Invitee Ediquette

[jitterymo]

So I belong to a small club and am inviting all the members and their Husbands/SO''s to the wedding... I had one of the club members come to me and say oh my daughter is so excited for you and we''ll all be there... and then she said that her, her husband, daughter and daughters bf were all going to be there... now I''ve never really been friends with the daughter or hung out with her (I know her because she is in the same age as my younger sister) How do I tell her that I''m not inviting her daughter? Or is that really rude?

 

[onedrop]

I don't think it's rude not to invite the daughter of your club member and her BF. I actually think it was kind of presumptuous for her to think that she could invite people that she wanted to be there, but I digress.

I am saying this as a non-confrontational person, but I would not say anything directly to your club member right now. I would just send her the invitation and if she adds people to the response card that you were not expecting, I'd let her know at that time that you only accounted for a certain number of people and that regretfully, you will only be able to receive your club member and her husband.

 

[sunnyd]

Date: 5/26/2010 6:45:02 PM
Author: onedrop
I don''t think it''s rude not to invite the daughter of your club member and her BF. I actually think it was kind of presumptuous for her to think that she could invite people that she wanted to be there, but I digress.

I am saying this as a non-confrontational person, but I would not say anything directly to your club member right now. I would just send her the invitation and if she adds people to the response card that you were not expecting, I''d let her know at that time that you only accounted for a certain number of people and that regretfully, you will only be able to receive your club member and her husband.

Ditto. Just address the invitation to her and her DH. If she doesn''t get the hint then, you can deal with it.

 

[zoebartlett]

Date: 5/26/2010 6:48:09 PM
Author: sunnyd

Date: 5/26/2010 6:45:02 PM
Author: onedrop
I don''t think it''s rude not to invite the daughter of your club member and her BF. I actually think it was kind of presumptuous for her to think that she could invite people that she wanted to be there, but I digress.

I am saying this as a non-confrontational person, but I would not say anything directly to your club member right now. I would just send her the invitation and if she adds people to the response card that you were not expecting, I''d let her know at that time that you only accounted for a certain number of people and that regretfully, you will only be able to receive your club member and her husband.

Ditto. Just address the invitation to her and her DH. If she doesn''t get the hint then, you can deal with it.

People never cease to amaze me! WHY don''t people think before they invite others to a wedding? How do they not see it as rude? That always baffles me.

Anyway, I agree with Onedrop and Sunny. Hopefully she''ll get the hint when she sees who YOU''VE chosen to invite.