Is this weird?

[Angela1977]

I''m just a posting fool today...

Kalispera responded to my previous post about my ring arriving that she didn''t know how I was staying so calm knowing that he had it and I think I figured out why I''m not TOO anxious to actually get the ring.

It''s been so amazing seeing him go through this process of picking out the ring. He''s put so much thought into it. He''s been so careful because he wants me to be so happy. He''s even said he wants to make my friends jealous

. He''s just so proud of me, of us, and this whole thing, and I wouldn''t have wanted to miss seeing this whole thing (there''s no WAY I would''ve wanted the suprise proposal...it would''ve been to shame to NOT see this!)

I''m going to be sad when it''s over. I LOVE this feeling of anticipation. I LOVE talking about it with him. I LOVE him being so excited about what he''s doing. He''s been so sweet and so cute about all of this...I know he''s not going to stop being all of these things, but it''s just been an amazing time. I know we''ll be starting another amazing time, but I''m really just trying to enjoy this while it lasts. I know I''ve only got, at most, a few weeks of it left, and then things will move on to something different, so I''m just trying to sit back and relish it. Does that make sense? Am I weird? I mean, part of me is actually HOPING he takes his time giving it to me just so I can wonder about it a little longer...

 

[anchor31]

I don''t think you''re weird at all!! I know my proposal is inching closer too (next summer) and it''s been so much fun talking about this and shopping and everything (since November!!)... It''s such an exciting, happy time in our relationship right now. I get giddy and giggly every time I think about it, and my dear boyfriend (bless him) is so excited he tells everyone! As much as I CAN''T WAIT to be engaged to the most wonderful man in my life, deep down I know I don''t want this to be over. I tell myself that moving forward can be fun too, and the next step will be just as exciting, and it helps a little.

 

[stermag]

Angela, I like your outlook. It may well prove inspirational to other LIW''s. After all, this time is unique... and when it''s over, it''s over... it''s important to find a way to enjoy each phase of our lives and relationships.

Kudos to you, I say.

 

[Angela1977]

Thanks Stermag. I just read about everyone dying to get their rings (and I completely understand!!! Part of me wants the bling too!

), and I''m sitting here just hoping maybe now that he HAS it, we can just sit back and enjoy THIS phase for a while. We''re never going to get this back...once I have it, I have it. There''s no more anticipation of getting it. Not saying I want it to go on forever, but I also don''t want to rush it because I''ll never have this particular feeling ever again.

 

[squeaksluv]

Date: 3/30/2006 12:02:28 PM
Author: Angela1977
Thanks Stermag. I just read about everyone dying to get their rings (and I completely understand!!! Part of me wants the bling too!

), and I''m sitting here just hoping maybe now that he HAS it, we can just sit back and enjoy THIS phase for a while. We''re never going to get this back...once I have it, I have it. There''s no more anticipation of getting it. Not saying I want it to go on forever, but I also don''t want to rush it because I''ll never have this particular feeling ever again.

Wow, that is such a good point! It''s true, the excitement of leading up to the whole proposal is amazing and unique! I know it''s coming, of course mine will be a total surprise because I have no idea what to expect but knowing my bf it''ll be something beautiful (he''s got great taste, he picked me didn''t he?? LOL!!!

).
Seriously though, that is really a great outlook to have and one I am aspiring to, thanks!

 

[BlueEyes81]

Angela,
I completely understand what you''re saying about not being in a hurry because he now has the ring. I felt that way two weeks ago too. It''s so exciting knowing that it could happen any day! But now, after only two weeks, it''s driving me crazy. I want it to be official! I''m trying not to push because he may have a special proposal planned, but he keeps saying he has nothing special planned yet, so I just want to say, "THEN DO IT!"

I hope you enjoy the anticipation, and don''t get tired of it as quickly as I have. I mean, I''m still enjoying it, but every minute I''m thinking about it. If he leaves the room for a minute, I start wondering if he''s getting ready to propose. It''s really crazy, but fun!

 

[FireGoddess]

Don''t fret- planning the wedding can be romantic and fun...for the most part!

 

[Angela1977]

We''re going away to do it...so, it will be pretty easy to plan. One of the all-inclusive deals, and then we''re going to have a small "reception" once we get back. I didn''t want to get bogged down in all of the "traditional" wedding planning...I just wanted to do it and have fun. I couldn''t imagine obsessing for months over cakes and flowers and dresses for attendants and tuxedos and food and limos and shoes and churches, etc. I wanted it to be stress free so I could concentrate on the actual wedding itself (the fact that I''m going to marry him and I get to be his wife and build a life with him) and planning our lives AFTER the wedding. I just don''t think I could devote as much time to the relationship and what the wedding actually MEANS if I was getting bogged down in details...so the ''running off to do it'' works for me. I admire you ladies who CAN do that...the men with the butterfly nets would be knocking on the door hauling me off to a nice white padded room somewhere!

 

[InLuvWithMrH]

I am happy to hear you are enjoying this time..it should be fun and exciting! I have "enjoyed" this time too...for the past year! It will be nice though to talk about my wedding, which is pretty much planned out as well, and have someone look down and finally see a ring on my finger...like it really IS going to happen! MrH has already referred to me as his fiancee (that sounds so nice), but we both know it sounds more official with a ring to complete the picture!

 

[icekid]

I really enjoyed the pre-engagement anticipation too! It was so exciting, and waiting for the ring....!! Of course, I think the wedding will be fun as well.

Enjoy it... I try never to wish time away, b/c being at this stage is such a precious gift

 

[Rhapsody]

For me, Christmas Eve was always more exciting than Christmas. The anticipation was almost better than the event itself.

A lot of girls on here say they want to be officially engaged so they can "officially" start planning their weddings and not feel like whack jobs for dress shopping without being engaged. But, like you, my boyfriend and I are eloping because we don't want to stress of a wedding and I think maybe that helps in not being as concerned that the engagement happen ASAP.

My boyfriend picked the ring up Feb 4, exactly 8 weeks ago tomorrow at 8:30

and although the first 4 weeks I was enjoying the anticipation, I'm over it now

But I know he has something planned so I do my best not to bring it up and let him do his thing. It would be easier if the ring weren't sitting in front of my face though. I must not peek I must not peek

It is a time to enjoy and it has been wonderful. I hope you don't have to wait TOO long though!

 

[ilovesparkles]

WOW, your take on the whole situation and attitude is so admirable! I hope that when ring hsopping starts for us, I can be as calm as you are and truly enjoy each moment and not rush through it. However, that is advice I should take right now!

 

[moon river]

Date: 3/30/2006 9:01:00 PM
Author: Rhapsody
For me, Christmas Eve was always more exciting than Christmas. The anticipation was almost better than the event itself.

A lot of girls on here say they want to be officially engaged so they can ''officially'' start planning their weddings and not feel like whack jobs for dress shopping without being engaged. But, like you, my boyfriend and I are eloping because we don''t want to stress of a wedding and I think maybe that helps in not being as concerned that the engagement happen ASAP.

My boyfriend picked the ring up Feb 4, exactly 8 weeks ago tomorrow at 8:30

and although the first 4 weeks I was enjoying the anticipation, I''m over it now

But I know he has something planned so I do my best not to bring it up and let him do his thing. It would be easier if the ring weren''t sitting in front of my face though. I must not peek I must not peek

It is a time to enjoy and it has been wonderful. I hope you don''t have to wait TOO long though!

I''m the same way. Anticipation is better than the event. I''ve alway loved Christmas Eve best.

 

[Angela1977]

Yeah, I have to concur on the Christmas Eve/Christmas analogy. The Christmas lights loose their luster, etc.

But I''m safe. There was no ring this weekend. We were too busy for any of that! I really have a gut feeling about this weekend. He''s having a satin finish put on the ring, and I know it''s down in his car right now. He actually had the finish put on it last week, but he wasn''t happy with it. So he''s taking it another jeweler today. So then the ring will be ready for "giving". I''m not rushing it, like I said. It''s just hard to make/suggest plans because I don''t know what he has planned. For instance, there''s this Italian street festival this weekend downtown, and I''d really like to go but when I suggested it, he seemed semi-enthusiastic. Normally, this is something he''d jump on. So I don''t know whether it''s because we''re both dead tired (we had TERRIBLE storms here last night, and throughout the weekend, we''d gotten very little sleep...couple that with Daylight Savings, and we''re hurting this morning) or whether I''m impeding on some sort of plan he''s got *sigh* THIS is the part I don''t like.

It''s still pretty exciting though. I am getting a manicure/pedicure Saturday morning though. 2 reasons...1, just because I really need them (I bought awesome sandals this past weekend!) and 2...well, just in case.