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If you try on a dress if you are not engaged?

Do you believe in superstitions like this??
 
Bah, I don't believe in that kind of thing. I've made appointments to try on specific gowns (I have a post about it here somewhere) but the one I rrrrrrrreally wanted wasn't at the shoppe. I say, TRY AWAY!
 
I don''t believe in superstitions, but I''ve never allowed myself to try any dresses on . For some reason I don''t want to rob myself of that whole experience with my mom and sister the first time I headed out to try on dresses as ''officially'' engaged.

I guess its probably a personal thing. I''ve waited though not because of a superstition.
 
Date: 11/17/2007 10:09:40 PM
Author: nessvan12
I don''t believe in superstitions, but I''ve never allowed myself to try any dresses on . For some reason I don''t want to rob myself of that whole experience with my mom and sister the first time I headed out to try on dresses as ''officially'' engaged.


I guess its probably a personal thing. I''ve waited though not because of a superstition.

This is exactly why I haven''t either! I even know when the ring is coming and we''ve already booked a venue, but I still haven''t tried any on. I will when it''s official! Although I will say...part of me doesn''t want to jinx it either. :)
 
I don''t believe in the superstition, no. BUT - I didn''t tryi on, or even look at, dresses before I was engaged. I think I wanted to save it for when it was real, for when I really was engaged and planning my wedding, so it would be special. Likewise I didn''t buy any wedding magazines or log into theknot.com. I just felt I would let it all wash over me when I was finally a "bride to be" for real.

And as soon as I got that ring, I had a freaking field day - believe me.
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I''m generally not superstitious, although now that you mention it, I did try on my mother''s engagement ring quite a few times when I was visiting her, back when I thought I''d be getting engaged soon. She would leave her ring on the vanity sometimes when she was washing dishes, and I wanted to see what my hand would look like with something sparkly. A year and a half later, I am not engaged yet. Be advised LOL
 
I was a personal attendant for my cousin''s now wife E, and since her mother and bridesmaids were all in other states and she has no sisters, my mom and I got to be her dress-shopping companions. Dress shopping can be really frustrating, so I think it''s GREAT to have an idea of what you want before you step into a shop or you''ll be overwhelmed. Plus, they ask you a lot of questions, and if you don''t know what they''re talking about (I knew, but E didn''t in some cases, so I had to make up answers for her).

I''d recommend not actually trying anything on (when I saw dresses I liked for me, E would say, ''you should try it on!'' and I didn''t even have a bf at that point, so I felt that was really terrible luck) until you have the ring, or else you might feel weird when they ask you a million questions about the date, venue, bridesmaids dresses, flowers, your fiancé, etc. Plus, mom and friends tagging along (or not tagging along) would either be kind of weird of just kind of sad.

So, do some online shopping! Theknot.com does have a search on dresses, of course, but what helped E was just having me draw a sketch of her ''ideal dress,'' and then show that to the stores when we got there.

And, the best part: We found her perfect dress on the first try!
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(Granted, we did go to several stores after that and she tried on about 50 other dresses, but it was the first one that she tried on that she bought!)
 
I would never do it.... guess I''m a little bit superstitious but also I can just imagine in my head the conversation of the sales girls "So, when is the bid day???" and then my mortification.....
 
I''m not supersticious, but I wouldn''t do it. I understand how you could be dying to, but dress shopping before you have your date and venue can be tricky, because the time of year/day and the location tell a lot about the kind of dress that you''ll need.
 
I don''t think it is bad luck, per se...but I do think it is kind of odd and a bit sad, in a muriel''s wedding kind of way...
 
My Senior Prom dress was actually a wedding dress I found at a second hand store. It was an old fashioned dress so I removed certain aspects that made it look specifically like a wedding dress, had it dry cleaned and have never received more compliments on a dress than I did that night. My mother, on the other hand, was so angry I was wearing a wedding dress that she almost missed seeing me dressed to head to prom
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It’s been 10 years since my prom (holy crap!) and even though I remain unengaged, I certainly do not spend long nights laying awake going “if only I never wore that dress…”.

That being said, I’ve never purchased a bridal magazine to read, never signed up for any wedding sites, never tried on a gown with the intention of it being my wedding gown and I won’t do any of these things until an engagement is certain. There’s something special about holding back on all the fun parts until you really have the ring on your finger IMHO.
 
I didn''t try on any wedding dresses or buy any bridal magazines before I got engaged either.I would have been too embarrassed if people had looked at my finger and there was no ring, and then having to make up some excuse. I don''t believe in any superstitions like that though.
 
I tried on three dresses the day after I knew the ring was ordered. I found the one I really liked, I had the whole teary-eye thing going on, and it felt right to me. After being together 7 years, and living together for 4, I felt like the commitment he made when the ring was ordered was enough for me.
 
Haha I just had to reply in this post because my best friend is OBSESSED with weddings. She probably won''t be getting engaged any time soon but she goes to wedding dress stores all the time, wears a fake engagement ring, and tries on as many as she can get her little hands on. We joke around about it all the time and she''s a hilarious character, but clearly she doesn''t believe in this superstition at all.
 
I would not try on a wedding dress. I am rather superstitious, but like others who spoke before me, I think that it''s a truly special moment that shouldn''t be diminished by having gone through it before already.

In fact, I want to wear a modified version of my mom''s wedding dress. I asked her a few months ago if she thought it was still in decent shape after being in a box for 27 years, and she invited me to open it... but I thought better of it. Especially when I found out that re-boxing it could cost upwards of $130!

Bridal magazines, however, are a different story. I don''t buy them, but once in a while a friend of mine from work passes one along (we get a lot of magazines at my office). And I read them. Cover to cover. Somehow I don''t consider that cheating....
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As a child, I spent many cold winter days prancing about my childhood home wearing my mother''s wedding dress and my favorite pair of her 4-inch maroon stilettos. Does that count?
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Hmmm...So I''ve bought wedding magazines before, but I was also in the business of making wedding cakes, so that was my excuse.
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I couldn''t help looking at everything else when I had them lying around of course.

As for wedding gowns...and I''m cringing as I write this...I have tried them on, and I even own one.
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This is because my parents forced me to be a F*&%$#g debutante when I was younger. That was an awful experience. Ugh.....the horrors...the horrors...

Wow that brought back some bad memories.
 
misscupcake- i have a friend just like yours...but i dont think that for her and her situation this is a healthy thing to do (her and her guy have a very rocky, unhealthy, and unstable relationship)

i wouldn''t try one dresses before i was engaged and i still dont plan to go look for one until after this coming semester is over, i just dont want to stress over it much, plus i don''t think that trying on dresses before your officially engaged is really a good thing to do, and i think that dress shopping/fittings/whatever it may be is for when your engaged and not before...

this doesnt mean browsing through magazines/websites/and other things is a bad thing, heck ive been doing that since i was like 13!! but to actually go and try them on...i personally wouldnt do it.
 
I didn''t try on dresses before I was engaged, particularly because my tastes chage every 15 minutes
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So I would have been wasting everyone''s time, because now in hindsight the style I had in mind prior to being engaged, and what I actually worre on my wedding day are worlds apart!!

But really, let''s face it, what harm would it do.
 
Nope, don't believe it's bad luck... it's just silk and lace and beads. I probably wouldn't try one on unless maybe I knew for sure engagement was right around the corner because if I tried one on that I loved, chances are by the time I started planning a wedding my choices and what's available would change.
 
Date: 11/20/2007 9:47:27 AM
Author: littlelysser
I don''t think it is bad luck, per se...but I do think it is kind of odd and a bit sad, in a muriel''s wedding kind of way...
Ha! I agree lysser...May I also say that I miss your hound dog''s photo! Is it an Ibizan hound?
 
Thritto to Lysser. Not something I would ever do, and if a friend told me she had done this... unless she was going to be engaged, like, next week, I would definitely think it was worthy of a raised eyebrow and then a shake of the head. I mean, really.

No offence to anyone. Each to their own.
 
Wow, Surfgirl, he is an Ibizan Hound. People are not familiar with the breed. His name is Izzie and he''s a total weird and wonderful dog. I''ll put a new pic of him up for my avatar again soon!
 
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