invitation questions

[janinegirly]

hi all, looking for the etiquette experts!

our response card says "the favour of your reply" which is what most sample invites said at the store we ordered from. however, that''s the english spelling--is this customary?

also, how much detail do you put on your reception card--do you include full address and room (ballroom name,etc?). My reception is at a different location than the ceremony. also, is it bad form to include map/directions provided by the hotel? the paper doesn''t match so i''m guessing yes.

this invitations cost an arm and a leg, so trying to make sure everything is done correctly..

thanks!!

 

[Jaders731]

Janine -

It was always my understanding that the english spelling is used when the ceremony is in a formal church setting. For example.. you are getting married in a cathedral or big church... you would use "the honour of your presence is requested..." and then you would also use "the favour of your reply is requested..." That being said.. I also think its ok if you use the American spelling honor and favor...
If you arent getting married in a church.. I think its fair game... whatever your heart desires.

There was a Knottie profile that had a lot of FAQs... Can someone tell me if we are allowed to post bios from the Knot on Pricescope? It isnt my personal bio... someone else''s. I dont want to break the rules...if it is allowed.. I will post it

I dont think its bad form to include the hotel''s map... but thats just me... its up to you how you want the details to coordinate.. do you want them to match? or does it really matter. When I had my invitations printed.. my now husband used the map provided by our venue.. and tweeked it just a little.. and we had it letterpressed onto matching paper.. but that was just us.. and our minute attention to detail.. did we need to..? eh.. not really.. but it looked nice.

Sorry I cant offer too much advice on the reception card, as ours was at the same place (kinda) so a reception card wasnt really necessary.


Hope that helps!

 

[cara]

British spellings or American spellings are both correct as long as you are consistent.

To be technically correct, the map and directions are sent in a separate mailing after the invitation. If they are of similar style and quality as the invitation it has become fairly standard to include them with modern invitations. But since you are talking about some piece of paper given to you by the hotel, perhaps the separate mailing is best.

As for the reception card, at least the time, venue name, street address and then city and state. I think you could also include the room name for a large venue if you think it would be helpful.

 

[njc]

Jaders has it right about the spellings, but I dont know that it has to be a big church, I''ve always understood it being just a church. Like she says though, I think its all fair game... just your own thoughts on how close to follow etiquette.

I would inculde the full address and room name for the reception card. I think its more formal that way and proper. Personally, I would re-create or copy the maps provided by the hotel so they matched the invites or at least were on the same apperance level as my invites. Does that make sense? Even just putting them on a nice white or cream cover stock will improve the over-all look. And making sure they fit into the envelopes without needing to be folded (cutting them to size) is a nice touch too. I always think its a shame to get a nice high-end invite with yucky plain thin paper folded up to fit in the envelope. It takes a little more time and effort, but pays in the end!

HTH!

 

[janinegirly]

thanks..all very helpful!!

another ques...is the calligraphy on outside supposed to match font of invitation (or at least be in same family)?