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Shiny_Rock
- Joined
- Mar 30, 2011
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- 103
Hello,
I've been lurking on this forum for the last few weeks and have been working up the nerve to post in LIW. I'll share with the rest of you my story as I've snooped through so many of yours :p.
I have been with my current boyfriend for about 1.5 years (not long at all). This is probably one of the reasons I was hesitant about posting here since there are many have been with their partners for much longer and I felt like a brat. I will note that I am in my late 20s and am constantly told by my family and family friends that my clock is ticking.
Prior to this I have been in a 3 year and 5 year relationship, neither of which lead to an engagement. In the last two relationships I was never a LIW, most likley due to age / maturity. Honestly I never thought I'd be a LIW. I thought that eventually someone would propose, I'd be surprised and that would be the end of it. Waiting? What waiting?
I think it all started late last year. My boyfriend had mentioned wanting to get engaged soon (before the end of the year), I told him it was much too early and that I'd rather get engaged next year. During this time we talked about wedding venues, printed off menus, looked at a few rings and even bought a couple wedding planning books. These activities were suggested by the boyfriend and although a little resistant at first I found it fun.
Months went by and nothing. 2010 was over. The holidays and Valentines day passed by. I don't know when it started but a feeling crept up on me that said, "What the hell?!" The original plan was a Spring 2012 wedding and an engagement of a year or more. For the past few weeks I've been throwing my own private pity parties. Being emotional and an all round pain in the ass. I couldn't explain my feelings of disappointment, frustration, anger and sadness. Then I stumbled across this forum I realized that I was a LIW.
Finding out what was wrong has helped me come to terms with it and express it to my confused boyfriend. I thought this introduction would be helpful as I'm sure one of these days I'll be posting about a bad episode. This way maybe there will be some insight about why I'm acting like a nut :p.
I've been lurking on this forum for the last few weeks and have been working up the nerve to post in LIW. I'll share with the rest of you my story as I've snooped through so many of yours :p.
I have been with my current boyfriend for about 1.5 years (not long at all). This is probably one of the reasons I was hesitant about posting here since there are many have been with their partners for much longer and I felt like a brat. I will note that I am in my late 20s and am constantly told by my family and family friends that my clock is ticking.
Prior to this I have been in a 3 year and 5 year relationship, neither of which lead to an engagement. In the last two relationships I was never a LIW, most likley due to age / maturity. Honestly I never thought I'd be a LIW. I thought that eventually someone would propose, I'd be surprised and that would be the end of it. Waiting? What waiting?
I think it all started late last year. My boyfriend had mentioned wanting to get engaged soon (before the end of the year), I told him it was much too early and that I'd rather get engaged next year. During this time we talked about wedding venues, printed off menus, looked at a few rings and even bought a couple wedding planning books. These activities were suggested by the boyfriend and although a little resistant at first I found it fun.
Months went by and nothing. 2010 was over. The holidays and Valentines day passed by. I don't know when it started but a feeling crept up on me that said, "What the hell?!" The original plan was a Spring 2012 wedding and an engagement of a year or more. For the past few weeks I've been throwing my own private pity parties. Being emotional and an all round pain in the ass. I couldn't explain my feelings of disappointment, frustration, anger and sadness. Then I stumbled across this forum I realized that I was a LIW.
Finding out what was wrong has helped me come to terms with it and express it to my confused boyfriend. I thought this introduction would be helpful as I'm sure one of these days I'll be posting about a bad episode. This way maybe there will be some insight about why I'm acting like a nut :p.
Fingers are crossed that we'll be planning our weddings in no time!
. Isn't it strange how we can know it's going to happen, desperately want to stay calm and not think about it and just enjoy the wait, and yet something in our mind takes over and makes us emotional wrecks? Maybe it's just me but I feel like I almost can't control it. I hide it of course because I know he's going to ask and just wants to surprise me but, seriously, this rollercoaster of emotions is pretty annoying. Even though I feel like this, I still feel like this is an exciting time in our lives. Let's enjoy it! 
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