is there anything you''ll miss once you''re married?

[ficklefaye]

umm... checking the single box next to my name on applications?

 

[Luckyeshe]

Hearing my last name and signing with my current signature. I''ve finally mastered my signature...and now back to the drawing board...

I look forward to the day that I''m going to be Mrs. M...but I''m going to miss my last name when there''s a roll call....

 

[Dandi]

I read this question and had a really good think about it, and there isn''t ANYTHING I miss! Sometimes I miss my maiden name a bit, but I love being Mrs B

 

[daught3rofEve]

ditto Luckyeshe....

I''m going to keep my Maiden name in the overall scheme of things, but probably just add my new name to the end of it. I love my last name and it has GREAT sentimental value to it.


As for anything else.... I''m not really losing anything. Just gaining an extra 240lbs of hubby!

 

[princessplease]

I was thinking about this the other day, and while it is not directly related to your question, it is close. I will have one semester of school left once we get married, and I am thinking that I will be listening for my maiden name, and not my married name.

 

[Diva0413]

I'll miss my maiden name. It's already hyphenated and people tell me my last name sounds like I come from a rich family. How I wish that were true...

 

[bee*]

The only thing that I''ll miss really is the feeling of looking forward to the wedding. I loved the run up to it. However other than that and my maiden name, I don''t miss anything else.

 

[rhbgirl24]

Date: 8/12/2009 8:57:22 AM
Author: DandiAndi
I read this question and had a really good think about it, and there isn''t ANYTHING I miss! Sometimes I miss my maiden name a bit, but I love being Mrs B

Same here. I dont think I will miss anything.

 

[Amanda.Rx]

I''m going to miss my parent''s supporting me financially. Of course, they were going to stop when I graduated anyways. The wedding is only 3 weeks before that.

 

[soontowed]

Not having my own place. Even though FI is always there, once we are married I won''t be able to kick him out! Kidding. But I will miss my own space.

 

[Luckyeshe]

Date: 8/12/2009 5:34:53 PM
Author: soontowed
Not having my own place. Even though FI is always there, once we are married I won''t be able to kick him out! Kidding. But I will miss my own space.

Soontowed, I was thinking along these lines too. We''re LDR and I''m ok with that. I definitely miss him all the time and love it when we''re together, but I''ve lived alone since I graduated from college. I don''t think I''ll "miss" being single, but you know them days when you let the laundry pile up, the dishes don''t get done for about a week, and the fridge is bare since you can eat cereal every day no big deal...I guess I''m going to miss just doing anything and everything I want to do when I want to do it. My FI loves to cook and eat so there''s no way the fridge can ever be bare....

 

[ficklefaye]

Date: 8/12/2009 6:08:57 PM
Author: Luckyeshe

Date: 8/12/2009 5:34:53 PM
Author: soontowed
Not having my own place. Even though FI is always there, once we are married I won''t be able to kick him out! Kidding. But I will miss my own space.

Soontowed, I was thinking along these lines too. We''re LDR and I''m ok with that. I definitely miss him all the time and love it when we''re together, but I''ve lived alone since I graduated from college. I don''t think I''ll ''miss'' being single, but you know them days when you let the laundry pile up, the dishes don''t get done for about a week, and the fridge is bare since you can eat cereal every day no big deal...I guess I''m going to miss just doing anything and everything I want to do when I want to do it. My FI loves to cook and eat so there''s no way the fridge can ever be bare....

oh my gosh, luckyeshe, that''s exactly how i felt when FI and i moved in together, i''m the slob between the two of us so i do miss being able to just let the dishes and laundry pile up and eating whatever i want, on the upside, FI takes good care of me

 

[ficklefaye]

Date: 8/12/2009 5:34:53 PM
Author: soontowed
Not having my own place. Even though FI is always there, once we are married I won''t be able to kick him out! Kidding. But I will miss my own space.

hehe. i feel the same way sometimes with my live-in FI and our tiny studio, but i pretty much take the goods with the bads and we do try to give each other space when we need it. we do drive each other crazy sometimes, but in the end we still want to be with each other so it must be love.

 

[Winslet]

Date: 8/12/2009 12:46:32 PM
Author: Amanda.Rx
I''m going to miss my parent''s supporting me financially.

Haha BIG ditto on this! My parents pay for my rent and gas since I''m still a student. But I graduate AND get married next month, so the end to this wonderful convenience is coming very quickly!

 

[merrymunky]

I thought long and hard about this and I finally found something I think I will miss.

I will miss people asking me "Is that with or without an ''e''?" when I give my surname (well, maiden name). It''s a popular name that can be spelled with or without an ''e'' on the end. I bet you could all hazard a guess at my surname

Although...people will still be asking me how to spell my married name...it''s unusual.

 

[musey]

I miss the very little things about technically being single... there aren''t a lot of marrieds around me and sometimes it makes me feel a little weird, or that they think I''m a yokel or something. Most people in my extended circle don''t get married until their early thirties, at the earliest. So I miss calling him my ''boyfriend'' in social situations, because ''husband'' carries this stigma that I never expected.

 

[CNOS128]

I miss being able to eat junk food for dinner, or not eat dinner. It''s not acceptable to my husband for me to eat a bowl of cereal for dinner, or cheese & crackers or (gasp!) skip dinner altogether. It''s not that he won''t "let" me, it''s just that the guilt trip that ensues isn''t worth it to me.

But I know he does it out of love!

 

[cocolaw]

Date: 8/12/2009 8:48:42 PM
Author: TheBigT
I miss being able to eat junk food for dinner, or not eat dinner. It''s not acceptable to my husband for me to eat a bowl of cereal for dinner, or cheese & crackers or (gasp!) skip dinner altogether. It''s not that he won''t ''let'' me, it''s just that the guilt trip that ensues isn''t worth it to me.


But I know he does it out of love!

EXACTLY. sometimes you come home and can only muster the energy to prepare a bowl of cereal, or a random combination like half a bag of chips and 2 yogurts, or 4 rice krispies treats, etc. and it tastes like a gourmet dinner. i will miss that! or maybe ill have my cereal and tell my husband that it''s a pizza night for him!

 

[cocolaw]

i sometimes miss the mystery of not knowing how things will turn out...i think there is a certain joy in not knowing where you will go to college, or what career you will choose, and the person you choose to marry is another one. it is one more piece to my life puzzle that has been revealed! that said, i think i got really lucky and am certainly happy to know that mr coco is the one!

 

[cocolaw]

oh and i miss my law school condo. we have lived together in a different apartment for over a year now, but my condo was so pretty, and everything in it was me. i lived there for only 3 years, but i painted and repainted all of the rooms to my liking....and usually on a whim! i loved how i could turn all of the lights on at 3 in the morning and clean if i felt like it.

 

[noelwr]

I''m not going to miss a single thing! I''m looking forward to it 100%!

this is most likely because FI and I have lived together 7 years, own a house together, already had a cohabitation agreement, file our taxes together, and even refer to each other as husband and wife when we''re on vacation (is easier in countries where English isn''t 1st language). at least now we won''t be lying when we say it!

 

[blackbetty]

this will probably come out wrong, but the freedom of being able to do anything, anytime, without answering to anybody. although i gave that up a while back. when you love & care about someone, you make decisions as a team, you don''t take off and do something on a whim w/o letting them know, etc.

when i was young & uninvolved, i''d do things like drive to memphis for a weekend because i had no plans & had never been. now even if i just go out for drinks after work, i call my fiance to let him know. but i guess the trade off is having someone who always cares where you are.

 

[Luckyeshe]

Date: 8/13/2009 2:35:38 PM
Author: blackbetty
this will probably come out wrong, but the freedom of being able to do anything, anytime, without answering to anybody. although i gave that up a while back. when you love & care about someone, you make decisions as a team, you don''t take off and do something on a whim w/o letting them know, etc.

when i was young & uninvolved, i''d do things like drive to memphis for a weekend because i had no plans & had never been. now even if i just go out for drinks after work, i call my fiance to let him know. but i guess the trade off is having someone who always cares where you are.

So true, so true! I feel you, blackbetty!