violet02
Ideal_Rock
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- Sep 5, 2007
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Hi all,
I've been posting on these forums for a few months in the 'Rocky Talky' section in my search for the perfect ring. I'm so totally indecisive and so very into researching every little last detail. I was certain it was going to be a nightmare to find one. Thanks to this forum for hooking me up with Ari at Singlestone. After 3 months of posting I went down to LA a little over a week ago and picked out the stone and the setting. My boyfriend joined me a day later and the ring was purchased!
So now for the next part. We KNOW we're on this horrible time crunch in terms of being able to plan a wedding. We want to get married next fall but the longer you wait the smaller and smaller your options are as to where you can have the wedding. We've been spending months talking about it and looking at places in Carmel which is where we want to have it at. Today we went and saw a private residence that fits the bill. So we've got the ring, we've found a planner we love and a place to have it. We haven't put down a deposit on the planner or the place. The perfect photographer I want might be available on the date we picked (October) but I'm not sure yet. It's a HUGE juggling act to get dates, places, people etc together for something in California less than a year from now. But somehow it's been moving forward. The only thing stalling this is the proposal!
My boyfriend wants to sort of suprise me and plan something nice. I'm trying not to be a control freak or impatient about it so I quit pestering him about it. We're about to go back east to spend xmas with our families in about a week. I was hoping we'd have the proposal out of the way by then since Ari is supposed to have the ring to us just before we leave. I told my bf though that I'd let him work out what he wants to do. So he TOTALLY gets the deadlines etc but of course he feels pressured. I don't want to pressure him but I'm a bit panicked that as soon as xmas hits and the propsals happen left and right we're going to lose all the things we picked out that we can't put money on yet until the actual offical engagement happens. It's frustrating! Until the OFFICIAL engagement happens no money can change hands nothing happens, we're at a stand still.
So now I'm just waiting! Aside from waiting though I also feel the pressure and now that we've bought the ring I'm starting to panic myself. Its fun to plan plan plan and pick stuff out but ohmygosh all of it ACTUALLY happening? That's freaking me out!
I thought I'd start posting in this section now that we've found a ring. Of course when I get the ring etc I'll post photos (my avatar is as close as it gets right now). So please add me to the LIW list! I love these forums btw. I'm going to be spending a lot of time on here over the next year I'm sure. Some background about us: We both work in software development, I test it, he writes it. We live in Silicon Valley. He's 32, I'm 36 and we have been together almost a year (I KNOW it's not that long, but I'm not getting any younger, no excuse I know).
Anyways that's my intro, great to have moved to this forum finally!
I've been posting on these forums for a few months in the 'Rocky Talky' section in my search for the perfect ring. I'm so totally indecisive and so very into researching every little last detail. I was certain it was going to be a nightmare to find one. Thanks to this forum for hooking me up with Ari at Singlestone. After 3 months of posting I went down to LA a little over a week ago and picked out the stone and the setting. My boyfriend joined me a day later and the ring was purchased!
So now for the next part. We KNOW we're on this horrible time crunch in terms of being able to plan a wedding. We want to get married next fall but the longer you wait the smaller and smaller your options are as to where you can have the wedding. We've been spending months talking about it and looking at places in Carmel which is where we want to have it at. Today we went and saw a private residence that fits the bill. So we've got the ring, we've found a planner we love and a place to have it. We haven't put down a deposit on the planner or the place. The perfect photographer I want might be available on the date we picked (October) but I'm not sure yet. It's a HUGE juggling act to get dates, places, people etc together for something in California less than a year from now. But somehow it's been moving forward. The only thing stalling this is the proposal!
My boyfriend wants to sort of suprise me and plan something nice. I'm trying not to be a control freak or impatient about it so I quit pestering him about it. We're about to go back east to spend xmas with our families in about a week. I was hoping we'd have the proposal out of the way by then since Ari is supposed to have the ring to us just before we leave. I told my bf though that I'd let him work out what he wants to do. So he TOTALLY gets the deadlines etc but of course he feels pressured. I don't want to pressure him but I'm a bit panicked that as soon as xmas hits and the propsals happen left and right we're going to lose all the things we picked out that we can't put money on yet until the actual offical engagement happens. It's frustrating! Until the OFFICIAL engagement happens no money can change hands nothing happens, we're at a stand still.
So now I'm just waiting! Aside from waiting though I also feel the pressure and now that we've bought the ring I'm starting to panic myself. Its fun to plan plan plan and pick stuff out but ohmygosh all of it ACTUALLY happening? That's freaking me out!
I thought I'd start posting in this section now that we've found a ring. Of course when I get the ring etc I'll post photos (my avatar is as close as it gets right now). So please add me to the LIW list! I love these forums btw. I'm going to be spending a lot of time on here over the next year I'm sure. Some background about us: We both work in software development, I test it, he writes it. We live in Silicon Valley. He's 32, I'm 36 and we have been together almost a year (I KNOW it's not that long, but I'm not getting any younger, no excuse I know).
Anyways that's my intro, great to have moved to this forum finally!
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