Invitations & Wording, Help Me Choose!!

[partyjewels]

First off - Which invite do you guys like better? I have three in the running right now that I like. Two of them are the same just different colors, and the other is entirely different. I like them both, but I''m not sure which one to go with. FI likes either of them and generally doesn''t care. Long story short, I really don''t have anyone else I can ask right now that will help me feel confident I made the right choice other than you guys! (Kinda sad eh?)

Anyways, on to the choices! I had really loved IG''s choice, so much I ordered a sample of it. But FI made me feel like it''s too fancy, so it''s sadly out of the running

But first up is this one from www.weddingpaperdivas.com in Amethyst (NOTE: the info on these invites are just whatever the sample on the website said)

 

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The same invite in Chocolate:

 

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And then heres the picture of the completely different one from Carlson Craft:

 

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Ok, I lied, heres a fourth one that I had kind of forgotten about, but it was one of the options previously, so I'll throw it in there for good measure. This one is from www.invitationconsultants.com:

 

[Haven]

I prefer the first design, it''s modern yet still elegant. I think the second design (third invite, the one with the large dots) is a bit cutesy for me, and the last one doesn''t look formal enough for a wedding. To me. Not that my opinion matters to you one bit!

Also, with the first one, you could play around with the initials and use them in other aspects of your decor. You could print the image up on stickers and use it to seal something, like a favor box.

 

[somethingshiny]

I prefer the first. (and I like the chocolate color) The last is definitely not formal, but there''s something about it I like.

 

[CrownJewel]

I agree with Haven. The first design is the most elegant. I like the purple best.

 

[partyjewels]

Oh, I forgot to mention, if we go with the first design (the one with the initials) I wasn''t sure which color I liked better thats why I put both. Our colors are a chocolate and champagne mainly I think, with a deep purple as an accent in the flowers and what not. I got it in my head that using chocolate invitations were overkill, but I think thats because I''ve been asking the wrong people about invitations, they just don''t like any shade of brown it seems! So to them our wedding will be ugly, but I don''t care! Ok, maybe I care a little...

Anyways, we''re going on an official shopping trip for bridesmaids dresses tomorrow, so hopefully the color of their dress will at least be tacked down because that might make a difference. Luckily with that first design I really like all of the colors they have and would be willing to use whichever one fits best.

 

[julabean]

I''m in the minority so far, but I like the 3rd. It''s fun, but tasteful.

But if you''re choosing between the first two, I like it in chocolate best.

 

[Haven]

I prefer the chocolate color, it seems more elegant to me for some reason.

Did you have a question about the wording?

 

[gtn]

I too vote for #2 the chocolate color one.

 

[FrekeChild]

Voting for #1 in Amethyst. Because Chocolate is a food and honestly, not all that sparkly. Ok not really, I just like it more, and I''m really turned off by the chocolate, but I''m one of those anti-brown people.

 

[AceP]

i would vote for the purple... i''m just pretty tired of seeing brown at all of these weddings. it''s a bit too trendy-right-this-second for me. though i think mixing brown with deep purple will be nice: most people i know are doing chocolate with sage, chocolate with light pink, etc.

 

[partyjewels]

Oops! I DO have a question about the wording, but something came up last night and I forgot all about it in the middle of posting it. hehe.

So sorry for the length of this part!!

I''m pretty much footing the bill for the wedding (FI is footing the main bills for the house addition we''re doing, I got the better deal

)...

My Mom would help out more if she could (she''s helping us do our centerpieces, and just yesterday she told me she wants to buy me my dress), and I''m sure my Dad would too, but neither of them really have the funds right now.

FIs parents have said FI just needs to let them know what we would like help with. Photographer? Flowers? Food? Drinks? But I don''t know what to tell him as he''s asked me to decide.

We don''t NEED the help, but it would be nice. The problem is I don''t feel comfortable putting any of them on the invitation even if they do help out a bit. I''d rather just leave them all off and not fully indicate who the hosts are.. does the first option do that? Or do I need to use the second option?


Bride
and
Groom
Have Chosen The First Day
Of Their New Life Together
As Saturday, The Thirteenth of September
Two Thousand and Eight.
You Are Invited To Share In Their Joy
As They Exchange Marriage Vows
At Time (we don''t have a time yet!)
Church
Address
City, State

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The Honour Of Your Presence Is Requested
At The Marriage Of

Bride
and Groom

Saturday, The Thirteenth of September
Two Thousand And Eight
Time

Church
Address - City, State


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Then the rsvp lines, there are two I liked, but perhaps the second is better as it gives the times everything is expected to start since the ceremony and reception are at different locations, but then again I worry about picking times for that, I mean it is a buffet, so how am I supposed to say for sure when dinner is over and dancing will start?

To help us celebrate
Please join us for the reception
immediately following the ceremony

Location
Address

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Cocktails served at TIME
Dinner served at TIME
Dancing TIME until TIME
Location
Address

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And the rsvp card:


The favor of a
reply is requested
before DATE (How far in advance is TOO far to ask for a reply?)

Name ___________________
___ accepts ___ regrets

 

[Independent Gal]

Another vote for the first one. And I love the purple!

I'm no good at the wording stuff, but re how far is too far in advance, we asked for fairly far in advance (7 weeks?) since almost everyone has to travel at least a bit, so we figured most people would be deciding early. We have had a complaint or two about that. Mind you, it seems like most people have decided.

So i guess if you don't mind a person or two being a titch grumpy about it, and if you don't mind that too early (more than 3 wks?) is technically rude, pick whichever date works for you, and then tell the grumpy parties to just send theirs in late.

 

[partyjewels]

The whole Brown being very trendy and in right now is why I was kinda leaning towards the purple. I don''t know that my girls would like to wear a dark purple, but they all look good in brown and feel fine about a brown dress, but maybe we''ll find a dark purple dress they love when we go tonight!

We didn''t even have colors really till recently when I found a picture of flowers I loved We were going for a fallish theme, so anything in deeper tones was fine by me. Purple, Red, Green, Blue, Brown.. as long as it was in the right shade, I was ok with it. But I really love the idea of chocolates, creme, champagne and deep purple for our color pallete.

That fourth invite I posted IS rather casual and thats why I had kind of forgotten about it. I found it when I was getting frustrated with looking at invitations that were out of our budget, and found that one which is REALLY inexpensive.

The third one with the leaves we can get from someone we know with a 10% discount, which makes it tempting. It is a big more casual and a bit cutesy which made me not so sure about it either...

The first two with the initials cost the most out of the lot of them, but they''re still doable I think. I just worry about how little space they seem to have.. I''ll have to get a reception card as well as the rsvp card and that will bump the price up more. But I like that they have an elegant (to me) look without being "too fancy".

In all fairness our reception is in the hall of a restaurant we love, we''re having BBQ ribs and Rotisserie chicken. Our reception is probably not going to seem very elegant to most people..so we can probably get away with something not so formal, but that doesn''t mean I don''t want a pretty, formal feeling invite!

 

[becoming_sadie]

I am an old prude

I like #2. The color is classic and so is the design. #3 and 4 are a little too whimsical for my taste.

 

[Haven]

I would prefer the second wording option. The first sounds a bit awkward to me for some reason, but I''m not sure why. I''d also nix all the capital letters so it reads nicer:

The honour of your presence
is requested
at the marriage of

Bride
and
Groom

on Saturday, the thirteenth of September
two thousand and eight
at half after four o''clock

Church
Address
City, State

I''ve never seen the times for different events listed on a response card, and I can''t imagine why this would be necessary unless you expected people to skip out on the actual marriage ceremony and come only for the food. I would prefer to use the second response card wording, and I would replace the word "before" with "by"--it just sounds more elegant, I believe.

I have no idea how early is too early to ask for a response; Emily Post says a date two weeks in advance of the wedding is the norm, Miss Manners says reply cards are "an abomination" so she offers no advice in this regard.

 

[zoebartlett]

I''m not sure about the wording but for the invitations, I like the purple one best. I also like the last one with the leaves but it doesn''t seem weddingy. I really like the leaves in the background but the big maple leaf seems a bit much.

 

[Future Mrs Polka Dot]

this is just an idea to throw out there, which seems to be very popular now:

Together with Their Parents
BrideFirst BrideLast
and
GroomFirst GroomLast
Request......etc etc

I think this is a good way to incorporate the fact that parents are helping a bit, but the bride and groom are also hosting. Just a thought!

PS - I still really like the purple ones! Such a pretty, deep color!

 

[partyjewels]

Future Mrs. Polka Dot, I had considered that wording but I don''t like it for our situation. I think I''ll end up using the "The Honour Of Your Presence Is Requested At The Marriage Of". Seems the least issue causing one.