, could be in a year or two but I like being on the list and despite not having any idea about where he stands with the ring purchase, I still consider myself an LIW

I don''t mean to pry but did you have a conversation with your BF regarding a timeline and it did not meet your expectations? Is there any possibility that he could be trying to throw you off the mark on purpose?

I hope that you''ll still drop back here every now and again with your positive attitude and that you''ll still share with all of us what you got for your birthday as I think there are quite a few people here VERY interested in what the final result is!

 

[DMBsGirl]

Bubbly,
Myself and the other ladies in the top ten have all been on the list for a year or more! I added myself on the list as soon as I found this site, and I had no idea when I would be engaged, and although I know my engagement will be this year I still don''t know how soon. So think about it, there is no pressure on the list, everyone''s situation is different and some people are on it longer than others. But if you still want to be taken off, I''ll do it.

 

[bubbly1126]

~*Alexis*~, mirre, and diamondsgirl22: I''ve talked with him about it and while I would be perfectly fine with getting engaged without a ring, he wants to wait until he can present the ring to me with the proposal.

Bee*, thanks. I am definitely trying to just keep a positive outlook and just kee reminding myself of how lucky I am to even have him in my life.

Keepingthefaith21, I am definitely not leaving this forum. I LOVE reading everyone''s post and I also love being able to vent my frustrations to people who understand.

BF and I didn''t really have a sit down serious talk about it. But he knew it had been on my mind lately and last night I asked him about my birthday gift and whether I would get the bear I wanted or not. He said no, that he tried but you had to buy something there in order to even get the bear. (It was a jewelry store) and I was joking around and said something along the lines of well you can get me the ulitmate present! (meaning the ring, and he knew) And he said nah, I don''t have the money for that. So needless to say, I was bummed... and later on I asked if I would get that present someday and he said yes, of course, someday... eventually... but the funds are just not there. I mean they are there but there is no cushion.

So yeah, that brings me to here and now... I don''t think it will be for quite a while yet.

But DMBsGirl... thanks. And I guess I still am pretty much a LIW... so I''ll stay on the list!

 

[mirre]

I''m sure you''re going to LOVE whatever it is that he got you! I''m sorry about the bear. Maybe he could find you a little bear that is similar somewhere else and he got that one?

 

[Keepingthefaith21]

Bubbly:

I am glad you decided to stay on the list and very pleased you would not leave the forum either. We can all wait around for a while together!

Don’t lose faith…I know many friends who had their FF’s tell them money was too tight for a ring purchase and within 6 months they were engaged. I know one of my guy friends wanted to throw his GF off so much he presented her with a right hand ring as a present for Christmas and then claimed he couldn’t afford an engagement ring because he purchased that ring. In truth, he bought the engagement and right hand rings at the same time. She was told she would have to wait a little longer while he saved. A few weeks later he caught her completely off guard with the proposal as she wasn’t expecting it for a few months.

Just relax and know that when it’s your turn, it will happen. In the meantime, maybe he could take you to the store and get you a small necklace or simple earrings or some other jewelry so you can get your bear (although it would be nice if he held off on the bear and tied it in with your proposal)

I still can’t wait to hear what you get on your day. Is it this Sunday?

 

[mirre]

KeepingtheFaith, very very sneaky of your friend!