If your guy posted about your engagement, how would you feel?

[aliciagirl]

I went over the the Proposal Ideas board just to look around and I got to thinking. If my guy ever posted the set-up and proposal on this forum, I think I''d be furious. This doesn''t make any sense to me, because I would post about it here and post the ring and gush about how great it was but I don''t think I would like it if he did. Granted, my SO is very private and would likely never consider doing something like that in the first place. I can''t really put my finger on why it would bother me, but it would.

How would you ladies feel about it? I read other posts and think they are so sweet and great but if it was ever -my- story, I''m not sure I would feel the same. I think I''m officially crazy, hahah.

 

[ksprincess]

I think that I would actually think it was really cute. Especially since I lurck here I would be even more amused if after he got done proposing I knew who he was on the board.

 

[meresal]

It seems to me that most of the men that post the stories and rings have actually been asking around for help on the site, previous to the actual event. I only think that b/c most of them start with "Thank you for all of your help..."

However, if my BF just came on here and talked randomly about it... Yes, I would find that extremely weird. Only bc it goes completely against his nature. Not mad at him, just perplexed.

 

[Rhea]

I wouldn''t mine at all. I''m equal opportunities. If I can do it, so can he!

 

[DiamanteBlu]

I''d think it was sweet. I''d believe that he was posting because he really wanted to be sure that what he was planning would please me and he wanted to make sure he had all the bases covered.

 

[Keepingthefaith21]

I wouldn''t mind. In fact, I would probably think it was very sweet. If he''s reaching out to other people for help at making his proposal perfect, I''d know just how much the proposal means to him.

I guess I see engagement as something both parties are doing together so the story is just as much his as it is mine and he can share it with whomever he desires. Plus, the fun part of hearing the story from they guys perspective is you get to hear about all the behind the scenes activity that happend. Personally I think that it''s too sweet for words when I read about the hoops some men jump through to get everything just right

 

[aliciagirl]

Date: 11/28/2007 5:09:46 PM
Author: meresal
It seems to me that most of the men that post the stories and rings have actually been asking around for help on the site, previous to the actual event. I only think that b/c most of them start with ''Thank you for all of your help...''


However, if my BF just came on here and talked randomly about it... Yes, I would find that extremely weird. Only bc it goes completely against his nature. Not mad at him, just perplexed.

Maybe that is why it would bother me, it would be totally out of his character. And you''re right about the guys on this forum, they all seem genuine and sweet and really thankful for the help.

I have lots of guy friends and it really seemed like as soon as they knew their idea for proposal they were throwing it around to every girl friend they had just so we would say ''oh, you''re so sweet and great and awww" and I guess it would throw me off and make me angry if SO did that in private with friends or in a public forum. That obviously isn''t what goes down here on this forum, though.

 

[sunnyd]

Date: 11/29/2007 4:26:36 PM
Author: aliciagirl

Date: 11/28/2007 5:09:46 PM
Author: meresal
It seems to me that most of the men that post the stories and rings have actually been asking around for help on the site, previous to the actual event. I only think that b/c most of them start with ''Thank you for all of your help...''


However, if my BF just came on here and talked randomly about it... Yes, I would find that extremely weird. Only bc it goes completely against his nature. Not mad at him, just perplexed.

Maybe that is why it would bother me, it would be totally out of his character. And you''re right about the guys on this forum, they all seem genuine and sweet and really thankful for the help.

I have lots of guy friends and it really seemed like as soon as they knew their idea for proposal they were throwing it around to every girl friend they had just so we would say ''oh, you''re so sweet and great and awww'' and I guess it would throw me off and make me angry if SO did that in private with friends or in a public forum. That obviously isn''t what goes down here on this forum, though.

i don''t understand why that would make you angry? do you personally want your engagement to be a private thing? i kinda think of it like the whole SMTR forum. the ladies post their rings for everyone to ooh and ahh over. noone would say they''re ugly (because they are not!

) just as noone (i hope) would tell a guy about to pour out his heart and soul that his idea of the perfect proposal is stupid (because it wouldn''t be!) i don''t get it...

 

[aliciagirl]

Date: 11/29/2007 6:38:19 PM
Author: sunnyd

Date: 11/29/2007 4:26:36 PM

Author: aliciagirl

Date: 11/28/2007 5:09:46 PM

Author: meresal

It seems to me that most of the men that post the stories and rings have actually been asking around for help on the site, previous to the actual event. I only think that b/c most of them start with ''Thank you for all of your help...''



However, if my BF just came on here and talked randomly about it... Yes, I would find that extremely weird. Only bc it goes completely against his nature. Not mad at him, just perplexed.

Maybe that is why it would bother me, it would be totally out of his character. And you''re right about the guys on this forum, they all seem genuine and sweet and really thankful for the help.


I have lots of guy friends and it really seemed like as soon as they knew their idea for proposal they were throwing it around to every girl friend they had just so we would say ''oh, you''re so sweet and great and awww'' and I guess it would throw me off and make me angry if SO did that in private with friends or in a public forum. That obviously isn''t what goes down here on this forum, though.

i don''t understand why that would make you angry? do you personally want your engagement to be a private thing? i kinda think of it like the whole SMTR forum. the ladies post their rings for everyone to ooh and ahh over. noone would say they''re ugly (because they are not!

) just as noone (i hope) would tell a guy about to pour out his heart and soul that his idea of the perfect proposal is stupid (because it wouldn''t be!) i don''t get it...

Oh no, I think I miscommunicated what I mean. I know guys who do it only for the glory that it brings them - like I''m the best guy ever, my girlfriend is so lucky to have me because I''m so awesome. Not because they are excited about what the engagement -means- just that they had the Biggest And Best Idea. It will be sweet when SO and I talk about the engagement with others, but if he was only proposing a certain way to be praised on it (instead of it being about us, what I would want, what he wants to do for me, our favorite place, etc), I wouldn''t like that.

 

[bee*]

Date: 11/29/2007 1:41:03 PM
Author: Addy
I wouldn't mine at all. I'm equal opportunities. If I can do it, so can he!

Ditto-I wouldn't mind at all either. In fact I think it would be nice that he's planning it so well and asking for opinions on it. I kind of think of it, like, when our bf's propose and we post our ring and how he did it, we all think individually that our man and his proposal is the best, so what's wrong with the man feeling that way about it. I just think it's nice to see men so interested in it.

 

[MissErin]

I would LOVE if Eric came on here to get some advice.

I would actually feel good about it because so many people on here are SO VERY helpful. I would feel like he would be getting some of the best information on the ring and how to propose.

Especially since my Eric is REALLY bad at keeping secrets from me. hehe

But seriously, I would be impressed. It takes some courage to come to a site of mainly women and write about things he may be unsure of. Any guy that does, I give a lot of credit to. It just shows he really wants the best for his beloved in my opinion.

 

[gwendolyn]

I would love it if J would come here to learn about diamonds and get some proposal help (if he feels he''d like outside opinions). The only thing I wouldn''t love is if he did that and didn''t tell me he was going to, and I stumbled upon his ideas before the proposal. If he wanted to come here to ask questions, I would very happily take a break from the board to give him the privacy to investigate different ideas without worrying that I''d spoil things by finding out too early.