If you are proposed to but no ring yet......

[zhuzhu]

...dose it mean you are still a LIW?

He asked me to marry him over the new years'' eve and I said yes!!!! We are in the process of picking out a ring together and I am very excited about everything. He is truly the bestest man I have ever met besides my father. My silly question is, do I still belong to you guys as LIW until I actually wear my ring?

 

[MissErin]

Well you can be a LIW if you want to but I think you are officially a soon to be bride. hehe Congrats on your proposal hun!! Very exciting. Tell us more when you have time.

 

[sweetjettagirl04]

I would say yes, you''re still a LIW - but you''re waiting to find the right ring instead of waiting for the proposal. We won''t shut you out because you''ve already been asked...

 

[sunnyd]

if you''re asking if you''ve graduated the list, then i say YES!!!

an engagement is an engagement, with or without a ring! congrats!!

 

[MissErin]

Yay for graduating from the list!! hehe Keep hanging around.

 

[Lnicegirl]

Wow! This is news to me. My BF asked me in August if it is possible to get engaged without a ring yet and I didn''t know the answer. I guess it is ok but it seems a little strange to me. I know he is saving for a ring and has spoken to his jewler friend about e-rings but I think I will wait until I get the ring. This is good information to know. I guess we could have been engaged by now without a ring. My head is spinning right now. I am still a lady in waiting.

 

[partyjewels]

First off, CONGRATULATIONS!!! Secondly, I know alot of people think it''s not a sealed deal till they have the ring, but I think that once the question is asked and answered that your are officially engaged!

 

[thumbelina]

I didn''t get my e-ring until a few weeks before my wedding... and we certainly didn''t need the ring to make any plans. My sister-in-law isn''t into jewelry, so she never had an e-ring; she wears only a band. Of course you''re engaged! Congrats!

 

[surfgirl]

Date: 1/4/2008 3:11:09 PM
Author: Lnicegirl
Wow! This is news to me. My BF asked me in August if it is possible to get engaged without a ring yet and I didn''t know the answer. I guess it is ok but it seems a little strange to me. I know he is saving for a ring and has spoken to his jewler friend about e-rings but I think I will wait until I get the ring. This is good information to know. I guess we could have been engaged by now without a ring. My head is spinning right now. I am still a lady in waiting.

There is a big difference between receiving a proposal and then looking for a ring, than talking about a ring without a proposal. The former means you are engaged and you''re looking for a ring. The latter means you''ve discussed marriage, rings, etc. but you have not received a proposal so you are not engaged.

zhuzhu, you received a proposal and you are engaged...congrats chica!

 

[firebirdgold]

Depends. Let''s just say I found it necessary to come up with a few rules to distinguish between LIW and BIW.

You must have two out of three:

1) Ring
2) Have told both sets of parents and other relevent family or friends.
3) Have a date.

 

[bee*]

Date: 1/4/2008 4:51:15 PM
Author: surfgirl

Date: 1/4/2008 3:11:09 PM

Author: Lnicegirl

Wow! This is news to me. My BF asked me in August if it is possible to get engaged without a ring yet and I didn''t know the answer. I guess it is ok but it seems a little strange to me. I know he is saving for a ring and has spoken to his jewler friend about e-rings but I think I will wait until I get the ring. This is good information to know. I guess we could have been engaged by now without a ring. My head is spinning right now. I am still a lady in waiting.

There is a big difference between receiving a proposal and then looking for a ring, than talking about a ring without a proposal. The former means you are engaged and you''re looking for a ring. The latter means you''ve discussed marriage, rings, etc. but you have not received a proposal so you are not engaged.


zhuzhu, you received a proposal and you are engaged...congrats chica!

Totally agree with surfgirl-You are definitely engaged zhuzhu! Congratulations!

 

[Independent Gal]

Well, if it's not possible to be engaged without a ring, then my mom was a lady in waiting for 24 years AFTER she got married. And my friend T is still a lady in waiting, despite her 4 year marriage and 2 year old daughter, and will be an LIW forever, since she never wants an e-ring.

Of course you don't need a ring to get engaged! After all, plenty of people never HAVE an engagement ring at all, for a variety of reasons.

Being engaged means that the two of you have decided to get married and then have actively promised each other to marry each other. That promise can be him saying 'Will you marry me?' and you saying 'yes'. It can also be one of you saying 'Let's get married' and the other agreeing. Some kind of concrete step is nice to seal the deal, like, telling parents or booking a date. But as long as a promise has clearly been made by both of you to meet at the altar (or the judge), you are 'engaged'. You have engaged yourself by means of your promise to be married.

Yay! congratulations!

 

[Pandora II]

You are DEFINITELY engaged.

I was proposed to without a ring (I would have probably had to murder him if he had deprived me of the ring hunting fun!) on Christmas Eve 06. The majority of people I know here in the UK had ring-less proposals. It''s more of a surprise as you have no hint of it coming!

He gave me an antique sapphire and diamond eternity band for Valentine''s - which was our 2.5 year anniversary and the day of our engagement party.

I saw my e-ring for the first time at the end of June 07 as it took me so long to design, source the stone and have it custom made.

Having had a few little things fixed, I have now posted pics - over a year later.

So, girl you are 150% engaged! It''s the official asking and promise made that counts - not the bling. That''s just a nice extra.

 

[Shay37]

zhuzhu, Congrats and best wishes. This is what I say to all the newly engaged in the SMTR. It applies to you too. I was proposed to without a ring as well. Almost ten years of marriage and two children later, did it matter? NOPE.

shay

 

[risingsun]

You are most definitely an engaged woman!! You don't have to have a ring, a date for the wedding or even have told both sets of parents. He asked and you said yes. That's a proposal that became an engagement. Congratulations

 

[redfaerythinker]

I would say that you are engaged. Congratulations! I''m going to take you off the list, you lucky, lucky girl.

 

[zhuzhu]

Thanks for all your good wishes! We had a very private new years eve together at his home in PA with out two kitties. Two minutes before midnight he asked if I will marry him and of course I said yes! We were both in our PJs watching Time Square on TV, eating snacks I prepared, and already got the crystal glasses and grape sparkling cocktail ready for toasting. So the timing was so perfect that right after I said yes, we kissed and toasted to the new years celebration together with all the people in NY Time Square. It was so sweet and intimate, and the reason why he wants to wait on a ring is because he wants me to pick out a ring that I will absolutely love, instead of guessing it by himself.

I am returning to San Diego for work today, and he is in the process of requesting his company to transfer him to work out of San Diego in the next few months. There are a couple of ring projects that''s under discussion, and I simply can not WAIT to start our life together.

We do want to hold off announcing the engagement until after the ring is ready (so we can "show it proudly"). I do feel engaged like what most of you say, and thanks again for your kind words and I will definitely stick around here and share my ring when it is ready!!!

 

[zhuzhu]

This is too funny as my honey also gave me a sapphire and diamond eternity band for our Valentine''s day in 2007 as our "promise ring". Isn''t life great???

Date: 1/4/2008 9:21:41 PM
Author: Pandora II
You are DEFINITELY engaged.


I was proposed to without a ring (I would have probably had to murder him if he had deprived me of the ring hunting fun!) on Christmas Eve 06. The majority of people I know here in the UK had ring-less proposals. It''s more of a surprise as you have no hint of it coming!


He gave me an antique sapphire and diamond eternity band for Valentine''s - which was our 2.5 year anniversary and the day of our engagement party.


I saw my e-ring for the first time at the end of June 07 as it took me so long to design, source the stone and have it custom made.


Having had a few little things fixed, I have now posted pics - over a year later.


So, girl you are 150% engaged! It''s the official asking and promise made that counts - not the bling. That''s just a nice extra.

 

[hearts-arrows_girl]

Date: 1/4/2008 2:19:14 PM
Author:zhuzhu
...dose it mean you are still a LIW?

He asked me to marry him over the new years'' eve and I said yes!!!! We are in the process of picking out a ring together and I am very excited about everything. He is truly the bestest man I have ever met besides my father. My silly question is, do I still belong to you guys as LIW until I actually wear my ring?

Sounds to me like you are no longer waiting. You are engaged! What a great guy he is to let you help in your ring selecting process.
I said in an earlier post that no ring, no engagement. I would like to revise this by saying throwing in..."in some cases". I think when I stated that, the OP''s guy sounded like he was not sincere, so I was using it as a metaphore. Your guy is totally on board! CONGRATULATIONS!!!!!