if a friend ask , how much your diamond ring cost ...

[Dancing Fire]

would you mind telling them ? or would you say none of your business.

 

[Carmel]

The people whom I deem my friends have more integrity than to make such an inquiry – about diamonds and the such. They might ask, however, “Where did you get those darling little cheater glasses with the rhinestones on them and how much where they?” because we all love a fashion bargain . . . but about the serious stuff, they know better than to ask.

Now if someone who is just trying to be “friendly” asks me, I might be inclined to brag myself up a bit, and tell them how I did tons of research and found an outstandingly performing stone for a price point far better than casual shoppers pay. If pressured further, I might say something like “In the four range,” or “In the six range,” and let them figure out what I meant.

Feel free to quote me on that.

 

[Kamuelamom]

Depends on who's asking and if I had coffee with my breakfast that day or not.

AKA, when people ask (and to my surprise many do) I sometimes tell (again, depends who is asking), I sometimes just smile and say "a lot."

 

[Daniela]

My cousin and my mother-in-law both tried to ask how much my engagment ring cost. My response was that it's a very high quality ring, and I left it at that.

 

[sevens one]

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On 9/30/2004 4:26:39 AM Carmel wrote:

The people whom I deem my friends have more integrity than to make such an inquiry – about diamonds and the such. They might ask, however, “Where did you get those darling little cheater glasses with the rhinestones on them and how much where they?” because we all love a fashion bargain . . . but about the serious stuff, they know better than to ask.

Now if someone who is just trying to be “friendly” asks me, I might be inclined to brag myself up a bit, and tell them how I did tons of research and found an outstandingly performing stone for a price point far better than casual shoppers pay. If pressured further, I might say something like “In the four range,” or “In the six range,” and let them figure out what I meant.

Feel free to quote me on that.

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Carmel- are you a politian?

 

[strmrdr]

Other than my wifey2b when she finds another bargain Iv asked guys how much they spent on a ring for their Lady but never a Lady herself.
Usualy when they find out I know a little about diamonds they volenteer the info much like all the did I get a good deal posts here.

 

[ame]

I don't answer that usually. None of their business.

 

[fancyrock]

different answers an be used.... How much did you pay for your ring??

1. "I don't know, I didn't pay for it"
2. "Plenty $$"
3. "makes no difference how much, as long as I love it"
4. "how much is love? Do you measure love? b/c you shouldn't"
5. "not a question I want to answer"
6. "it's a GIFT, I didn't ask about the price"
7. "it's a secret"
8. "4 digit range or 5 digit range or 6 digit range...."
9. "you guess"
10."I wish I knew..., but I don't"
11."I'll tell you, but then I'd have to kill you"

I think it's okay to share $$$ if you are comfortable with it.

 

[Carmel]

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On 9/30/2004 8:25:05 AM sevens one wrote:


Carmel- are you a politian?

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In my defense, it was quite late when I penned my thoughts - so they came out a bit surly. What I meant to say was - no, I would not tell, er-well sometimes not . . . only, yes, I would tell at times – but then, not at other times. I actually did vote to tell my friends, before I voted against telling them.

Note to self: Think, Carmel, Think . . . Think before you say something - so I don’t end up like this:

“I was going to start off tonight by telling some self-deprecating jokes, but then I couldn't think of any mistakes I've made to be self-deprecating about.” --President Bush, at the White House Correspondents’ Dinner, poking fun at his performance in a recent news conference, in which he drew a blank when asked about mistakes he had made.

“You said something I didn't say. Now shove it!” --Teresa Heinz Kerry, telling off a reporter.

“Go ahead, yell it out. If I don't like the question, I'll reinvent it.” --President Bush, hosting an “Ask President Bush” forum in which all the questions were planted in advance.

“I don't see it as a stain.” --Bill Clinton, reflecting on his impeachment.

“Too many good docs are getting out of the business. Too many OB-GYNs aren't able to practice their love with women all across this country.” --President George W. Bush, Poplar Bluff, Mo., Sept. 6, 2004.

“Frankly, Mr. Mayor, I think your new hairstyle is the right way to go. After all, in Washington, the cover up is always worse than the truth.” --Sen. Hillary Clinton to Rudy Giuliani at the annual Gridiron Dinner.

“I've seen how things can work out pretty well for a C student.” --President Bush, delivering the commencement address at Louisiana State University.

“As I was telling my husb—" --National Security Adviser Condoleezza Rice, overheard making a slip of the tongue at a Washington dinner party. Rice, who is unmarried, stopping herself abruptly, before saying, "As I was telling President Bush."

“Go, balloons. I don't see anything happening. Go, balloons. Go, balloons. Go, balloons. Stand by, confetti. Keep coming, balloons. More balloons. Bring them. Balloons, balloons, balloons! More balloons. Tons of them. Bring them down. Let them all come. No confetti. No confetti yet. No confetti. All right. Go, balloons. Go, balloons. We're getting more balloons. All balloons. All balloons should be going. Come on, guys! Let's move it. #*$!&. We need more balloons. I want all balloons to go. Go, confetti. Go, confetti. Go, confetti. I want more balloons. What's happening to the balloons? We need more balloons. We need all of them coming down. Go, balloons. Balloons. What's happening balloons? There's not enough coming down. All balloons! Why the hell is nothing falling? What the #*&! are you guys doing up there? We want more balloons coming down. More balloons. More balloons.” --Democratic Convention producer Don Mischer, overheard on CNN having an apoplectic seizure when the balloons failed to drop from the ceiling of the Fleet Center in Boston.

 

[Hest88]

In my experience, the only ones who have asked (other than my parents!) have been people starting the diamond hunt themselves. With that in mind, I never mind sharing.

 

[NewShiny]

Hest,
I agree with you 100%. The only people I'd feel comfortable sharing that information with are those who are starting the diamond search themselves.

Although . . . I'm going to see my mom for the first time since getting engaged this weekend, and I think she might ask. I'm not sure what I'm going to tell her yet. We're really close, but I kind of feel like this should be something kept between FI and I.

 

[fancyrock]

NewShiny,

If that's how you feel then that is what you should stick with. No should know anything if you don't want them to know. But once you share, it's OUT and you can never take it back.

 

[innerkitten]

Thats an interesting question. My boyfriend seems to know the amount his male friends spend on rings, which means some men freely share that information without really caring about who they tell.

 

[fancyrock]

I think men want to know the prices of what each other paid for is different than women. Men don't want to get ripped off and women (some women) just want to gossip about it. That's pretty sad.....

"Men are from Mars, and women from Venus"

 

[Todd07]

I'd tell them the appraised retail value, but you got a deal through PriceScope

 

[Jennifer5973]

Interesting. No one has asked me outright, but a few people have hinted about it, hoping I'd divulge, saying things like "Wow, that must have cost a bundle." My canned response to that is "Yeah, but I'm worth it."

New Shiny--I am in the same boat with Mom, but over the years I have learned that as close as we are, some things need to be my/my DH's business. In the past, I had shared some financial things with her and later on, she'd bring it up--trying to be helpful--but it turned me off and felt inapprorpiate. Example: "Why are you buying that when you just paid off your Visa."

 

[LuvthatSparkle]

I have always had this problem. Mainly with family. I buy myself something nice every year. It's a promise I made when my father died, I said life is short so treat yourself well. For some reason folks are really intimidated by this way of thinking. And I get tired of explaining myself so I tend to undercut the cots of things saves me alot of headache! lol

 

[MichelleCarmen]

I would play coy and say I wasn't sure as my husband bought it for me. My ring isn't very big, but when I upgrade, I'll have to make excuses as people are annoying and think if you have something nice or have money, then you owe them something.

 

[snlee]

Very interesting question. People have asked and I don''t feel like telling them how much was spent. So I just say:

1) he bought it and I don''t know how much he spent
and or 2) a lot of money

 

[cflutist]

No one has ever asked me how much it costs, but if they did I would tell them to look at Price Stats on PS to get a rough idea.

Now people have asked if it was a real diamond or not. Then I usually tell them yes it is.

 

[sxn675]

Date: 9/30/2004 2:40:34 PM
Author: Hest88
In my experience, the only ones who have asked (other than my parents!) have been people starting the diamond hunt themselves. With that in mind, I never mind sharing.

Ditto. Nobody else has asked me.

 

[i_like_tiffany_please_dont_hate_me]

what about if my gf asks, should I tell her?

 

[strmrdr]

Date: 11/20/2004 10:23:45 AM
Author: diamondgeezer
what about if my gf asks, should I tell her?

Tell her 2.5 billion dollars and your worth every penny.

 

[sxn675]

Well, if you and your girlfriend are going to be married, than the engagement ring is one of many purchases which will comprise your shared finances (even if you decide to keep finances entirely separate after marriage, nothing is COMPLETELY separate). She should know the appraisal information and insurance information. Even if she's not particularly interested, she should know where it is just in case. After all, if you buy a house together, then both of you should know where the deed and insurance information is. This is no different.

 

[fortheloveofdiamonds]

Interesting thread. I think if my family and close friends ask, I may tell them. I think they will be a little freaked out by the sheer carat weight of it since rings that big and that expensive are not the norm for the area that I grew up in....And, if some stranger asks me though, I''ll ask why they want to know and if I deem that it is a legitimate reason, i''ll answer..unless they are freaks and want to rob me LOL!

 

[hoorray]

I would never tell my family -- and they would never ask. My very frugal mother would just not know what to think. She is already a little overwhelmed by the stone, and I''m sure she has no idea what it cost. I''d only tell a friend if they were in the market, and asked for reference. I can''t imagin a friend asking otherwise. If it came up, I''d give an unspecific general answer.

 

[windowshopper]

say i can''t tell you or i''ll have to kill you! (smiling of course)

 

[windowshopper]

to Fortheloveofdiamonds....how big is your ring if you dont mind me asking????????????

 

[chantal990]

I don''t tell cause I didn''t spend spend the money so it''s not up to me to let everyone know the amount. I have a friend who keeps trying to pressure me to tell. I just keep referring her to my FH who won''t tell her and pretend I had nothing to do with the purchase of the e-ring

 

[Deputy74]

Depends, if it was somone already married I''d probably tell them to mind their own business.

However, I have several single male friends that are thinking of proposing and they have been asking about my ring and how much I paid, where I got it and all that, which I happily tell them. Those guys are just trying to find out what kind of ring they can get for the money they make. So I refer them to GOG. One guy was was considering buying from a mall vendor *gasp* and I told him he could get a much better ring for a better price from an online vendor. He like most had never thought of that before.

So I guess it depends who''s asking and why. If they''re trying to compare...I wouldnt even feel bad lying to them just to get their goat.

But none of my married friends have asked. I guess they figure if it would offend them, it would probably offend other people as well.