irrational fear

[Tacori E-ring]

So I am not sure how many of you felt or will feel this but I am so scared I will be a hysterical mess on my wedding day. Just thinking about it makes me tear up. Watching wedding on tv makes actual tears fall. I don''t know if I am just being overly emotional b/c of planning and excitement but I want to be able to clearly say my vows. I seem to cry over anything (good cry, not bad) How did all of you already married ladies get through it?

 

[Rube]

I thought I'd be the biggest cry baby IN THE WORLD, and didn't shed a tear. Honest.

I'm not sure what it was- I was just too happy (and still didn't cry happy tears?

) I admit, my now SIL recorded a song for my husband and me, and watching her BAWL while it played almost had me. But, I dabbed my eyes and went on.

All I can say is cry now, and maybe it will be all over when the big day comes.

What can you do?

Edited to add: I did all the crying like you are now... watching on TV, just thinking about the big day, etc. I cried with happiness thinking I would cry from happiness.

 

[Tacori E-ring]

Thanks Rude, that makes me feel better. I just want to avoid any small animal sounds or snorts which usually result from me crying and trying to talk (say my vows for example) at the same time.

 

[njc]

I had a similar experience as Rube. I didnt cry during the ceremony... i did giggle my way through my vows... nervous habit. The weeks leading up to the wedding though--i would start crying to songs on the radio--anything sappy on TV!

We met before the ceremony, had 5 minutes all to ourselves before we starting taking pictures, and the 3 seconds before FI walked through the door, i started to loose it a little, but kept it under control, used my hanki to dab. I feel our little meeting helped a lot, or else i would have been breaking down right before i walked through those doors. I had a strange cool/calmness the entire time after that... everyone even commented about how calm i seemed.

Dont worry... youll be fine! You dont need the extra stress!

 

[MelissaSue]

I feel like that too.. I cry at weddings.. everyones...Even my friend who sometimes I really don''t LIKE that much (you know we all have friends like that).. I didn''t think I''d cry at her wedding.. but then her HUSBAND started getting teary eyed during the vows.. and it was all over for me..

I cry when I listen to the song we''re using for our first dance, and FORGET about thinking about my dad walking me down the aisle. I can''t even type that without my eyes tearing up.. LOL.. I will be suprised if I don''t cry.. And when i start crying.. I can''t stop..

Here''s the strange thing though.. For the CRYER that I am.. I didn''t cry when my FI proposed. I still think its strange to this day. I just couldn''t BREATHE for liike.. the whole rest of the night.. and then I couldn''t sleep! I was in disbelief.. which was strange.. because when he proposed it was a suprise, but it wasn''t like we hadn''t been TALKING about it everyday for 6 months.. I don''t know WHY I didn''t cry.. but that gives me hope that I won''t cry at my wedding.. HOWEVER.. if my DAD or FI cry.. or anyone really.. I''ll be all done.. I''ll just be a red teary eyed bride for all the pics!

 

[bar01]

I cried like a little girl during my vows - not pretty to see a 6''-3", 240 lb man sobbing, snorting back snot, while he tries to finish his vows.

Of course my older brother did this too while reading the vows he wrote for his wife. It must be genetic.

 

[Strawdermangrl]

LOL, I feel you honey

I was addicted to the Wedding story on TLC and I would bawl like a child.

I didn''t even cry once at my wedding, I was too full of absoulte joy and happiness.
I did cry after my dance with my Daddy, he was singing to me and holding me so close- I have neve seen him like that.

You will be fine- have your MOH whisper something funny everytime your lip trembles- my HUSBAND( SCARY!!! ) was having his BM whisper "Go Astros" everytime he started to tear up, and we would both giggle.


Get all the emotional crying out now- you won''t have time to cry on your big day my dear.

 

[glaucomflecken]

You could always do like they say when you were in school and were nervous giving a speech...picture everyone in their underwear!lol

No really everyone I talk to says that truly, they were either so nervous or so happy they couldnt cry! I am afraid I will cry though because my dad passed away when I was little and it will be sad for me not to be able to have him walk me down the aisle, and my mom is still very emotional about it so I fear she will be a wreck and make me a wreck.

But my fiance is wearing a kilt so I am hoping that the sight of him in a skirt and hairy legs at the end of the aisle will fill me with giggles so I dont bawl!!! I think for me I will get emotional when my MOH and BM give their speeches and during our first dance. Which is ok because all the important pics will have been taken so who cares if my face is all red and puffy then...

 

[IrishEyes]

I am the type of person that when I feel something, I feel it DEEPLY. So when I''m happy, I''m really happy! Angry, and I''m so angry I''m almost violent

. Crying - I''m a blubbering mess!! So I thought the same thing: oh no, I''m going to cry all over the place. Then I got married and instead of crying, I was just so caught up in the moment and so deliriously happy that I started laughing! I was giggling the whole time! MY HUSBAND WAS THE CRY BABY!!

He was crying, my mom was crying, my DAD was crying, my MIL, and there I am - laughing away!

So don''t worry, you''ll probably surprise yourself and do the exact opposite of what you''d think! You''ll be fine I''m sure of it!

 

[ame]

I was so nervous about crying at mine and I was SO MAD at myself when I did coming down the aisle with my dad.

 

[Tacori E-ring]

Thanks all for your support. I do have this nervous giggle thing so between that and the crying, arrgg...I should just elope. Just kidding. I do have this strange fantasy about my fi getting teary b/c I think it is so sweet when guys get emotional at their weddings but I will doubt this will happen b/c he is not very emotional. I guess he could surprise me! I''ll let you guys know what happens in a year.

 

[gingerBcookie]

lol...i have the same fear...made me think long and hard about getting a blusher so ppl can''t see that i''m a blubbering idiot!! i am a very unattractive crier -->red nose, snot, the works!!! anyway, crossing my fingers that i''ll get through it with minimal secretions!

 

[Tybee]

Ha,
Just reading these posts made me cry!
I am so emotional too. Rube, I''m glad to hear that you were just so happy. I''ve seen so many radiently happy brides at weddings. That actually helps to think about.