invitation etiquette

[ringster]

i am wondering what the etiquette is regarding inviting people. should you allow all of your guests who are not couples to bring someone? i have a few people who have been single for quite awhile and i don''t think they would actually invite anyone because most of the people they would invite are going to be invited anyway. then i have a few older relatives who are die hard single. not sure what to do.

 

[Independent Gal]

This is totally up to you. I think the only rule is to be consistent. So don''t let your pal Sam bring someone, but not your aunt Flo.

Some people invite everyone with a guest
Some people only invite long together couples (what we''re doing)
Some people invite only engaged or married couples.

Your call!

 

[Pandora II]

Up to you basically.

Personally, I only really want people who FI and I know at our wedding. We also both come from big families (plus his parents are both divorced and remarried, so we are also inviting FFIL's wife's children) and have a max of 120.

We have drawn the following lines:

Partners only for those who are: married, engaged or have been living together for over a year.

Children: immediate family, those from overseas and very young babies.

Weddings are not night-clubs, I expect my single guests to be able to cope without a sidekick for the occasion!

 

[ringster]

thanks IG! helps to know what others are doing

Date: 12/4/2007 5:55:25 PM
Author: Pandora II
Up to you basically.


Personally, I only really want people who FI and I know at our wedding.

i feel the same way pandora. i really would prefer not to have others that i don''t really know too well esp since we do have a limit on the number of people we can have at the venue. it will allow me to invite more people that we actually know and would want at the wedding.

 

[zoebartlett]

Date: 12/4/2007 5:41:19 PM
Author: Independent Gal
This is totally up to you. I think the only rule is to be consistent. So don''t let your pal Sam bring someone, but not your aunt Flo.

Some people invite everyone with a guest
Some people only invite long together couples (what we''re doing)
Some people invite only engaged or married couples.

Your call!

I agree. Whatever you decide, make sure it goes across the board. I don''t have to worry about this because all of my friends and family are now married. If some were still single, I''m not sure what I would do. I agree with Pandora that weddings are night clubs. It''s not your job to provide guests with potential hook ups.