Is this REALLY rude or is it just me (VENTING!)

[MelissaSue]

OK. So the past two years we have invited my FIs family over for Thanksgiving, with my family.. last year my sister had it at her house, this year it was at my parents house. It has gone really well and everyone gets along really well. So, at Thanksgiving this year my sister invited FIs family over for Christmas Eve at her house. I thought it was really nice... apparently my mother doesnt think they should have been invited... but thats not the point.. FI has come over there with me every year since we''ve been together, so its not like his family does anything on Christmas Eve, and we are planning on spending most of Christmas Day at thier house.. so Christmas Day is thier big family Day.. Anyway.. they''ve known they''ve been invited since thanksgiving.. I''ve been nagging FI to find out if they were coming for the past week, and he wouldn''t get an answer, so I told my sister to just order the food for all of them. ANYWAY.. He finally asks his mom today.. and she says she DOESN"T KNOW IF THEY ARE COMING OR NOT and that she wants to talk to his dad.. Its 4 days away! I seriously am about to flip out. I just think it is incredibly rude. If they don''t want to come.. FINE.. but they could have told us that a week ago.. (or 3 weeks ago).. not let it go for weeks and then say they don''t know..
and when I get angry about this.. I think of the fact that I STILL DON''T HAVE THIER SIDE OF THE GUEST LIST! And I am ordering invitations in JANUARY!

 

[dani13]

No, Melissa Sue, I totally agree with you. I would be pissed off too. It was so nice of your sister to extend the invitation to them, and they still haven''t given an answer??? It is rude and inconsiderate. And they are taking major advantage....

 

[Kaleigh]

I think it''s rude too. Your sister was more than kind to include them. The least they could have done was tell your FI if they were planning on attending or not. What a pain. Seems like they have enjoyed being included in the past, so this probably came as a bit of a surprise?? And the guest list not being done is rude as well. Good luck, hope it all works out. I''d be mad also.

 

[MelissaSue]

*sigh* yeah. I guess they have decided they are coming now. So I am relieved.. I had actually told my sister to just plan on them coming when I hadn''t gotten an answer so I was getting really upset when I was thinking that they weren''t going to. I just don''t understand why it took them so long to decide. I think that it was either A)My FIs mom wanted to have her own "thing" but thats weird because they probably wouldn''t do anything anyway since FI will be with me on christmas eve. or B) (Which I think is really the case) they may feel awkward about gifts etc.. which I can understand.. I don''t want them to feel obligated to buy gifts for my parents, or especially my sister (they usually buy little gifts for her kids, because his mom likes to..)

I have calmed down now that I know they are coming.. but christmas time is so stressful.. and it was just such an added stress having them being so on the fence..

 

[LollyBear]

Rude, tacky, and extremely inconsiderate!
I think it's a problem that many FMILs suffer from. Not only was it an ordeal to get a guest list from my MIL, when I did it was incompete.

To top it all off, she never RSVP'd for my Bridal Shower or the Wedding!
She then had the nerve to harrass me about Thank You cards the DAY we returned from our mini-moon.

I don't think I'll ever understand her.