Is this just part of the torture?

[winelover23]

So do you guys ever get the feeling that there is a forum out there called "Torturing our LIW''s". I''m beginning to think there must be some sort of secret covert ops training our men go through to make us nuts! This is why I ask:

My BF always talks about our future wedding and I always remind him "um, shouldn''t we get engaged first???". Well last weekend he was on the wedding talk again and so I cut him off and said "again, where''s the proposal?". He just laughed it off and I said it probably won''t be for awhile anyway and he responded "that''s what you think". Seriously, it''s all part of the torture because I honestly don''t think it''s coming anytime soon. I think he just likes to say what I want to hear and torture me! So that brings us to today...he''s off on Wednesdays so we met at Starbucks for coffee

Wait, a little side story. My BF is not the present buying type at ALL! Like one time he was all excited because he got me a "surprise" (only time) and when he gave it to me it was a bag of candy corn! To me surprises are new shoes or a bottle of expensive wine but maybe I''m derranged! Anywhooo, so we''re sitting in his truck sipping an iced double tall toffeenut nonfat latte, and he goes "I like when you wear that coat" and I said "oh thanks, my boyfriend bought it for me". So he didn''t really buy the coat but I say that when people give me compliments on things because it''s my reverse psychology on myself to feel like he gives me gifts. He then proceeds with "you have a surprise coming". HUH? My BF doesn''t do "surprises"! I reply "what kind of surprise and when do I get it?", he says "I don''t know, I just can''t wait to go to the ocean". We have an ocean trip planned for 9/13-9/16 which, after I thought about it, he''s been talking about an awful lot.

I''m absolutely not getting my hopes up! I did that one time and it ruined our weekend and I made a fool of myself etc (it was our 1st anniversary). In fact if you could all tell me it''s absolutely not going to happen and I just need to focus on having fun at the beach that would be great. We are bringing my daughter too so that wouldn''t make sense at all but then again I think he would think I would want her to be involved. See? They make us crazy! I''m going to have to bring an entire case of wine to keep calm! Thanks for letting me get that out. Please share your "torture stories"!

 

[pluck15]

I know exactly what you''re talking about! J always talks about when we''re married, and things for our wedding...yet no engagement. But lately he''s been saying that he knew at least a month and a half ago that he knew what he was getting me for our anniversary. When I told him that since my mom had said something about "he knows he needs to ask dad first right?" that it made me think he hadn''t asked my dad already, he responded with "well how do you know I haven''t talked to him already?" Aghhhh. Plus last night, when sending him links of what my friend''s engagement ring looks like, and showing him some I thought were pretty, he sends me the link of my dream ring and says "prettier than this one??" He has the link to my dream ring book marked on his computer!!! Plus he moved his OWN timeline up to "sometime before Christmas"

I''m dyin over here and all the while trying not to get my hopes up for this weeked (see my This Weekend... post) Definitely torture!!!

 

[Jessie702]

I completely understand. C does it to me all that time. Like when we were on my Bday trip, he kept saying" i cant wait till we''re married" or my favorite" when we are married we can do this, this and this" or my favorite" what dress or colours do you want" I think they all secertly know each other and try to firgure out ways to drive us insane. For example, Once, ive already posted this but, we were out, and this is what he said" I love you so much and cant wait to marry you" he than bends over and he ...TIES HIS SHOE! HE SAID ALL OF THAT TO FRIGGIN TIE HIS SHOE!

So yes, i think they like to toture us. I cant wait til i get to the point of not thinking about it, and than he just surpises me and ask. Hmmmm, i hope i can get to that point soon

 

[pluck15]

Oh my gosh Jessie, I think my heart would''ve stopped and my stomach would''ve sank if J said something like that and then bent over into something resembling the "proposal position"!!

 

[Jessie702]

Trust me.....It did....i was so angry/depressed/taken back. Im like that so not cool

 

[southhorizon]

We were going away last weekend and even though I didn''t think the proposal would be then, I know it will be soon and part of me was hoping he may surprise me that weekend. SO told me that he had booked us into a fabulous restaurant so I was quite excited (I''m a real foodie). Anwyay, late on Saturday, the restaurant booking fell through (because SO had left it till the last minute and they hadn''t actually confirmed a reservation but had said they would try to get us a table but in the end they couldn''t). And SO didn''t have a plan B

. I was pretty annoyed, mainly because I had been asking for weeks if he wanted me to organise the restaurant and he said he would, but my annoyance was definitely exacerbated by the fact that there was a little part of me that thought he might propose there as it''s a gorgeous place but it was pretty obvious by that point that it wasn''t going to happen. Anyway, I managed to keep myself in check and the concierge got us a booking at a great restaurant. So by this stage, I know there is not going to be a proposal and am determined to just enjoy the evening. Then, just after we sit down for dinner, SO says "Should I get down on my knees and draw lots of attention to you?". To which I just laughed. And then the conversation just moved on. Talk about an emotional roller coaster ride.

Then this week, we met for coffee at lunch the other day then went for a walk. We walked past a Tiffanys store and he says let''s go in. He meanders around and then over to the engagement rings and comments on a few of the rings. SA comes up and asks if he can help and SO says "No, I''m just teasing her". And then we leave

. He did apologise afterwards saying it was mean

So, I will tell you should just relax and enjoy the weekend (but secretly send you lots of DUST just in case).

 

[ckrickett]

torture is in there genes.

mine has done it several times here let me tell you the 2 most frustrating times.

A- SO calls me into the kitchen saying he has a suprise, I go over and he has written "will you marry me" in magnet letters on the fridge, my heart skips a beat until he starts laughing and walks away!

B- We are in the office playing around on our opposite computers (me on PS him on some other guy site) anyways I look over and he is gone, weird he nevers leaves the computer, I turn around and then I see out of the corner of my eye him coming into the room with his hand behind his back, he gets on one knee and just looks at me, my heart stops he opens it and viola, its an old box with an old pair of costume earrings. (I had in my closet and forgot about)

UGH boys!!!

 

[Erinleigh]

Boys are so mean... But for some reason we still put up with them. Maybe it's because one day they might actually stop being jerks and give us nice sparkly things, lol! Ff and I have been talking about our future wedding/honeymoon SO much lately, Im looking forward to when it's all actually real!

 

[Nomsdeplume]

Date: 8/26/2009 5:34:43 PM
Author: Jessie702
I completely understand. C does it to me all that time. Like when we were on my Bday trip, he kept saying'' i cant wait till we''re married'' or my favorite'' when we are married we can do this, this and this'' or my favorite'' what dress or colours do you want'' I think they all secertly know each other and try to firgure out ways to drive us insane. For example, Once, ive already posted this but, we were out, and this is what he said'' I love you so much and cant wait to marry you'' he than bends over and he ...TIES HIS SHOE! HE SAID ALL OF THAT TO FRIGGIN TIE HIS SHOE!

So yes, i think they like to toture us. I cant wait til i get to the point of not thinking about it, and than he just surpises me and ask. Hmmmm, i hope i can get to that point soon

Ahhhhh!!!!

That is SO uncool! He tied his shoe? And I suppose he thought it was funny?

Men!

 

[Winks_Elf]

Date: 8/26/2009 9:42:32 PM
Author: ckrickett
torture is in there genes.

mine has done it several times here let me tell you the 2 most frustrating times.


A- SO calls me into the kitchen saying he has a suprise, I go over and he has written ''will you marry me'' in magnet letters on the fridge, my heart skips a beat until he starts laughing and walks away!

B- We are in the office playing around on our opposite computers (me on PS him on some other guy site) anyways I look over and he is gone, weird he nevers leaves the computer, I turn around and then I see out of the corner of my eye him coming into the room with his hand behind his back, he gets on one knee and just looks at me, my heart stops he opens it and viola, its an old box with an old pair of costume earrings. (I had in my closet and forgot about)

UGH boys!!!

OMG I would seriously have to hurt him! That''s just cruel.

 

[ckrickett]

I know I know, I wish he saw it that way. We watched the office alot and he saw how Jim was teasing pam and he thought it was cute.
It''s not cure IRL, not at ALL! (well the first time maybe not the 5th 6th 7th)

and all the ways he did it were such neat ways to do it too!

 

[iluvbooks]

Goodness!

I totally know what all of you are going through. Guys love to torture us big time!

Yet we still love them sooooo much!

My BF told me last July (a year ago) that he was going to ask me to be his wife. My friend said that that was his way of feeling out whether I would say yes or no. Of course I would say yes!!!

At this past spring, he told me that we would look at rings. Then at the beginning of the summer he told me to get out there and get an idea for what I like. Then we would go looking together. So we went on June 30th and looked at my selections. He was a bundle of nerves!

We did make a selection. He said that I would receive the proposal between that time and my birthday (Nov. 8th). Then he said sooner rather than later. Then he said it would probably be on my b-day. Mind you, all of this was what he said that night. We will see....

If guys would just get it over with then everyone could get to the super fun part! Alas. slow and painful is the way of men!