Is he serious?? I''m speechless...

[Aloros]

Bf and I have been going to open houses lately and checking out house listings, just to get an idea of prices, locations, affordability, etc. We''d discussed beforehand (he brought it up) that we should get married before buying a house together. We found one place that was being sold by the owner, and it was nearly spot-on! Great location - a block away from a large park, bike-riding distance from work (probably about 3-5 miles), and close to downtown, groceries, all that. The neighborhood is very pretty, lots of trees. The house itself is adorable, and my only reservation is that it has only 1 bathroom.

I was browsing craigslist, and I found that they''d dropped the price a few thousand already, after just putting it up on the market. So I sent him the link, just as a note.

His reply was: "The house looks nice. If that’s the one you want, then all I want is to make you happy, so we should get it."

I simply don''t know what to say to that. I mean...is he serious? He''s looking for a better-paying job right now, and a house would restrict us to this area. He''s also considering getting a PhD, so I''m not sure where that would put us, money-wise. I mean, the house is definitely affordable for us, and I''m getting a fat raise come August plus some potential side income from a project I''ve been working on for a while.

And then...does he want to marry me...now? I don''t know what to say without sounding like a crazy-woman. My thoughts are scattered from here to there. Just shocked.

 

[Miscka]

Sounds like a great house. Ok, so is this good shocked or bad shocked? Are you ready? Are you firm on the marriage first idea?

ETA: Does this mean you will be leaving the LIWFAW??

 

[snlee]

I would honestly tell him how you feel. Be open with him about all your thoughts and see how he feels. This is a huge decision that needs to be made between the both of you.

 

[KimberlyH]

It''s not crazy to say "Honey, remember that discussion we had about getting married before we commit to something like a home purchase together? Since you''re suggesting we buy the house what does that mean in regards to our relationship?"

 

[FarFarAway]

I hate it when guys do that. It makes me feel like they are washing their hands of the deal and if something goes wrong, they can''t be held liable.

But I think you should ask HIM what that meant. Because that''s a pretty open statement towards something as big as buying a house together

 

[bee*]

I''d definitely sit down and talk to him about it. You seem unsure of how you feel about it so I would talk through it with him

 

[Aloros]

Well, we talked a little bit last night. We decided that he should get a new job before we consider house-buying seriously. Plus, we both want to save a little more for a downpayment. I''m sure, when the time comes, we''ll be able to find something equally as nice. I hope I won''t be kicking myself later!

I did tell him that I wanted to marry him.

...so he asked me to marry him. We were being kind of silly - he told me if I put this big green netted bag over my hair again (yes I was wearing it before...I''d had a couple beers...), he''d ask me to marry him. Well, after he asked, I told him that was not the proper way to ask a lady. I hope I won''t be kicking myself for that either!

He said he''d propose to me...if I was lucky.

It''s a bit of a running joke between us. After our first date, I told him that we should do it again, and he told me "If you''re lucky." I just laughed and left, and we went out again the next day.

Now hopefully I can forget the entire conversation until he actually does propose.

 

[loveforfire]

lol, aloros, the whole "if you''re lucky" thing sounds like my boyfriend, too. and reminds me of how he teases me. we were talking about rings and i had given him all the specs i want, so he said, "who says i haven''t gotten the ring already?" i said WHAATTT?! he just lol''d. teasing is cute but sometimes it just makes me nuts!! congrats on the potential house/hubby.