Inserts with Registry Info...tacky, or expected??

[justwondering]

Hi all,

I am wondering whether I should include an insert with our invitation stating our registry info? I''ve gotten very mixed reviews as to whether this is tacky...

Also, since we are registering at an art gallery, there is no way to track our registry online. We have put the info on our wedding website, but aren''t sure people will actually look there...

Thanks in advance for any advice!

 

[neatfreak]

I personally don't care for it...and all the etiquette books say it's a big no no.

I think you should pass the info around via word of mouth (aka your bridal party and close family should tell others). People who want to know will ask in my experience.

 

[mimzy]

yep, don''t do it. the only place registry info should be included is on the website, bridal shower invite (if being thrown by someone else) and passed by word of mouth.

 

[karasue91]

Date: 2/25/2008 3:13:17 PM
Author: mimzy
yep, don''t do it. the only place registry info should be included is on the website, bridal shower invite (if being thrown by someone else) and passed by word of mouth.

agreed!

 

[Courtneylub]

Date: 2/25/2008 3:13:17 PM
Author: mimzy
yep, don''t do it. the only place registry info should be included is on the website, bridal shower invite (if being thrown by someone else) and passed by word of mouth.

What about an engagement party? I know showers are supposed to be thrown just a couple of months before the wedding date, but we want to throw a party during the cooler months (this April) and our wedding isn''t until July. We decided to call it an engagement party because of this. Can our hosts include our registry info?

 

[bee*]

I really don''t think that registry info should be on invites. I agree that word of mouth or if you have a website, that is where to put the registry info.

 

[mimzy]

double post

 

[mimzy]

Date: 2/25/2008 3:25:23 PM
Author: Courtneylub

Date: 2/25/2008 3:13:17 PM

Author: mimzy

yep, don''t do it. the only place registry info should be included is on the website, bridal shower invite (if being thrown by someone else) and passed by word of mouth.

What about an engagement party? I know showers are supposed to be thrown just a couple of months before the wedding date, but we want to throw a party during the cooler months (this April) and our wedding isn''t until July. We decided to call it an engagement party because of this. Can our hosts include our registry info?

technically you could, but usually presents aren''t expected at an engagement party.....and by including registry information you are sort of implying that you are expecting them. i would depend on word of mouth for this one, if not discouraging gifts altogether. people want to celebrate with you, but for a lot of people that would be three gifts for the couple....and that''s sort of a lot.

if you aren''t having a shower or something and would like your guests to bring gifts, then i suggest calling it a co-ed shower and structuring it a little more like a shower to make it more appropriate.

 

[zoebartlett]

We''re probably going to rely on word of mouth. My mom''s friend and my FMIL/FSsIL are throwing me two separate showers. If they want to put our registry info. on their invitations to the shower(s), that''s fine with me since I won''t be involved at all with the planning. We do have a wedding website but we haven''t put the info. on it yet and I''m not sure we will.

 

[Independent Gal]

Pleeeeeease don''t do this. I would be really yucked out if I got an invitation with registry info in it. Like, REALLY yucked out.

So, probably at least half of your guests would also. Even if half think it''s just fine, helpful even, the other half will think you''re being greedy and presumptuous.

What we did: tell our close people (parents, MOH/Best man, grandma) what''s what, and rely on word of mouth.

From what we hear, most people HAVE been asking. Some have asked us, some have asked our parents. And while some may not bother to ask and get you something you don''t want, that''s better than offending half your guests!

 

[Courtneylub]

Date: 2/25/2008 3:31:59 PM
Author: mimzy

Date: 2/25/2008 3:25:23 PM
Author: Courtneylub

Date: 2/25/2008 3:13:17 PM

Author: mimzy

yep, don''t do it. the only place registry info should be included is on the website, bridal shower invite (if being thrown by someone else) and passed by word of mouth.

What about an engagement party? I know showers are supposed to be thrown just a couple of months before the wedding date, but we want to throw a party during the cooler months (this April) and our wedding isn''t until July. We decided to call it an engagement party because of this. Can our hosts include our registry info?

technically you could, but usually presents aren''t expected at an engagement party.....and by including registry information you are sort of implying that you are expecting them. i would depend on word of mouth for this one, if not discouraging gifts altogether. people want to celebrate with you, but for a lot of people that would be three gifts for the couple....and that''s sort of a lot.

if you aren''t having a shower or something and would like your guests to bring gifts, then i suggest calling it a co-ed shower and structuring it a little more like a shower to make it more appropriate.

Yeah, FI didn''t want to call it a shower. I think we will just have the host put a link to our wedding website on the invitation. The last page of the website is a link to our honeymoon registry anyways.

 

[justwondering]

Thanks all for your quick replies...no inserts it is!

Just interested though...how many of you have listed this info on your website...is that tacky also?

Thx

 

[justwondering]

Sorry, just realized that last question wasn''t clear enough:

on your websites, did you put specifics about your registry? BC it is an art gallery without an online component, I would have to put a more detailed description than simply saying "Crate and Barrel," you know?

 

[neatfreak]

Date: 2/25/2008 3:57:24 PM
Author: justwondering
Sorry, just realized that last question wasn''t clear enough:


on your websites, did you put specifics about your registry? BC it is an art gallery without an online component, I would have to put a more detailed description than simply saying ''Crate and Barrel,'' you know?

We did, and I think it''s ok to do it as long as it''s not front and center on the website. We had a tab on the side that discreetly said "Additional Information" or something like that and in it was our current addresses/phone numbers, transit info, and registry links.

 

[Independent Gal]

I agree that it''s A-OK to put it on your website somewhere that''s not front and center. If someone goes to your wedding website, they are actively seeking out information, you are not shoving it in their faces, if you see what I mean. I would be very happy to find registry information on a website, under a link I could click or not as I saw fit. The ''click'' is me ''asking'' for that info, see?

So, yeah, go for it with the website.

 

[musey]

Date: 2/25/2008 2:34:55 PM
Author:justwondering

Inserts with Registry Info...tacky, or expected??

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I'm pretty sure that every wedding invitation I've received has had those little registry cards in them. Frequency doesn't make it less tacky. I don't like it on principle, but I do realize that not everyone had access to Emily Post-type upbringing, so it honestly doesn't bother me that much when I see it.

 

[Gypsy]

Would ick me out too. Don't do it.

We put our wedding website's address on our save the dates... the website has travel information, directions, event information, room block information, AND registry information-- all different tabs on the side of the main page... so they have to HUNT for it. But I'm not even including the website information in the invitaitons, just on the save the dates.... and even then because the save the dates don't provide ANY information other than well, the date to be saved.

 

[Tacori E-ring]

I don''t like it. I think it is tacky.

 

[Asscherhalo_lover]

i would not do it for a wedding invitation, but for a shower or engagement party, i don''t see a problem with it. i know my MOH printed the info on my shower invitations because they didn''t want to fill out three different stores registry cards, lol. sometimes it''s a convenience.

 

[justwondering]

Thanks everyone!

One less thing to worry about