Ideas?

[kbesner]

Hi all, just wanted your opinion on my engagement/proposal idea.
We''ve bee dating for a few years, and both want to get married soon, but she doesn''t necessarily know exactly
when i plan to propose. We are both quite busy, so traveling at the moment isn''t the easiest.
We have also been waiting for some financial stuff to get settled (mortgage stuff), and that is finally hapenning.

My thoughts are:

1. send her to the spa for the day to celebrate finances, and not having been on a real date for a while.
Tell her we have dinner reservations, don''t say where.

2. Make hotel room and dinner reservations at the local Westin (very nice).
Also don''t tell her that I have a room for us.

3. That day, check in after lunch and drop off a bag with wine, Flowers, etc., basically get the room
looking nice

4. After dinner, say we are going to an upstairs bar (although she''s not that stupid.....any suggestions on
a better way to walk her up to the room?????!!!)

5. Propose in the room


Please feel free to offer suggestions!!!!!! I would love to hear some other ideas to add in or change any of the above.

 

[ladykemma]

skip the hotel. waste of money.

Some women think that men think that "HEY, I''M GONNA GET LAID" when they take women to a hotel. yuck, I would be insulted if you manuevered me to a hotel under false pretenses.

How about a nice dinner?
a long walk
breakfast prepared by your own hand, with the ring on her plate, wraped in multiple layers of packing.
a park bench
renting "sleepless in seattle" or some other cheesy movie and proposing at the end.

I cried when he proposed so i was grateful that my weepy eyes and drippy nose were in private.

 

[kbesner]

Date: 7/31/2006 12:20:41 PM
Author: ladykemma
skip the hotel. waste of money.


Some women think that men think that ''HEY, I''M GONNA GET LAID'' when they take women to a hotel. yuck, I would be insulted if you manuevered me to a hotel under false pretenses.

Interesting point of view! To be honest, after 3 years together, I don''t think she makes those kinds of assumptions about me. But your reply is appreciated!

 

[jcrow]

no, maybe not, but the hotel thing to some is viewed as wedding night not proposal night. but do as you feel best!

 

[Munchkin]

My vote? Do all of the above, but somehow propose BEFORE dinner. Why? a) Because we love to show off our new bling! Plus, the dinner can be a celebration for just the two of you. b) She will feel like a queen if you mention to your wait person that you just got engaged c) You won't have to suffer anxiously through dinner. (Trust me, she will pick up on your anxiety/antsiness/excitement and it may give it away. Or lead to "What's going on?" questions. Sorry, but guys aren't especially stealth

) d) It will eliminate any of the above stuff about hotel room issues. She will probably be thrilled to let the celebration continue in a decorated room and you won't need trickery to get her there. If she is someone who has been looking forward to planning a wedding, it would also be cute to have a Wedding Magazine in the room for her.

I wouldn't propose AT dinner, because many women want the moment to be more private.

Munchkin

 

[kbesner]

Thanks for the reply, good stuff to consider.
I''d still love to hear more ideas, even if completely different, any help is good!!

 

[Groovy Chick]

I do like the dinner followed by hotel room thing but personally I''d skip sending her off to the spa coz she''ll smell a rat for sure which would spoil the surprise element. Women are very perceptive with these things. You could have the spa organised for the next day.

Good luck! Let us know how it works out!

GC from NZ

 

[kbesner]

Thanks Groovey, good idea regarding the spa. Still trying to decide on the hotel thingy..

 

[kbesner]

Thanks again for the comments. Proposed before a very nice dinner, etc., she said yes and absolutely loved the ring. She''s been staring at it for a few days now, showing it off to her friends..

 

[ladykemma]

yay! congratulations!