Is it bad luck....
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I don''t think it''s necessarily bad luck. It depends on how you both feel about it. If he doesn''t think it''s a big deal and you don''t either, then I think it''s fine to show him a picture of the dress. Chances are (since he''s a guy) he will forget what it looked like by the time the wedding rolls around anyway!
I chose to keep my dress a complete secret. Only my mom and my MOH saw it before my big day. I didn''t want anyone to give my DH any hints about it. The only hint I gave him was that it wasn''t strapless and didn''t have a big poufy skirt, lol! Everyone was really surprised and it turned out to be really fun keeping them in suspense. My husband loved it, too (which was the most important thing.)
I chose to keep my dress a complete secret. Only my mom and my MOH saw it before my big day. I didn''t want anyone to give my DH any hints about it. The only hint I gave him was that it wasn''t strapless and didn''t have a big poufy skirt, lol! Everyone was really surprised and it turned out to be really fun keeping them in suspense. My husband loved it, too (which was the most important thing.)
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Well to tell you the truth I don''t think my FI CARES about my dress. I hope he will think I look beautiful of course but will he even remember details of my dress AFTER the wedding, probably not. Either way I would not show him a picture before hand. I am not sure if it is bad luck but I just like that element of suspense.
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I am going to have to get my dress custome made, because I am a theatre designer by trade and wouldn''t be happy with anyone designing my dress but me! I made a watercolour sketch and then photoshopped up a mockup.
When my S.O. saw it, he said ''that would be the dress I''d wear if I was a chick''.
It made me laugh, because he''s totally oblivious to fashion. He has two opinions when it comes to fashion: ''huh?'' and ''drool!''.
I don''t see anything wrong with you showing a picture of the dress, but I think it would be more traditional if he didn''t see the dress on you (in pics or person) until you come down the aisle.
When my S.O. saw it, he said ''that would be the dress I''d wear if I was a chick''.
I don''t see anything wrong with you showing a picture of the dress, but I think it would be more traditional if he didn''t see the dress on you (in pics or person) until you come down the aisle.
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I don''t know about luck... but I can''t imagine not showing my fiance. I already showed him a snapshot of me in it. But he''s the type that has strong opinions - if he doesn''t like my dress I will never hear the end of it!! Also, he''s Vietnamese and their ceremonies usually have a pre-ceremony and everything, so it''s hardly a surprise at the alter. But I think that most guys don''t care so would rather be surprised. But my guy is a different breed, he has to ok every decision!! He works in design, so I think that''s why he''s so particular. I think it''s worse luck to buy a dress he hates than to show it. Also, I was so happy to find a dress I love so much, I wanted to share it with everyone, especially my best friend, who is my future husband!!
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i went dress shopping w/my DH. I had a HUGE amount of pressure from the salesladies and my BM to not show him the dresses I was trying on... but poor guy, he felt so left out about the whole thing and I really didn''t care much either way, so we went together near the end when I had narrowed it down.
It''s an old tradition, some people think it''s important, I didn''t... you make the call!!
Either way, I *really* don''t think it makes the marriage any better or worse!
It''s an old tradition, some people think it''s important, I didn''t... you make the call!!
Either way, I *really* don''t think it makes the marriage any better or worse!
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My DH saw lots of pictures of me in my dress b/c somehow all my pictures on my laptop are incorporated into my screensaver now. So unless he didn''t look, ever, then he did see lots of pictures. But I don''t think it''s bad luck.
We actually saw each other on the day of the wedding at our apartment b/c I had so many things left to do there that there was no avoiding it. I called my MOH at 7am on the day of the wedding, driving back to my house, all emotional and bawling, asking her if it would be terrible bad luck to go back to the apt where he was sure to be. Her answer "My husband and I DIDN''T see each other before the wedding." They''re divorcing.
Soooooooo....don''t let any stupid superstitions make you nervous.
We actually saw each other on the day of the wedding at our apartment b/c I had so many things left to do there that there was no avoiding it. I called my MOH at 7am on the day of the wedding, driving back to my house, all emotional and bawling, asking her if it would be terrible bad luck to go back to the apt where he was sure to be. Her answer "My husband and I DIDN''T see each other before the wedding." They''re divorcing.
Soooooooo....don''t let any stupid superstitions make you nervous.
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I don''t know if it''s bad luck, but I really like the idea of my fiance not seeing me until I walk down the aisle. I love those weddings where you see the groom just get all choked up when he sees his bride for the first time walking toward him -- so romantic! (Can you tell I''m a crier at weddings?!)
My Dad was actually trying to convince me to take photos before the ceremony, but I just don''t want to ruin that one moment of surprise, you know? When you plan everything else about the wedding together, I think it''s nice to keep this one secret! My fiance has seen my jewelry, has seen photos of how I may do my hair (not on me, but magazines and stuff), but the dress -- nope!
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My Dad was actually trying to convince me to take photos before the ceremony, but I just don''t want to ruin that one moment of surprise, you know? When you plan everything else about the wedding together, I think it''s nice to keep this one secret! My fiance has seen my jewelry, has seen photos of how I may do my hair (not on me, but magazines and stuff), but the dress -- nope!
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i don''t think it''s bad luck, but i''m not going to show FI a picture of the dress. my dress is being custom made so i don''t actually have a picture of it, but i have a picture of similar styles. i showed his family the picture and a sample of the lace, but not him. i''m not sure why. i''d like it to be a surprise for him... not that he''d care or notice anyway. actually that''s probably part of my reasoning for not showing him. he doesn''t care about the dress like i do and i''m afraid he''ll make a dumb comment about it or just say it''s "ok" or "fine". i would totally take it the wrong way since i''m invested in the dress and think he hated it when in reality he wouldn''t even be able to tell you it was ivory! but that''s just me.
DH went with me to pick up the dress, so he saw it and said, "It looks like a sack." He really couldn''t wrap his mind around what it would look like on me, versus on the hanger. He was amazed what it looked like on the wedding day. We did photos before the ceremony and he just kept staring at my corset assisted bosom!
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