Is asking "where''s the honeymoon?" an annoying question?

[fieryred33143]

I figured I would ask the brides

. I know there are always questions people ask over and over that get really annoying (like when are you going to get engaged? When''s the wedding? When are you having a baby? etc.)

But is asking where''s the honeymoon or have you decided on a place for the honeymoon an annoying question? Does it get asked a lot? TIA

 

[MagsyMay]

Hmm, I don''t think that''s annoying at all! I think it''s a more interesting question than "so how''s wedding planning going?" Although questions about honeymoons sort of stress me out because as much as we want to go on a fabulous one, finances probably won''t allow it, so it''s sort of a depressing subject for me!

 

[emeraldlover1]

It didn''t think it was annoying at all! I loved it because when I told people where I was going I got a lot of helpful suggestions from others that had been.

It might be uncomfortable if the couple can''t go on one though.

 

[Bia]

nope!

But I''m a nosy sort

 

[Haven]

I never thought so, but I''m learning that people are offended or annoyed by a lot of surprising things!

 

[Laila619]

I don''t think it''s an annoying question at all. I loved getting asked so I could share my excitement about our honeymoon trip and our destination.

 

[kittybean]

I loved that question ''cause it meant I got to gush a little about the honeymoon. I was so excited for it! It was much better than, "So how''s wedding planning?"

 

[Bia]

Date: 12/4/2009 12:54:18 AM
Author: kittybean
I loved that question ''cause it meant I got to gush a little about the honeymoon. I was so excited for it! It was much better than, ''So how''s wedding planning?''

ding-ding-ding!!! we have a winner!

that would be MY LEAST favorite question.

 

[Lauren8211]

Date: 12/4/2009 8:41:16 AM
Author: Bia

Date: 12/4/2009 12:54:18 AM
Author: kittybean
I loved that question ''cause it meant I got to gush a little about the honeymoon. I was so excited for it! It was much better than, ''So how''s wedding planning?''

ding-ding-ding!!! we have a winner!

that would be MY LEAST favorite question.

Ditto. Near the end of my wedding planning, I about snapped on people who asked me that.

I would have talked about ANYTHING over talking about the wedding.

Bowel movements, boogers, whatever. NOT THE WEDDING!!!!

 

[Smurfysmiles]

honestly, i wasn't offended but i hated when people would ask us this...or now "so where did you go on your honeymoon"
"nowhere"
"well why not"
"um because we can't afford it?"
"oh im sorry to hear that"
"yeah....*awkward silence*"

if you catch my drift lol

 

[shertz1981]

For me ...

Wedding planning questions are bad. Baby questions get you smacked upside the head. But PLEASE ask about the honeymoon. LOL

 

[Keepingthefaith21]

Never bothered me - I loved to talk about the honeymoon especially because I was able to say part of our honeymoon destination was due to our friends getting married in Vegas - so I could almost always shift the focus from us to our friends.

PS - Firey - your little one is absolutely adorable! A million and one congrats!!

 

[sunnyd]

Not annoying. I had a script memorized for it.

 

[tlh]

No. To me the honeymoon was when I could finally relax! So i LOVED talking about it. Just takling about the wedding stressed me out, and the honeymoon made a nice topic of discussion for ME... and MY HUBS!

 

[fieryred33143]

KeepingTheFaith-Thank you!

Thanks ladies.

I had asked my coworker and got a really weird response from him. I said "did you guys decide on honeymoon plans?" and the response I received was "we decided we''re going to go somewhere and after a week come back"

I thought RUDE (finger snap) but I didn''t know if that''s a question that just gets asked so much that it''s annoying KWIM?

 

[decodelighted]

Date: 12/4/2009 9:25:40 AM
Author: Smurfyimproved
honestly, i wasn''t offended but i hated when people would ask us this...or now ''so where did you go on your honeymoon''
''nowhere''
''well why not''
''um because we can''t afford it?''
''oh im sorry to hear that''
''yeah....*awkward silence*''
if you catch my drift lol

Can I offer you a different response to give? "We''re spreading out the expenses & the excitement ... something else to look forward to!" That''s exactly what *we* did. Took a tiny mini-moon the weekend of the wedding and a real honeymoon about 6 months later -- when we''d saved some $ and found a great deal. Doing a honeymoon later also gives you an option to pick up great travel deals WHEN YOU FIND THEM vs. having to book the specific dates after your wedding. Also, it DOES spread out the fun. Just something to think about. Hope you get to enjoy one a.s.a.p.

 

[Octavia]

It's not generally an annoying question, but personally I'm getting tired of explaining why we didn't take a honeymoon right away, that we don't know when we're going to get to take one, and that we have no idea where we'll go when we do find the time (since for us it's more about scheduling problems than money). It's not the fault of the person asking, it's just that in my case it's not a simple question...and since I am annoyed about our honeymoon situation (or lack thereof) right now, it kind of rubs salt on the wound to have to keep talking about it.

So my answer is generally, it's fine -- but if you know or suspect for some reason that the couple won't be taking a honeymoon right away, it might be best not to ask about it.

 

[CNOS128]

Totally annoying. I kick people in the shins for asking. How dare they show concern for me and my plans?!

We actually haven''t taken a honeymoon yet (we went on a sort trip a little after the wedding), and probably won''t be able to until after I take the bar exam. That part is frustrating for me because I''m eager to go away -- but if people ask where we went or if we''ve gone or will go on a honeymoon, I just tell them "No, not yet!" or "We''re going to wait until it''s a more convenient time for both of us!"

Nobody I know would really pry into the "why" and "when," so it''s not like I feel judged or pressured. They are asking because they care, or because they''re curious, or because they like to hear about other people''s travel plans -- not to make me feel bad.

 

[kas baby]

I don''t mind the question, but the reactions I get are kind of weird because they just don''t get it.

Our schedule is really tight in those few months and having a honeymoon might actually be stressful because I would be thinking of all the things I still need to do. Wedding is in may 2011, grad school starts up in july. hopefully I''ll be accepted earlier, but we could really be on pins and needles with a sudden move and trying to find jobs. People don''t seem to understand how time consuming those things can be

I would probably ask that question though. we all know what wedding planning is like- I want to hear about the fun stuff! lol

 

[marlie]

i don''t think it''s annoying at all. people always have great travel tips so it''s great to discuss options with other people.

also, when people ask me where i''m going it reminds me that i should really get on top of booking mine!!

 

[zoebartlett]

I don''t think it''s a rude question.

 

[Bia]

Date: 12/4/2009 12:54:06 PM
Author: fiery
KeepingTheFaith-Thank you!

Thanks ladies.
I had asked my coworker and got a really weird response from him. I said ''did you guys decide on honeymoon plans?'' and the response I received was ''we decided we''re going to go somewhere and after a week come back''

I thought RUDE (finger snap) but I didn''t know if that''s a question that just gets asked so much that it''s annoying KWIM?

oooooh! gangsta.

maybe they got into a big fight about the honeymoon that morning and he was about to snap just THINKING about it. lol (

)

who knows - I wouldn''t take it personally. IMO it''s not a rude question at all.

 

[zipzapgirl]

Not a rude question at all. Especially if the couple loves to travel like we do!

Any question can feel grating and get awkward if you hit a sore spot. I think it''s best to keep in mind that people want to be interested and exciting about what is going on with you and this is generally one of the most fun parts of planning (who doesn''t want to plan a great vacation?) If you''re putting it off or not doing one at all, just come up with an upbeat answer and keep it happy and positive. They''re trying to interact and show interest, not interrogate, you know?